Cash for wedding gift

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Ok, I know I'm going to get blasted but I've braced myself....

I've just been reading a post about what amount of cash to give for a wedding present (when cash has been specifically requested), and it's put me in mind to ask what other opinions are on this?

I think I'm stuck in the 70's, because for the past 15 years or so, when we've been fortunate enough to be invited to weddings, almost always the gift specifications are something along the lines of "we don't need any more toasters thank you, but some money towards a holiday would be great". Why do I dislike this so much! I just feel that a request for money for a holiday is...oh, I don't know really, but I guess I find it a bit vulgar. Oftentimes, the couple have been together a long time and I understand that they don't want their house filled with stuff they neither want nor need. I'm afraid I have never given cash for a wedding gift and will never do so (the exception being our DS and his wife - they didn't want financial help towards the wedding from either side, so we gifted them cash to put towards a deposit for their first house).

Otherwise, if cash is requested we buy gift vouchers (typically one4all or another multi-shop voucher), and if appropriate for the wedding venue, a voucher for afternoon tea there (this has always been really well received and often used on their first wedding anniversary).

If you were getting married and a guest ignored your request for cash and instead gave you a gift voucher, would you consider it rude?

* leaves the building and runs for cover *

Absolute lol that you think a “traditional” gift list asking people to kit out your house is somehow superior to asking people to help send you on honeymoon, aka cash

So you give people vouchers because you don't want to give them cash, but when you had a voucher you converted it into cash.

Makes sense.

Just give cash and save everybody the hassle?!

I dislike requests for cash for things like a holiday or honeymoon partly because its so much more extravagant than we had....or still have.

Wow, that's so mean!

I don't like pure cash requests I do find them a bit vulgar if the couple already have a home together and go on lots of holidays each year

Although we did ask for vouchers to a certain DIY/home furnishing shop - only because one of us worked there and got a generous staff discount and we were renovating our first home together so made sense - why do a gift list for this shop when if we used vouchers we'd get the discount on top so the money would go further

So the one time you got one, you effectively converted it into cash??

Loving the irony!!

I really don’t understand this whole thing of going against a couple’s request of what they request, whether thats gift/money/experience.

no one ( with any decency) would attend a wedding without a gift, so why not just go by what the couple have requested?

in my culture its very common for the bride to be gifted shit loads of gold and jewellery because in our home country there is ample opportunity to wear it and its a very good investment for the couple however as we got married here we i had no use for extravagant jewels lol so we requested money, mainly for my side of the family as my husband is english and they wouldnt have got jewellery anyways.

anyways we had a few people who ignored our request, i would have rather honestly they didnt waste their money because i now have have

24 wine glasses sitting up in my loft curtesy of 3 different people

3 different tea sets

1 silver gravy jug.

all in loft as they are never of use to us and a waste of their poor money

( this reminds me i do need to clear the loft out at some point)

I have been to many weddings across the world… and cash was always what was given…
it was an experience handing over the red envelope to the bridesmaids in Hong Kong, who opened it then and there and wrote down the amount given next to our names…
pinning money on the bride in Greece… handing it over in a card elsewhere.
i much prefer the couple to have freedom to buy something they like. Absolutely awful when couples end up with half their John Lewis wish list, and have 10 Denby White dinner plates, but only 6 bowls, and six spoons, but 8 knifes… and then have to top up.
plus the unwanted gifts… vouchers for shops they never shop in, or for an amount that requires serious topping up, picture frames, “fun” Mr & Mrs stuff, a collection of champagne flutes…