To think it’s not normal to have thick grey dust on skirting boards?

[GosPort]

Went around to SIL house today and I’m by no means a neat freak but just thought it was unacceptably dirty. Not cluttered, just nothing was cleaned. For example her skirting boards had thick grey dust on them, on top and falling down like snow. Paw marks on them from the rabbits as well so it was so obvious. And the hair that had built up on them too was visible and a bit gross.

AIBU to think you should regularly clean and dust your house if you are inviting others into it?

YABVU for checking out your SILs skirting boards 🙄

Lots of people will disagree but I think there is a limit to how dirty you let your house get in general. It’s part and parcel of being an adult in my opinion. I don’t judge people for a bit of dust and clutter but when it’s falling off the skirting in clumps I will judge you silently! It doesn’t take much to run the vacuum over it, especially if you have pets and children it’s important for their health.

Why are you looking at you sister in law and not your brother? Misogynistic or what?

Ive downed tools because of living in a sauna of a flat If the HA expects more they shouldnt have stuffed the walls full of unsuitable insulation turning the place into even more of a sweatbox Actions have consequences

There's a new Queen 👸🏼

I agree OP, I couldn't go there again if it was that bad, it's making me wheeze just thinking about all that dirt.
Do you think she is depressed or struggling with somethingelse?

YABU for posting about it on mumsnet. If you thought ‘ew’ fair enough, most probably would but what do you want other people to tell you how disgusting and lazy SIL is so you can feel good about yourself?

@CharlotteBog ohh I’m an idiot, of course there is 🤦🏻‍♀️

Well unless you’re the current living queen and all that OP. Suppose you could well be but you definitely have to tell us which SIL it is if you are

Don't like it, don't go there?

We clean the bog every few days, sink ditto, but the whole bathroom, only after bathing a dog as water gets everywhere then.

Skirting boards - they get done but i haven't gotten around to stripping and repainting them and previous owners just appear to have painted over years worth of dust so they're not smooth and they grip dust/hair - I hoover and mop off what will come off that way but its needing a longer term fix that frankly, I can't be arsed with right now (and at some unspecified point and hopefully before I kick the bloody bucket waiting, I expect a DFG funded kitchen and bathroom to be done so im buggered if we're spending money to tart up that which the LA is going to trash anyway!)

I found this in new houses with plasterboard, loads of dust, everyother day I had to wipe skirts. Three yeats later its much better. Is her house new or had building works?

You sound really angry and affronted about it though, which is weird. If I went to someone's house that was grotty I'd be like 'yuck' internally but not take it as some sort of personal insult, which you seem to have. Some people struggle to keep their homes clean for a variety of reasons, and I would be more worried about their physical/mental health if I cared about them than offended because they expected me to be in their home when it's dirty.

I assumed by SIL she meant her husbands sister, not her brothers wife?

exactly!

This.

I can't decide if I care or not.
I would probably judge in someone else's home if it was dirtier than mine and it made me feel better, I guess.

Unpopular but I agree. It's just not very hygienic.

Doesn't take long for dust to accumulate so I'd imagine it could only be a month especially if they have pets.
Maybe you could offer to clean the place for her if it bothers you that much.

My house isn't overly clean and I have many dusty corners, but dusty skirtings are gross

Takes 2 mins to blast with a handheld vacuum

Why is it all on your SIL? Surely your brother/brother in law lives there too?

My house is disgusting - I do do bits of spot cleaning and if I saw the kids or anyone else write the name in dust I would clean that up, or if above my height I'd say I think you can clean that (my pet teenagers tower over me). But that's fairly easy to do something about. I do dust the TV screens occasionally when I notice they're horrible.

But we also have patches of really difficult cleaning and huge amounts of it, and it's discouraging when I feel no one notices little bits I do and that it gets messed up again - kitchen work tops and everything in constant use. I wish dp and the kids wouldn't try to do everything in the kitchen while looking at their phones. Put them down and notice what you're spilling and clear it up as you go along at least, ffs!! is what I want to say.

It might be gross to you, but you don't live there and it's kind of crappy of you to criticize her and seek validation for it here.
It's another petty example of women tearing women down.
Haven't read through all posts, but why isn't your DB helping?

It's fuck all to do with you what others do in their homes. Don't go there if it offends you so

Then say it? Why martyr yourself. My teen is expected to do his share and if he doesn't there are consequences. I'm not a skivvy.

In what way is a rabbit paw mark a health hazard I'm completely lost here?

GosPort

sorry I tried quoting the the quote didn’t show. Somebody said they never cleaned their bathroom so it must be covered in what is made in that room!
sorry op that was me, I actually just meant it was a hellhole compared to the kitchen. We have five males in the house so if we didn’t clean the bathroom regularly we’d be in trouble!!! But compared to the kitchen, which I never let get out of order, it would me very messy (but not filthy and definitely not covered in that!!) sorry everyone!!!