No OP, YANBU AT ALL!!!!
My dp is like this. I lived alone for years and loved it. We met and eventually he convinced me to move in with him. He was fun, romantic, sexy, but it didn't last long. Didn't take him long to become Verbally, emotionally, and sometimes mildly physically abusive. 10 years I've put up with this, 10 bloody years!!
He doesn't speak to me apart from the obligatory 'how was your day' when he arrives home, then he goes into a long litany of his day, causing my eyeballs to rotate through losing the will to live.
Won't start a discussion unless its about his work, won't suggest a day out now that I can no longer take part in his beloved hobby which gave us days out. Just sits and stares at his pc, and if I speak to him he ignores me, or gives me a 1-2 word answer without taking his eyes off the bloody screen.
We've no dependants, no social life as he won't go out (last meal out was 2 years ago for my birthday). 'Nuffs enough!!
I feel like you OP, unliked and unloved, even though he occasionally grabs and gropes me for a hug or kiss, which I refuse.
However, I've recently received notice of an inheritance from a distant relative, which should be sorted in the next 3 months. I've just spotted a 2 bedroom house tonight for less than £500.00 pm, so I'm on it, first thing monday.
To all those asking the OP why she is still with him, just consider her finances, commitments, and strength to make THAT decision. If it hadn't been for this godsend of some money I'd be stuck with him forever, though that didn't stop me from fantasising ways to escape.
All the best OP, you have my absolute support. 