To find this unacceptable in front of a child?

[KatyKopykat]

I'm sitting on a bench reading. Family comes along mum dad and son 10 or 11 and sit down eating ice cream. A wasp starts buzzing around and the dad shouts "F-ing bastard. F-ing cu next Tuesday". It gets on his cornet and he drops it, swears again, puts it in the bin and kicks hell out of the bin. Then storms off and sits on a wall across the road. Mum and son laugh about him and take the Mickey. I felt quite disturbed sitting near them.

Obviously unacceptable language in front of a child, and not really helpful as wasps are more likely to sting if you’re flapping about like an idiot.

Wasps are dicks tho.

Well I'd be more concerned if they were cowering as it would be more likely I'd assume he takes it out on them at home so that's one consolation. But of course it's shot behaviour in public and I'm front of children

I dont think you need AIBU to tell you this man is a knob, unfortunately they exist.

You know how that child is going to grow up and be like...

I don’t think swearing in front of kids is an issue and I wouldn’t bat an eyelid at that. No need to kick the shit out of the bin though, it’s a bit of an overreaction.

I have a wasp phobia so I'm not judging him too harshly tbh.

Did he actually call it a cunt or did he say 'C U next Tuesday'? That would change my answer somewhat. Mild swearing, I don't get too hung up on. My DM told me 4 year old not to step in some dog shit last week 🤷🏻‍♀️

YANBU. The aggression would bother me far more than the actual swearing.

If he'd said "fucking bastard" and laughed it off I'd have let it go. General malevolence, inability to control your mood and behaviour and aggression are not a good look. And as a PP said you know how the kid is going to grow up.

The aggression is worrying

Ha I’ve been swatting wasps left right and centre at a theme park today usually with a ‘fuck off’ to boot, in front of 4yo DS.

Bit OTT to kick shit out of the bin though! Not fussed about the swearing, I would be fussed about the aggression and sulking though.

The kicking the bin wasn't ideal at all but honestly the swearing, meh, I don't think it is a big deal, I don't know why people get so stressed about swear words.

This is quite common I think. Men with serious anger issues acting like tired toddlers. Road rage is out of control now because of these people. Their DC will grow up thinking its normal behaviour which is worrying.

Yes, of course it's not normal to be aggressive with inanimate objects. Yabu for asking that when you know the answer.

Swearing is not a big deal to everyone. Not great given the aggression mentioned above.

I saw a similar thing today outside a museum: a couple with two kids (roughly 4 and 7). The dad was losing his shit about being unable to cancel an uber. Shouting and swearing about it loudly enough for bystanders to hear and upsetting the kids. The woman asked him to calm down and he went off at her. Just a classic selfish over-reaction at a very first world problem in front of two children who were needlessly distressed at his behaviour. It made me wonder what he was like in private.

So much casual and unnecessary low level male aggression everywhere. There's no need for it and in a family situation there should be none of it ever. Urgh.

Wasps are cunts though

I was at something this weekend where I saw a wasp bothering a mum and her toddler daughter. The mum started hysterically flapping and slapping at her daughter and ended up hitting her full force in the face while unconcerned wasp just flew away and the poor little girl screamed the place down. Obviously her mum didn't intend to hit her but if she hadn't been so OTT in the first place she wouldn't have punched her own 2yo in the face.

People lose their minds over wasps.

YANBU at all. Scumbag behaviour. Some people are just like that, unfortunately.

Blimey OP.

They don’t sound frightened of him so it’s not an abuse issue. Of course it’s yobbish to swear in front of a child - although the anger issue is a bigger thing - but there are so many bigger things to worry about

@mynameiscalypso the OP is too dainty to write cunt, I think.

Not great language in front of child but I can sympathise as I am terrified with wasps and have called them some choice names in the past as well.

Because your child will mimic what you do as a parent. And hearing a 5 year old use the word ‘fucking’ in every day language is absolutely awful and disturbing. That’s why….

Swearing in front of a child who is at or close to secondary age would not bother me in the slightest.

Did he damage the bin? If he trashed a public litter bin, or even dented it, that is really shit behaviour. Even worse in front of a child, but bad anyway.

If I kicked a bin tho I think I would hurt my toe more than I hurt it! Depends on the bin I suppose?

If there was no damage to the bin, it kind of depends on how it was done? If it was slapstick, or as an expression of pain because he was stung, not so bad. If in a terrifying violent rage, yes it's bad.

No, he said the word.

It’s not a big deal really is it? He wasn’t calling the mum/kid a cunt. Kicking the bin was petulant and his down fall I would say. Most people know it’s not socially acceptable to call a wasp a cunt in front of their kids 🤣 but as a PP said as they were laughing at him he obviously isn’t an abusive man, just… immature?

Thanks for the laugh @KatyKopykat 😂

I've never known anyone that doesn't swear in front of their kids...

Do as i say not as i do!

perhaps this is a class/area thing or something.