Why does this lovely mom want to be MY friend?

[Millenialmom]

No drip feed, I have general and social anxiety, recovering from an ED and body dysmorphia, am just not very good making friends.

my DD went to a nice primary and is now y8 secondary. Got on okay with moms to talk to at gates etc but never socialised outside of school run/play dates/parties.

fast forward DS is now starting at the same primary and DD is y8 at new secondary with most of her primary friends.

One of the moms I’ve know since DDs reception (so 8 years) never socialised with is now suggesting coffee meets, popping into hers after school run, texting me asking how DS’s first day went and chit chat. Generally being interested and lovely.

i just can’t fathom why she wants to be my friend. She is gorgeous, kind, confident, friendly, down to earth, a wonderful mom of 3. But not the over the top PTA mom either. The mom I’ve always envied actually and even mentioned her in my therapy.

AIBU to put off a coffee meet and wonder why she would want that? She must have so many mom friends and her own friendship circle.

Side note I’ve helped out with picking her DD up from secondary but usually spur of the moment not pre planned. The girls meet for swimming and socialising etc. Have shared lifts for trips etc so one picks up one drops off and she was super helpful in that sense when DS was Born poorly With taking my DD to parties and helping out etc.

I just can’t wrap my head around someone so above me wanting to be my friend basically. Yes. I know I’m over thinking but can someone make it make sense for me?!

Bit of a Zombie thread now, plus a name change but if anyone is interested - she most definitely did have motives and was looking for information. I feel a fool in hind sight but we live and learn.

Are you the OP, Mom2kiddos?

Sorry, ignore me - I failed to read your post properly.

Sorry to hear that! But I still think it was worth giving her a chance when she seemed friendly and harmless.

I am the OP. It turns out she was after information on my child and what was going on with them at the time. (My child had started to talk about maybe being trans. They are very against and now have nothing to do with any of us since my daughter cut her hair and is presenting more male). I didn’t go into it with her at the time but she and her children now blank us all. Her daughter (friends with mine since receoptiom to y8 - sleepovers and all even asked to be moved in all classes to not sit near my child).

What kind of information could you possibly have possessed that was so valuable it merited a friendship campaign?

@Gurthnamuckla see above. Was a bit like we were being vetted.

Well that's disappointing OP, but please don't let it spoil some of the good advice you received on here about knowing your worth and not placing yourself 'below' people.

Thank you @Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice i am in a bit of a stronger place mentally and getting on well with the lovely reception moms now DS is at school which is helping. X

That's really sad. I hate it when people confirm my lack of faith in humanity 😞

Im sure she is lovely, but it sounds like you put yourself down, and put others on a pedestal. Why wouldn't she like you? Why so mistrustful?

I am so sorry OP.
What an ugly person.
I hope your child is well.
It is a transition for the whole family and can be very painful.
My dear friends child is going trough it and she and her husband are trying their level best to be positive but finding the idea of their big rugby playing son to be trans very difficult.
They worry for his future and not wanting him to be hurt.
Forget about her and mind yourself.