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To be sick and tired of DP's F***ing Cats?

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squinny101 · 03/03/2008 09:24

Sorry I'm not a cat person so I apolgise for all the cat lovers out there. DP has two cats from his marraige. They are the bane of my life. Even though I don't allow them on the furniture which DP respects. I am still permanently covered in fricking cat hair!
The kids toys if you put them on the floor are coverd in cat hair.
It sounds like I don't ever clean my house but I hoover EVERY DAY. And still everything is covered.
The baby is now at the stage where she mouths stuf so god knows how much of it she is swallowing. One of the little bastards hid behind the clothes rail (we dont' have cupboards in yet) and got hair all over an outfit that I wanted to wear for a wedding. Spent the entire morning sellotaping cat hair off it.

Plus one has got three legs and it kind of creeps me out.

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hertsnessex · 03/03/2008 09:26

im not a cat lvoer, and it would annoy me, but i am guessing they come as part of the package as it were and there is no getting rid of them - so i guess just try and keep them out of certain rooms?

TurkeyLurkey · 03/03/2008 09:29

LOL re the 3 legged one creeping you out!

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squinny101 · 03/03/2008 09:31

I know its awful isn't it. It got run over and came in with one of its legs hanging off. DP cried(!) although not when our kids were born (hiss).

It cost him £800 to have the leg removed. I told him for £800 I would have done it myself. He did not appreciate this.

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jellies · 03/03/2008 09:32

Are they house cats or do they go out? I would limit them to cat areas pick a room or two they are allowed in and restrict they rest of the baby crawling areas!...

GooseyLoosey · 03/03/2008 09:34

I hate them, I hate them, I hate them, so no, you are not being unreasonable. I spent yesterday taking cat poo out of my garden and teaching the dcs why are a cat hating family. My grandmother has spent long years trying to devise the perfect way of getting rid of them and I am proad to say it is now a family tradition. Did I mention that I hate them?

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squinny101 · 03/03/2008 09:35

They do go out. I try and keep them out as much as poss. The downstairs is pretty much open plan and I try and keep them from going upstairs.

It just makes me ggrrrr

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VictorianSqualor · 03/03/2008 09:36

I don't see how the hair s getting everywhere.
I have a cat, and at times have had a few but have never suffered with hair problems.
Maybe tell him he has to groom them?
And ditto cat-free places, our cat only goes under the dining table in it's bed or in the living room by the fireplace when the kids are in bed, never upstairs and never in the kitchen unless it's eating.

batters · 03/03/2008 09:38

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itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 09:45

have you talked about rehoming them at all?

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squinny101 · 03/03/2008 09:47

Yes, its the only thing we argue about. He refuses to get rid of them. In the meantime, I can only plot their demise.

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wannaBe · 03/03/2008 09:54

are they long-haired cats? because tbh am surprised at the cat hair everywhere if they're not - i have two, and although they do shed hair it's certainly not "everywhere" unless I haven't hoovered certain areas for a time.

As for your baby, there is actually a lot of research that suggests that children who grow up with animals have a far less chance of developing asthma/exema. And really a little bit of cat hair isn't going to kill him - it really isn't.

Your attitude sounds quite horrible tbh.

itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 09:55

I think it's sad that the cats are living somewhere where they are not wanted by one of the 'owners' and I think that your DH should rethink rehoming if it bothers you so much - surely you are more important to him! Give them to me! I love cats!

DoodleToYou · 03/03/2008 09:56

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itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 09:56

oooh you're brave! I'd rather put up with the hair!

EsmeWeatherwax · 03/03/2008 09:58

I have a cat too, and can honestly say that no, YANBU. I have a hard enough time reconciling mine to a baby who is at the crawling and picking stuff up stage, and I actually wanted him. If you don't like them anyway, I can imagine the nightmare. As for rehoming...well, thats a bit of a nightmare too, I have been trying to find a good home for mine for months, and it just isn't happening!

VictorianSqualor · 03/03/2008 09:58

If the hair is a big issue then obviously they have excess loose hair, so yes, they eitehr need bathing, or grooming.
Normally cats do it themselves though.

violetskies · 03/03/2008 09:59

squinny, you wait the last one will have died, you will be relieved and happy and then, he'll bring home a couple more.

itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 10:01

I was made a homeless a few years ago and had to rehome several lovely cats (sob sob I still think of them) and took them all to Battersea Dogs and Cats home - I trusted them to find new homes as I didn't have the time to sort it out. Esme, could you not take your cat to a similar place?
I am now settled and we have a lovely old cat that we got last year from a rescue place.

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squinny101 · 03/03/2008 10:01

I know I would offend cat-owners/lovers. No a little bit of cat hair is not going to harm them but I am a little bit sick and tired of picking the baby up off the floor (its not a carpet but a wooden floor) and her outfit being covered in it. It's horrible.

DP deals with them because he knows that I don't like them but he's a stubborn bastard and will not rehome them.

I am becoming increasingly paranoid about them and am sure they are watching me and in turn plotting my demise. (that was a joke by the way before someone calls social services/rspca).

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wobbegong · 03/03/2008 10:02

I hate cats too. My friend lets them climb all over everywhere, including the dinner table while we are eating and even lick things in the dishwasher, bleurgh. We've stopped visiting cos I can't bear it- we claim DH has an allergy. Have you considered that tack?- next time you have a cold, streaming nose etc. blame an allergy!

itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 10:03

ha ha cats do have a way of looking at you that can make you paranoid!

KerryMum · 03/03/2008 10:04

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itsahardknocklife · 03/03/2008 10:06

that's true. my mum doesn't like cats but when she comes to stay, my cat follows her around and tries to get into bed with her! She is slowly warming to him...I think.

OrmIrian · 03/03/2008 10:08

Yes YABU. Part of the deal by the sounds of it.

But I sympathise. I am a cat neutral (yes they do exist). We have one and I'm fond of her but I do get fed up with dealing with fleas and the odd 'accident' now that she's older. When she's gone I doubt we'll have another. No fur problem though

Joolyjoolyjoo · 03/03/2008 10:11

It was the other way about with us! When I met DH I had 3 cats, which he hated! In return they slept on his uniform and pissed on his shoes!! They are now all gone, but as soon as the dc are a bit older I want a kitten....! I totally get why he is not a big animal lover, but he knew I was when he met me, so we just get on with it (still have 2 dogs and 2 rabbits, and various odds and sods that I bring home from work!) I do respect him, though. I brought home a one eyed cat that the kids named Gregory, but I took it back after 2wks, as it started crapping everywhere, and I knew it would end in divorce if I didn't get rid of it .

Have you considered Immac?? (joke!) Or restricting them? I bet once the baby is a bit older they will move out! Once the kids came along, my cats started staying out all day and only coming in at night, to get peace!