Let me start this by saying that I know my diet isn't great, I'm very much an emotional eater so can eat 'healthily' for a while and then something happens in my life and I reach for the 'unhealthy' food. I am currently bigger and unhealthier than I would like to be and am working on it through a process of intermittent dieting and carb/sugar control.
When I met H he was 20 stone and didn't care about what he ate, a lot of our early days together were spent eating takeaways or going out for meals without any worry about what we were eating. This was 25 years ago and I know things change but I still like to do that sometimes. The year before our wedding we both decided to lose weight and went on the Atkins diet. We both stuck to it for about a year and lost quite a bit of weight. I struggled with is much more than H as he isn't an emotional eater and if he decides to cut something out of his diet he can just do it.
He has been pretty much eating low carb, quite happily, for the last 20 years and is now consistently between 12 and 13 stone and I am really proud of him. The kids and I probably eat lower carb than most families but nowhere near as low as he does. We will generally have a small amount of potato/pasta/bread/rice with each meal, He won't have any. Over the years this has lead to him cooking most of his own meals and me cooking for myself and the kids, which we are both happy with.
For the last year or so he's got obsessive with diet and nutrition, any spare minute he's listening to, or watching, podcasts on the subject. To start with he would send me ones he though might be of interest to me! I don't have the time or inclination to spend 30 minutes listening to some fanatic talking about what I should and shouldn't be eating and told him so and he stopped sending them but would still tell me about them.
But now I'm getting really annoyed by it. For example, he's currently obsessed with how bad vegetable fats are for you and will read every label of what I am using when cooking and then pulls a sour face if there's anything in it he doesn't agree with.
He wouldn't dream of popping into a coffee shop while out for a walk and having a coffee and slice of cake. If we do that as a family he will have a coffee and make little snide comments about what the rest of us are eating, which ruins the experience for the rest of us. I've told him to curb his comments around the kids (14 and 17) as I don't want them having such an unhealthy obsession and he has done that a bit, but his face can't hide his thoughts.
The worst thing is that any illness I or the kids have he thinks is down to bad diet. My daughter has had blotchy legs for years, it's never really been an issue but now she's in her teens she's more aware of it and would like to see if there's anything that can be done about it. She's currently waiting for a referral to a specialist but it's taking ages so I suggested we could use H's health insurance. He just said that she needs to change her diet and things would get better!
Another example, I am at the start of perimenopause and mentioned to H that if it came to it I would consider going on to HRT rather than suffer as our parent's did, again he said that all I need to do is change my diet and I would be fine!
I don't really know what I want from posting this, maybe just some ideas on how to deal with it as I don't know how much longer I can put up with it!