To be mildly irritated by colleague's' we're pregnant etc' running commentary

[youvedonesum]

His wife is so sick... Anaemic, vomiting, exhausted. Still working every weekend night shits .. 4 on 3 off rota at 34 weeks.

The whole pregnancy has been a running commentary about him, how it's affected him, his involvement in ante natal, the books he's reading on how it affects fathers , how his sleep and social life will be affected etc etc.

When I ask about his wife , it's normally a one liner back.

Honestly, I'm old enough to be his mother ... I'm 53 and well past child bearing age but is this it now ???
Pregnancy being all about the bloody Dads???
Am I old fashioned ?

He will return to work a few weeks after baby is born, his body perfectly intact, she will do all night feeds, she will be alone during the day , exhausted , sore, hormonal and it's still about him!!!

It's interesting because when he starts , all the team immediately ask about his wife and clearly irritates him.

Now, he is the baby of his own family and is utterly spoilt so perhaps that's what this nonsense is about ...

Is this the norm now?

They haven't decided whether they'll 'go natural' or have an elective caesarean yet as her hips are so narrow but he's hoping they'll go natural because of the downtime,
They'll decide nearer the time.
That's their birth plan

😂

But also, poor woman.

Heyhoherewegoagain
Any utterance of “we’re pregnant” by a man needs the reply of “what? Both of you?”

I love this as a response.

OP I’m very much with you, he sounds insufferable.

It’s sad the bar for male support during pregnancy, childbirth and looking free babies is so low that a man wittering on about how his wives pregnancy affects him is treated as something laudable on MN.

ugh I had this with a younger colleague who was due 2 months before me and I dreaded being in the office with them as it was a nightmare hearing EVERYTHING in detail.

When he says he's going to sleep in the spare room, say "Oh that's great, you'll get plenty of sleep, so you can get up early with the baby and your wife can stay in bed for a few hours." And "Oh that's great, you won't be tired so you'll be able to do all the housework while she's having broken nights".

Poor woman to have married such a man. I guess the conversation would stop if you expressed that opinion to him.

It's hypocritical to complain that men are disinterested and don't contribute enough when it comes to childraising, and then to also complain when they are interested and talking about it.

I'd much rather the latter.

Agree about ‘we’re pregnant’. So annoying😡

Also, ‘Henry is having a baby’.

Pretty sure he’s not!

But he's talking about himself, not his wife.

Well the op seems to know a heck of a lot about his wife!! Her ailments, her working pattern, her birth plan, even her body shape!

Amazing, isn’t it?! Considering he never talks about her 😂

But Henry is having a baby.

"Henry is about to give birth" or "Henry had a difficult labour" is not so good.

But "Henry's having a baby" is a lot easier than "Henry's about to become a father".

Just be happy for people.