DH has really triggered me

[hahavzv]

So I've come home after having the kids for the whole day and my husband decides that he needs to cut the grass and he got rid of my favourite rose bush that I've had in the garden ever since we bought the house. The flowers were so pretty and is something I would look forward to seeing in the summer.

His argument was that it was dead. But it was flowering so don't know what he has seen/thought.

The worst thing is he's been slacking in general when it comes to maintaining the house. I'm always the one painting or any diy things that need to be done in the house. He will never start it because simply out of being lazy. He does spend time out everyday and it kills me that he still can't help me out.

So when he got rid of that bush I absolutely got triggered. My thoughts were you touched the thing I never asked you to do but struggle to do the things I need help with.

I don't get it. Anyway rant over.

I'm not attacking you, @CarasMama .

I'm amazed that you think your h's behaviour is normal. It's really not. No violence or abuse is acceptable.

I said he is hilarious. He has the funniest sense of humour, has everyone almost wetting themselves with his antics. He isnt the slightest bit violent to humans. If he got snagged on a thorny bush in our garden, he wouldnt hesitate to rip it out and save our disabled toddler and pets from reaching worse thorny fate. He's my rock, he dedicates his life to mine and kids happiness and putting smiles on our faces and so super busy with work he has no time to beat around the bush with long discussions about plant life.
A plant is a plant, no contest against plant life vs harm to human/child. If it's a hazard or in the way then better to get rid, we've got far more worries is our life to waste so much time and emotion on a plant.
I've read the posts that's he's being perceived as shit to him based on a hypathetical scenario and he thinks people are far too quick to judge on this thread and politely hasnt retaliated. He said he hasnt got a clue which plants are which or how to care for each so feels sad for the anger at OPs husband as he would probably make same mistakes.

It is entirely fair for me to say that I feel attacked for someone saying my husband is shit, especially when the post was about someone else's DH not mine.

Well, OP started this thread because her husband ripped out her favourite plant so lets keep the thread on track. Its a tactic of abusive men to destroy something their partner treasures; plants, pets, belongings, hobbies, relationships. Who knows why. Maybe they resent your attention going elsewhere, maybe they want to hurt your feelings.

Wow. You actually read this thread to your dh, aghast at how he's being maligned 😬
It seems to have really touched a nerve, considering your actual post stated he would have ripped it out in a fit of temper?

Why not?