Can the court force me to do handovers with abuser ex?

[Pastarasta1]

Currently going through family court. I have been explicitly clear that I will have no contact whatsoever with my daughters father. I'm terrified of him.. I just can't. We have no suitable third party for handovers if contact moves away from supervised and cafcass aren't keen for the contact centre to be used at handovers. Cafcass officer is trying to force me to agree to handovers.. I can't, I just can't.
My solicitor has advised we're protected by Practice Direction 12J so the court will only make an order if its safe.
Can the court force me to do handovers with him?

Yes they can. I was hit and had my shoulder torn during handovers but I was still ordered to continue (because reporting said incidents about the children's father, is abusive to the children ).

I had to do handovers to exh who had raped me, Caffcass & courts didn't care.

Cafcass class weekend contact as fri-mon, usually every other week. It's a normal pattern and using school is very normal too because of the situation you (and lots of women) are in with handovers.
Courts like it as it makes it easy on the child, and they are first and foremost if course.

Using a Saturday hobby is also a good idea - you drop, he collects, but it gives no return point usually and can get complicated.

Re school events. Parents evenings etc just ask to ensure appointments are on different days, same with tickets for Xmas concerts.
Class assembly, summer fayre and one off events you might just have to avoid, or sit and the back and leave if he turns up? You may find he doesn't bother....mine certainly can't be bothered to show up for his kid...the novelty soon wears off!

@daffodilandtulip and @Nat6999 this is sick. I'm so sorry you both had to endure this.
I'm in a similar situation and I just can't get my head around how it's allowed or even thought of as acceptable.

Seriously, wtf???!!!

@daffodilandtulip, you were hit and had your shoulder torn during handovers, but were still ordered to continue??!

Did you report to those incidents: to the police, your lawyer, child care service? And they all said: that's ok, he can continue doing that to you because he's your kid's dad??!!

So basically if a stranger did that to you, he would face criminal charges for assault, but since he's your kid's dad, he can beat you up and face no consequences "because reporting him is ABUSIVE TO CHILDREN"??

Honestly, wtf??!!