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How many 26 year old mums of two small children find super hot boyfriends like Kardashian's?

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 08/09/2023 23:44

I'm not judging, mum shaming etc
The idea that Kylie Jenner has bagged one of the hottest men, in terms of popularity and talent as well, is making me slightly more envious than is normal. She has a 5 year old and 1 year old.
I am a young single mum of two and I'm currently watching baking shows with a huge infected puffy eye on my Friday night. No child free time. No way of dating as I just have no fricking time.
I don't for a minute think she's doing something wrong or that she should be staying in with a puffy eye and Prue Leith. However I do think it is unrealistic for most people and could suggest to young women that it's easy to move on and start again.
Meeting someone in your late twenties or early thirties who is ready to accept two kids is daunting. Men are either terrified, creepy or predatory. There's no Timothee's out there for me. I would have to settle, which I'm not prepared to do. It is almost impossible to find someone intelligent and ambitious who would consider a mum of two. Other than that it's all cocklodgers.

Can I fume at Kylie just a bit?

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Throwncrumbs · 09/09/2023 00:29

Any man that gets mixed up with a Kardashian/Jenner needs his head examined…The whole family are just odd!

sezzer87 · 09/09/2023 00:32

Have you seen kylie before her plastic surgery?!!!!!
Also that boyfriend of her is not all that. Seems like they're well suited he looks like a huge skinny geek to me

Tonight1 · 09/09/2023 00:34

You'll meet someone nice in due course OP.

If it's any consolation I have an infected eye as well!

justanothermanicmonday1 · 09/09/2023 00:34

My best friend met her now fiancé when she was a single mum. He took the child on, and now they have 2 additional children and are getting married. You just have to find the right guy. But you won't if you want to find a hot man like the kardashians are dating.... fyi, they're not hot. They're all bonkers. Have you saw Kanye lately??! Lol

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 09/09/2023 00:37

@justanothermanicmonday1 I don't really want someone to introduce to my children, they have a dad and I've lived with someone for years. Definitely don't want the domestic mundane stuff again.

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DojaPhat · 09/09/2023 00:46

She's currently rebranding like two of her other two sisters. You'll also notice they've forgone attempting to look mixed heritage. Timothee is just a prop to facilitate that transformation.

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 09/09/2023 00:51

@DojaPhat weird isn't it. Like they all start dating white men and then change their appearance? Why though? Kendall is apparently with a Latino so I'm expecting a Jlo style transformation any minute now.

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5YearsLeft · 09/09/2023 00:51

Gee, how strange. Timothee Chalamet has an expensive, mainstream movie coming out (Dune, to be fair, had a lot of other famous actors in an ensemble cast with a famous director AND it was still sci fi, not completely mainstream): Wonka. And suddenly he’s getting more publicity than ever before in his life, for dating Kylie Jenner, and all the articles say “who is starring in Wonka later this year.”

What does Kylie Jenner get out of it? Good question. Maybe she’ll get to “dump” him so she looks more desirable and gain back whatever she feels she’s “lost” from past relationships. Or maybe even just the benefits of being in a relationship without having to be in a relationship; I wouldn’t blame her. Who knows.

But it boils down to: do they want to court each other or do they want to court each other’s fan bases? Because the latter makes a lot of sense. More Jenner fans taking their families to see Wonka and more indie darlings buying Kylie makeup.

isitshe · 09/09/2023 00:55

I had to Google timotei. He's not hot. He's creepy af.

CherryMaDeara · 09/09/2023 00:56

I think Timothy Chalamet is about as super hot as soggy cornflakes.

I wouldn’t be surprised if their relationship has been set up by their respective PR teams, like Madonna and Michael Jackson.

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 09/09/2023 00:57

@isitshe well we all have our kinks. I think he's a bit of reincarnated Marc Bolan

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holite · 09/09/2023 01:01

No idea about Kylie. But I met DH when I was 28 and a single mum of 1. He's not a rich celeb but still very eligible (gorgeous, solvent, academic, successful) and lots of people couldn't quite believe he was saddling himself with a hopeless single mum. I paid for babysitters even on a low income as getting out and being sociable has always been important to me. No family or friends to help with childcare. I think statistically most single parents do partner up within five years so many of us find someone eventually!

Someoneonlyyouknow · 09/09/2023 01:01

I thought the point of anything Jenner or Kardashian related was that it's unrealistic?

Justchatting06 · 09/09/2023 01:14

This must be a joke - who compares themselves to kylie jenner (and I am not a fan) trying to land a rich partner……….who cares if it’s a publicity stunt or a fling or maybe they actually like each other - this is tabloid fodder 🤣🤣 none of us are going to catch TC ffs

BelindaBears · 09/09/2023 01:17

Your children aren’t the reason you’re not dating Timothee Chalamet. The rules are completely different for very rich, very famous people.

Ponoka7 · 09/09/2023 01:24

It's all down to time. My DD, 27, two children has childcare on tap and met someone a few months ago. You just need time to date.

Greengrassohla · 09/09/2023 01:24

could suggest to young women that it's easy to move on and start again

Shes not a public information film.

SandraTeaspoon · 09/09/2023 01:25

Lavender14 · 09/09/2023 00:19

I think it's unrealistic to compare yourself to her in any way. She's got a fairly infinite resource to lean back on, family who presumably will help with childcare and if they don't she can afford nannies and help with the children as well as with the cooking / housework/ general life admin that the rest of us need to do independently. I'm not saying she doesn't work hard, I imagine she does, but she has a lot more help available to give her the free time she wants to focus on dating or working or whatever that looks like. Meanwhile most of the rest of us are deciding whether it's more cost effective to stay in work or take a career break to provide our own childcare.

I think the dating pool as you get older is more complex anyway because most people come with baggage of some kind by late twenties early thirties which isn't always a bad thing, but it means you need to spend a bit more time figuring people out.

Pretty sure she has a couple or more nannies to look after her kids.

undermine · 09/09/2023 01:30

No offence but if you’re super hot yourself, people will be attracted to you. I know plenty of women with kids who manage to have options when it comes to dating. Kylie has nothing to do with it, your dating pool is all about you

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 09/09/2023 01:33

@undermine thanks for that uplifting and optimistic view on where I'm going wrong.

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undermine · 09/09/2023 01:46

Well, what do you want people to say when you’re here comparing yourself to celebrities - a bit of pandering?

Be passive aggressive all you want, the truth is you attract what you put out in the world. Are you ambitious, intelligent, super hot, popular, talented, happy to accept 2 step kids yourself? If not, it’s ridiculous for you to say you “refuse to settle”. Maybe the men you’re going for don’t think you’re their type, but that isn’t necessarily to do with having kids or not. Maybe your standards are too high.

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Justdontforgethelegofrog · 09/09/2023 01:51

@undermine I disagree. I don't think anyones standards can ever be too high. If they end up alone, is that any worse than compromising on what you want? Time is hardly running out for me.

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AcrossthePond55 · 09/09/2023 01:58

How? Pretty easy if you have bags of money and instant access to childcare 24/7. I mean, think about it. The reason many men are 'scared off' of women who have children is because they either don't want the restrictions and responsibilities that come with children and/or they fear being used for money/supporting a child 'not their own'. Obvs Timothee doesn't have to worry about Kylie 'wanting him for his money' and I assume she either has live in help or access to it easily so 'jetting off' somewhere or making spur of the moment plans is probably pretty easy.

Her life isn't 'real', it's a '1% life'. It isn't real for the 99% of us (married or single) who slog along the best we can, balancing budgets and hoping against hope that childcare arrangements don't fall through so we can go out to dinner or catch a show. That's reality. It's one of the reasons I can't stand the 'Karcrashians'. The way they try to portray themselves as 'we're just like you!' is a joke.

DreamTheMoors · 09/09/2023 02:02

AnneKipankitoo · 09/09/2023 00:03

Do they have the same agent ?

Hahaha yeah. Kris.

mjf981 · 09/09/2023 02:04

I just googled him. Ugh....not my cup of teeth at all. Very very unattractive ot my eyes. Prue Leith and a puffy eye sound preferable.