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To not share my pizza?

151 replies

GoudaMozzarella · 09/09/2023 19:33

Every time we have homemade pizza, DP eats his faster than me and then wants a slice of mine (he always thinks I won't eat it all). Am I being unreasonable to say no? He knows how much I love my pizza. After he sulked when I said no tonight, I did relent and offer him a piece since I wasn't going to finish it but he said he didn't want it anymore and said he's taking the moral highground.
I told him I'm taking it to mumsnet and he told me that I am "going to get battered by the mums". Am I being unreasonable to want to keep my pizza for myself?

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noodlezoodle · 09/09/2023 22:26

If my husband tried that he'd be in for a serious case of fork hand.

If you can't finish it then it's fine for him to ask, but not when you're still eating!

Mr Gouda you are a greedy fucker and it's excellent seeing YOU getting battered by mumsnet. And no you may not have an extra piece of batter.

Iheartpizza · 09/09/2023 22:39

God I would be so angry if my husband did this - not that he would, he has manners.

Yours sounds like a greedy pig. He needs to back the fuck off!

Goldbar · 09/09/2023 23:28

jlpth · 09/09/2023 20:26

Why don’t you just cook enough food? If you cooked another pizza, it’d keep in the fridge.

Men do need more calories than women and nobody likes being left gagging for more.

A pizza dinner usually contains so many calories that the respective calorie requirements of men as opposed to women tend to be irrelevant.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 10/09/2023 00:52

JustAnotherUsey · 09/09/2023 19:40

It's more the greedy eyes on your food when theirs is finished. Hate that

Exactly.

He needs to make the amount of food he actually wands rather than eying up yours. Greedy git.

You don’t try for someone else’s food before they’ve clearly stopped eating.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 10/09/2023 00:53

Goldbar · 09/09/2023 23:28

A pizza dinner usually contains so many calories that the respective calorie requirements of men as opposed to women tend to be irrelevant.

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HE should be thinking about cooking more for himself, not the OP

Therealjudgejudy · 10/09/2023 01:28

Hes greedy and a sulker. Gross

Blough · 10/09/2023 09:26

OP not bothered to reply?

INeedAnotherName · 10/09/2023 10:52

Blough · 10/09/2023 09:26

OP not bothered to reply?

I think OP and her DH thought this would be a light hearted and fun little thread with lots of jokes and puns from posters.

I don't think she realised that her DH was showing controlling behaviour, and he won't have been impressed that his "shame" was out there if he read this thread. I really hope she told him nobody answered.

lottiegarbanzo · 10/09/2023 11:40

I think OP and her DH live in a world in which men are assumed to be more important than women. Women can get irritated about little things and seek to resolve those in an eye-rolling 'isn't he a greedy guts!' sort of way, even get angry briefly, within 'their' domestic sphere but always conclude with 'aw bless him' and give in to his wishes, because you know, he's a boy.

They didn't realise that we don't all think like that or live like that.

And he is a boy, a petulant man-child, with his sulking. He needs to grow up and recognise that manipulative behaviour in an adult man is very different thing, with different implications, from strops and sulking with your parents as a child. And you're not his mum. Yuck.

CrazyHamsterLady · 10/09/2023 11:44

DH usually gets offered the rest of mine once I’m done. However, the key word here is offered. He doesn’t just take it as I might want it all.

ShadyPaws · 10/09/2023 11:47

I don't share pizza. It's my favourite food
Someone once posted on here about being woken up and offered pizza and was cross and I was Confused there is never a wrong time to offer me pizza

Thepossibility · 10/09/2023 12:13

He thinks he has the moral high ground because you didn't immediately throw your pizza at him as soon as he requested it? Bloody hell.

Dolores87 · 10/09/2023 12:16

He is completely unreasonable. Ok to have a slice if you have actually finished and it's left over but he can't just demand a slice of your dinner.

Janieforever · 10/09/2023 12:21

That’s very entitled and rude of him. If he needs to eat more, either through hunger or greed, then buy himself a bigger pizza.

he should wait until you’re finished and if you’ve left any and don’t want it the next day he can ask or you offer, but asking for your food whilst you’re eating it is rude greedy and entitled.

Janieforever · 10/09/2023 12:23

lottiegarbanzo · 10/09/2023 11:40

I think OP and her DH live in a world in which men are assumed to be more important than women. Women can get irritated about little things and seek to resolve those in an eye-rolling 'isn't he a greedy guts!' sort of way, even get angry briefly, within 'their' domestic sphere but always conclude with 'aw bless him' and give in to his wishes, because you know, he's a boy.

They didn't realise that we don't all think like that or live like that.

And he is a boy, a petulant man-child, with his sulking. He needs to grow up and recognise that manipulative behaviour in an adult man is very different thing, with different implications, from strops and sulking with your parents as a child. And you're not his mum. Yuck.

Oh and the women couldn’t possibly eat a whole pizza nonsense.

BarnacleBeasley · 10/09/2023 12:32

DP and I are both women and I am much greedier than her, so I can see OP's DH's point of view. If OP never finishes her pizza, then of course he doesn't think she's going to finish it, and it would be nicer for him to eat it while it's hot rather than wait until it's cold. Also, for those saying he shouldn't just take it - he doesn't! He asked.

We put all the pizza in the middle and help ourselves rather than having one each. However, there are toppings DP likes better and I would always negotiate before eating 'her' pizza in case she was planning to eat it. From the perspective of the greedier partner, it's helpful to know how much you're going to get to have before the end of the meal so you can also pace your wine and salad consumption. But if she's not sure, then she can say so and that's fine.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 10/09/2023 12:35

It’s vulgar to steal other people’s food, or even to ask for it. He’s greedy and rude.

CornedBeef451 · 10/09/2023 12:50

We have had to implement a new rule that your pizza is your pizza, whether you eat it at the mealtime or choose to save it for tomorrow.

You may only eat someone else's pizza if given explicit permission by said pizza owner, no assumption of permission is allowed even if you think they are not going to eat it.

This was because DH once ate his entire pizza, hand made from scratch by me, and then the next morning ate ALL the leftover pizza that the DCs were keeping for breakfast/lunch.

There was an uproar and a brief period of labelling food before they talked it out and now we have leftover discussions quite often.

So your DH is greedy and he should leave your pizza alone!

INeedAnotherName · 10/09/2023 12:58

Fuck me Barnacle..you readily admit to this?

From the perspective of the greedier partner, it's helpful to know how much you're going to get to have before the end of the meal so you can also pace your wine and salad consumption.
Its her food , stop being a greedy controlling cf. Think about your own behaviour rather than your partner's food.

then of course he doesn't think she's going to finish it, and it would be nicer for him to eat it while it's hot rather than wait until it's cold.
Microwaves exist.

QueenBitch666 · 10/09/2023 13:04

He'd get in fork in his hand if he touched my grub Grin

WhamBamThankU · 10/09/2023 13:05

INeedAnotherName · 10/09/2023 12:58

Fuck me Barnacle..you readily admit to this?

From the perspective of the greedier partner, it's helpful to know how much you're going to get to have before the end of the meal so you can also pace your wine and salad consumption.
Its her food , stop being a greedy controlling cf. Think about your own behaviour rather than your partner's food.

then of course he doesn't think she's going to finish it, and it would be nicer for him to eat it while it's hot rather than wait until it's cold.
Microwaves exist.

I agree.... why would you want to know how much of someone else's food you're going to get?!! That is beyond greedy.

Haveallthesongsbeenwritten · 10/09/2023 13:08

He sounds like a child to be honest.

ScribblingPixie · 10/09/2023 13:08

Homemade pizza? No way. Anything I can't eat goes into the fridge for my lunch next day. Too delicious to give away.

pinkyredrose · 10/09/2023 13:20

Thegoodbadandugly · 09/09/2023 21:04

You both sound about the age of 5, him for nicking your pizza and you for telling him your running onto a parenting forum to tell everyone, maybe you should both grow up.

There wouldn't be many threads on here if people didn't tell us things!

blendedfamly · 10/09/2023 14:42

I'd say "if I don't finish it you can have the leftovers. Tbh your being generous I eat mine cold the next day