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The Titanic

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Whyarethetoyseverywhere · 09/09/2023 11:54

I have a soft spot about the titanic. I think everyone has that one disaster that gets them emotional and that is mine. I’ve done a lot of research about it and I am fed up of seeing people make jokes or referencing it in such a casual way.

The latest, a woman on TikTok who does photography with her children and poses them as Jack and Rose from the movie in water and added fake frost. Regardless of the characters being fictional, it’s still a real story and people were freezing to death and drowning and this woman thought it would make a cute photo to replicate that?!

Theres a song that says ‘going down like the titanic’ but could you imagine if someone said ‘going down like the world trade centre’ in a pop song? There’d be uproar.

AIBU to be sick of people forgetting that it wasn’t just a film and that 1500 people actually died in a horrific disaster and making jokes about it is disgusting?

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eddiemairswife · 09/09/2023 13:56

I thought Titanic was one of the worst films I have ever seen. A much more moving version was A Night to Remember.

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Whyarethetoyseverywhere · 09/09/2023 13:57

There is a difference in dark humour and blatant ignorance. Of course jokes are made about it and other terrible things that happened.

but I’m on about the general attitude towards the titanic sinking. It’s not the odd dark joke, it’s not even jokes at all really now I think about it. It’s the complete lack of acknowledgement by people that it was an actual event that happened with a horrific amount of death.

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OnAMidnightTrainToGeorgia · 09/09/2023 13:58

Lack of acknowledgment? How.....

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Whyarethetoyseverywhere · 09/09/2023 13:58

OnAMidnightTrainToGeorgia · 09/09/2023 13:58

Lack of acknowledgment? How.....

Because people think too much about the film and it’s main characters

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Vegetus · 09/09/2023 13:59

Why? The majority of people who visit the site are scientists not tourists. There's much to learn about it still.

Chippy4me · 09/09/2023 14:01

Lots of children dress up like evacuees or soldiers from the war.

When people take the mick out of it they’re usually taking the mick out of the movie (especially rose taking up the entire door) and so I wouldn’t get upset about it.

I do understand what you’re saying as if you think about it it is insensitive but I think a lot of people use humour to deal with tragic or scary things anyway.

I was really surprised that when America started talking about aliens I thought there would be mass panic.
Instead there were multiple funny memes about them like “are the aliens over 6ft, completely over their ex and have no mummy issues, as I may be interested. Just saying”.

I thought they were hilarious but also really eye opening about people do use humour to cope.

The titanic was so long ago that people do associate the tragedy to something that happened in real life.

TheAOEAztec · 09/09/2023 14:02

It’s the complete lack of acknowledgement by people that it was an actual event that happened with a horrific amount of death.

Because about 690000 more terrible events happened since so they just don't make it sound, sorry for that, that terrible.
There were also bigger ship disasters with bigger death toll since.

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 09/09/2023 14:04

Whyarethetoyseverywhere · 09/09/2023 13:57

There is a difference in dark humour and blatant ignorance. Of course jokes are made about it and other terrible things that happened.

but I’m on about the general attitude towards the titanic sinking. It’s not the odd dark joke, it’s not even jokes at all really now I think about it. It’s the complete lack of acknowledgement by people that it was an actual event that happened with a horrific amount of death.

But the Titanic is just one of millions of horrific events that happened over the course of history.

Nobody is saying it isn't awful, but it was over a hundred years ago now. How long do you want people to mourn it and get emotional for?

JaninaDuszejko · 09/09/2023 14:04

I can understand famous tragedies having resonance years later. We all know about Captain Scott's disastrous attempt at the South Pole for example, there are films, books, memoirs from the expedition etc. They wouldn't still be being made and published if there wasn't the demand for it. And people love disaster movies which is obviously feeding into the same need people have.

TheAOEAztec · 09/09/2023 14:05

I believe that titanic is romanticised by it's "disaster" fans just in different way than by the movie fans. Considering what was happening after, yet people still stick to that like "respect my fave disaster".
Not much better than the movie lovers.

FourFourOne · 09/09/2023 14:07

Whyarethetoyseverywhere · 09/09/2023 13:57

There is a difference in dark humour and blatant ignorance. Of course jokes are made about it and other terrible things that happened.

but I’m on about the general attitude towards the titanic sinking. It’s not the odd dark joke, it’s not even jokes at all really now I think about it. It’s the complete lack of acknowledgement by people that it was an actual event that happened with a horrific amount of death.

What would you like people to do?? It was more than a hundred years ago!

ThomasHardyPerennial · 09/09/2023 14:10

How can you say you have a soft spot for a disaster😂 . You are fond of the Titanic sinking, are you?

OnAMidnightTrainToGeorgia · 09/09/2023 14:14

Op .... I think most people know the film and its characters are separate to the actual incident!

Do you feel this way over dramatisation of war?

Every disaster has a film made about it.

UpperLowerMiddleClass · 09/09/2023 14:14

notlucreziaborgia · 09/09/2023 13:44

I remember hearing jokes within days of the WTC tbf.

Yeah, I remember going to Halloween parties the month after 9/11 with lots of Osama bin Ladens.

It may not be for everyone but for a lot of people black humour or close to the bone jokes is their natural response to tragedy. I’m one of them.

Personally I find it more distasteful and hard to understand when someone gets upset/emotional over something like the Titanic but seems to cope okay with the ongoing tragedies in the world, be in hundreds dying in an earthquake in Morocco today, war in Syria, or whatever.

ladygindiva · 09/09/2023 14:15

GhostFaceInMyWindow · 09/09/2023 13:52

Oh come on, The Fallen Madonna with the big boobies is never not funny 🤷

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I loved allo allo 🤣

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 09/09/2023 14:19

GhostFaceInMyWindow · 09/09/2023 13:52

Oh come on, The Fallen Madonna with the big boobies is never not funny 🤷

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Pathetic cheap laugh and always was.

GhostFaceInMyWindow · 09/09/2023 14:22

ladygindiva · 09/09/2023 14:15

I loved allo allo 🤣

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"God moaning"

"They are going to explod the whaleway brodge"

it was bleddy genius.

Fixyourself · 09/09/2023 14:23

yabu for wasting your time on TikTok. Delete the app, it adds no value to your life!

andrainwillmaketheflowersgrow · 09/09/2023 14:24

TheAOEAztec · 09/09/2023 14:05

I believe that titanic is romanticised by it's "disaster" fans just in different way than by the movie fans. Considering what was happening after, yet people still stick to that like "respect my fave disaster".
Not much better than the movie lovers.

Exactly. The people getting emotional over a disaster they have no personal connection too are just as "bad" as those who romanticise it in films.

TheMarzipanDildo · 09/09/2023 14:24

Scoobydoobywho · 09/09/2023 12:53

I remember going to watch the film at the cinema when it came out. The amount of teenage girls crying because of Jack a fictional character dieing. No thought about the real life people who did lose their lives was ridiculous.

Tbf you don’t know that the crying teenagers weren’t thinking about the real people too.

Presil · 09/09/2023 14:28

I loved Allo Allo too!

The undercover British agent posing as a French cop whose undercover status was signalled by him speaking English really badly with a cod French accent.

"I was pissing outside the door"

It was meta 🤣

LodiDodi · 09/09/2023 14:28

Fwiw there are many songs that reference 9/11 casually, 'time to get paid and blow up like the world trade' in a song by Biggie Smalls as just one of them

ell87 · 09/09/2023 14:34

ShutTheDoorBabe · 09/09/2023 12:53

The people who died on it are dead and therefore won't care. The people who didn't die on the boat and survived are mostly also dead so don't care. Most of the families of the people affected are dead so don't care. It was ages ago. It's fine.

Actually where I'm from there are thousands of us with family that were on that boat. I had 4 relatives 1 male survived 3 males dead, my husband also had a relative that died on the boat. Obviously none of our living relatives got to meet them but nonetheless it's still sad knowing what they went through and we have photos of them in family albums.

KatherineJaneway · 09/09/2023 14:34

Presil · 09/09/2023 14:28

I loved Allo Allo too!

The undercover British agent posing as a French cop whose undercover status was signalled by him speaking English really badly with a cod French accent.

"I was pissing outside the door"

It was meta 🤣

Me too.

I was walking by the wondow ...

Listen very carefully; I shall say this only once.

It is I, Leclerc

Oh, my dicky ticker!

MapleSyrupWaffles · 09/09/2023 14:36

I did think it was a little distasteful when a school chose it as a theme for the prom (it was a school being shown on a documentary at the time). I know that what they wanted was the luxury of a fancy ship, combined with themes of the sea, sailors, nautical stuff etc., and that Titanic was probably the most famous one that their students would have been familiar with, but somehow it just seemed a bit off to me!!