Is there is no way for him to turn his life around?

[GamerProblem]

Watching this situation with absolute despair and no idea what can be done.

He is 30 years old.

No job, no income, no real friends, virtually no qualifications, no motivation to do anything.

He plays video games every single day without a break until the early hours of the morning. It has been 3.5 years.

Says he’s too depressed to do anything, despite therapy and medication. Gets upset and aggressive when his family ask how they can help get him out of this rut.

How on earth can this situation be turned around??

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There are definitely ways to move forwards, but he has to want to.

One thing to remember, is that action comes before motivation. You basically have to force yourself (with support) to get up and do things, before you start feeling motivated. Motivation is rarely going to arrive on its own.

If he would do it, I would think that a behavioural activation CBT course would be helpful. And I wonder if there is something he's motivated to do - it doesn't have to be getting a job, maybe something like a games convention or hobby club where he can meet people? He needs a reason for getting a routine and getting up and doing things.

I wonder if the parents can access a carers support group? They might find it helpful to talk to people in similar situations.

I can understand the attraction of these MMORPG games in a way. An excellent escape from the difficulties of living, especially for younger people. They also get to socialise with their peers in the game. I might be tempted to join them.

What a sad way to live. He needs tough love. He has money, so he needs to be given a deadline to find a flat or house share. Parents can help with the search. Then he’ll sink or swim on his own. At 30, he has to get out of that house.

That is the most ridiculous thing I’ve heard. He’s depressed , not an unruly 12 year old

It's not so easy to find a flat or house share at the moment, even with money. Landlords get dozens of applications so those with stable jobs will be at the front of the queue.

This is what i was going to say, Research has shown Gaming changes how your brain works exactly like drugs

Problem is this is a 30 year old man with legal capacity who can’t be forced to do anything, assessments etc, let alone an enforced bedtime routine. He has to want to do it and after 3.5 years (which is a long time), he clearly won’t unless he’s put in a situation where he’s forced to himself by kicking him out of his comfort zone.

It’s often less mentally draining to give support from a distance (I.e when they’re living outside of the home).

MrsSlocombe who will look after him in future? Or do you think he'll find his way to independent living?

Yeah I'd agree.
The parents are enabling the situation to continue.

Yes or change the password and he has to earn it each day when he has showered, down a couple of chores, been out for a walk and been polite to his parents

I think the technical term for this in young adults is "failure to launch". The author of this book is doing research on how to get boomerang children to be independent:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Free-Child-Anxiety-Scientifically/dp/0190883529/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3EM3KNTOH0N1S&keywords=breaking+free+of+child+anxiety+and+ocd&qid=1694817305&sprefix=breaking+free+of%2Caps%2C217&sr=8-1

His parents are enabling him. Hes too comfortable. Finding his belongings outside and the locks changed might just concentrate his mind