To ask what’s the worse date you have been on?

Blueicepop · 2023-09-10T21:42:15+00:00

Any one willing to share their worse dating experiences? I have been on a date this weekend and it wasn’t great. He just spoke about himself, didn’t ask me any questions and for some reason kept mentioning his ex. I just like giving up with OLD!

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Blueicepop · 10/09/2023 22:42

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FatFilledTrottyPuss · 10/09/2023 23:06

Years and years ago I went round to a boys house thinking we were having lunch. We chatted in the kitchen while he made an omelette and i accidentally stood on the cats paw, the cat stood there hissing at me and the Great Dane leant on me trapping me in the corner growing. I think his mum shoe’d the dog away. Then we went into the living room and my supposed love interest just sat down and ate his omelette without offering me so much as a drink! Needless to say we did not end up as any more than friends!

Fourlegsandatail · 10/09/2023 23:10

A friend of mine had a date with a guy she had met online. He turned up with his previous night’s date as they ‘didn’t want their date to end’.

SM4713 · 10/09/2023 23:15

I worked in a busy office with multiple public and clients visiting. I had a conversation with a rather strapping man my age. An hour or so later I went lunch and when I returned, a colleague said that a man left his number for me. I called the number that night, we chatted for a while and arranged to meet up.

I turned up to the restaurant to suddenly realise that it wasn't the young guy I'd thought it was, but a much older man who had also been in the office the same day! 😬

SarahAndQuack · 10/09/2023 23:25

When I'd recently started a new job, I went for coffee with a new colleague who proceeded to spent half an hour 'joking' about how under-qualified I was, how awful my work was, how silly I was to think I'd keep the job, etc. etc. He also boasted about his own work. Naturally I made a metal note that he was an utter arse and steered well clear thereafter.

I only found out much later that he'd understood this event as a 'date'. The mind boggles!

Fightyouforthatpie · 10/09/2023 23:28

Worse than what?

thiswasabadone · 10/09/2023 23:34

Had to NC for this one

I'll try and keep it brief

Met a guy in a nightclub

Week later he picked me up for a 45 minute drive to some fancy restaurant

On his second mouthful of steak he began to choke, I just stared at him. People started looking and two waiters came over. By the time they got to the table he threw up all over his plate, himself and majority of the table.

He then ran off to the toilet.

The waiters cleaned everything and got me a cocktail while I waited.

Everyone was looking. Took him about half hour to come back

He then said while covered in sick he will have another steak and said to me ' why haven't you eaten yours it will be cold now'. ( uhhh maybe because there's sick on my plate) . I said it's probably best if we leave.

He then insisted on getting another steak to go.

I couldn't leave i had no money for a taxi.

We got in the car and the car stunk due to his sick. He took off his shirt and flung it in the back.

It was the longest 45 minute drive of my life. We pulled up outside my house and he went for the kiss. I nearly died and managed to swerve it and said I don't kiss on first dates and left the car.

He sent me roses the next day, no apology and rang and text me several times for a few days which I didn't answer too before he got the message

It was my worst date ever

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/09/2023 23:50

Fourlegsandatail · 10/09/2023 23:10

A friend of mine had a date with a guy she had met online. He turned up with his previous night’s date as they ‘didn’t want their date to end’.

What? Why didn't he cancel the date?

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/09/2023 23:52

@thiswasabadone that's terrible! However, I don't think anyone should go on a date without the money to get home again. That's quite frightening really.

Rainbow1612 · 10/09/2023 23:54

thiswasabadone · 10/09/2023 23:34

Had to NC for this one

I'll try and keep it brief

Met a guy in a nightclub

Week later he picked me up for a 45 minute drive to some fancy restaurant

On his second mouthful of steak he began to choke, I just stared at him. People started looking and two waiters came over. By the time they got to the table he threw up all over his plate, himself and majority of the table.

He then ran off to the toilet.

The waiters cleaned everything and got me a cocktail while I waited.

Everyone was looking. Took him about half hour to come back

He then said while covered in sick he will have another steak and said to me ' why haven't you eaten yours it will be cold now'. ( uhhh maybe because there's sick on my plate) . I said it's probably best if we leave.

He then insisted on getting another steak to go.

I couldn't leave i had no money for a taxi.

We got in the car and the car stunk due to his sick. He took off his shirt and flung it in the back.

It was the longest 45 minute drive of my life. We pulled up outside my house and he went for the kiss. I nearly died and managed to swerve it and said I don't kiss on first dates and left the car.

He sent me roses the next day, no apology and rang and text me several times for a few days which I didn't answer too before he got the message

It was my worst date ever

Apology for what? Choking?

thiswasabadone · 10/09/2023 23:55

determinedtomakethiswork · 10/09/2023 23:52

@thiswasabadone that's terrible! However, I don't think anyone should go on a date without the money to get home again. That's quite frightening really.

Unfortunately I didn't know there wouldn't be a cash point available. If I knew you didn't have to pay upfront at the time like I do in my home country then I would have been fine

thiswasabadone · 10/09/2023 23:56

@Rainbow1612

Apology for trying to kiss me (it was more than one attempt) Woman can say no believe it or not

JennyForeigner · 10/09/2023 23:58

One I didn't know I was going on. I had to go to the Dead Sea for work. A very distant colleague had met me once and told my boss he would like to take me out while on the same project.

He booked into the hotel room next to me and was... just awful. Persistent and just so annoying. The kind of annoying that is unbearable, like a tinnitus of horror when they are in the same room, or worse, coughing and snorting the other side of a shared connecting door when YOU REALLY DON'T WANT THEM TO BE.

I have memories of going for a swim and seeing him on the beach so I tried and tried to swim away, but couldn't get anywhere because it was the Dead Sea.

The one who didn't want his other date to end still wins though.

Spinkey · 11/09/2023 00:09

I tried OLD many years ago before I met DH. Lots of men whose photos weren’t accurate! It was just awkward when they turned up with deal breaker physical features. One guy ditched me after he took me to a pizza place and I ordered salad due to food allergies (he said he couldn’t date someone who was allergic to pizza and walked out).

Then there was the guy who criticised me for choosing vanilla ice cream, repeatedly saying “there’s loads more interesting options”. Huge red flag that he couldn’t just let me pick what I wanted. No doubt he tells people about this awful date with a boring girl who he took to a place with 50 types of ice cream and she chose vanilla!

DiscoBeat · 11/09/2023 00:21

I went on a first (and only!) date with a man who said he was looking for someone to mother him. I went to the restroom and found a big window wide open on the way. Too tempting! I climbed out and never saw him again.

Wowokthanks · 11/09/2023 00:37

One date I needed rescuing from...
Pub date, I thought, 1 or 2 drinks, except he wanted to get me plastered. He started getting aggressive, and some random man got involved and got me out of the pub and walked me to the nearest taxi rank

Holidayhouse1010 · 11/09/2023 00:49

Not me but a friend went on a date with an undertaker. We were all excited because goth. Alas, they got to the meal and he cut his sausage and mash up then mixed it together on his plate. There was no 2nd date.

JMSA · 11/09/2023 00:56

A guy who was much older than his photos and had a full arm's length tattoo of his dead grandfather.

I mean, he was nice enough (the date, not the grandad ) - just not for me.

VeniVidiWeeWee · 11/09/2023 00:59

Holidayhouse1010 · 11/09/2023 00:49

Not me but a friend went on a date with an undertaker. We were all excited because goth. Alas, they got to the meal and he cut his sausage and mash up then mixed it together on his plate. There was no 2nd date.

And this is wrong in what way?

MintJulia · 11/09/2023 01:15

I went on a date with someone, we ordered food and he was very specific in his order for plain grilled chicken.
So I asked if he avoided all red meat - thinking it was a health/diet thing, and he said 'oh, I only eat chicken' and that is what he meant. He didn't eat red meat, pork, fish or vegetarian. Just chicken! Every single day!

ChaChaRealSmooth · 11/09/2023 01:28

During dinner he turned the conversation to murder and talked about how if he was going to kill me he would chop up my body and send the pieces to random people in the yellow pages.

Financiallyopposite · 11/09/2023 01:32

When I split up with my ex my (male) friend set me up on a date with another guy in our friendship group who had always been lurking around me as if he was waiting for me to be single. We'd never really spoken beyond pleasantries though, a very odd situation.
Anyway the date was awful, it was like an interview he was so dull I just kept drinking. Despite us being only mid twenties it became very clear he was looking for a partner to take on the role of his mother too. I drank my way through the date and he dropped me home afterwards. He texted me relentlessly for weeks and I just ignored him. I'm still in the same friendship group so I awkwardly see him every time we do anything as a group. I'm with my partner of 8 years and he's single but has probably been on at least 100 first dates and had numerous short term girlfriends, often a lot younger than him.

Labradeedle · 11/09/2023 01:32

One morning when I was 16 my 19yo boyfriend pulled into my driveway and said he was there to surprise me and we'd go out. Exciting .. I rushed around to get ready!
Once in the car we went to his former workplace (he'd just started a new job), hitched up a trailer of rubbish and went to the rubbish dump where I sat in the car while he dumped the trailer load.
Then he said he needed to swing by his new job to get some paperwork so I sat in the car again. He came out 30 mins later saying he'd just been fired.
We went to his house and made incredibly awkward conversation with his mum who was furious about him being fired. Then he dropped me home to a grounding (my only one ever!) from my parents who had no idea where I'd gone.

coxesorangepippin · 11/09/2023 01:34

I have memories of going for a swim and seeing him on the beach so I tried and tried to swim away, but couldn't get anywhere because it was the Dead Sea.

^

😅

NoSun · 11/09/2023 01:42

The date itself was fine ! We met on a dating app, spoke for a few weeks before arranging first date, nice restaurant, few drinks, all good..
The aftermath however, it turns out it was all a lie, his accent (he was born and bred in our city but put on a fake accent and told me he was from Kent ), the car he picked me up in (borrowed from a friend), his job, where he lived, oh and the fact that he was single.
I discovered all of this when his girlfriend messaged me asking why I had text her boyfriend 🤦🏼‍♀️
Years later I spotted him in the newspaper as he had murdered someone.
Clearly a very troubled bloke and one massive lucky escape for me!