To end things with a good man

[PoleaxedAndSome]

Posting here because I want brutal honesty. I’ve posted before under this username- about 2 years ago my marriage fell apart in spectacular fashion due to infidelity on my then husbands part.

I’ve been in a relationship with a man for just under a year now. He is a good man- he cares deeply for his kids, he has a steady job, he’s funny, great in bed, he makes me feel special, he constantly tells me I’m beautiful and that he’s lucky to have me. And yet- I find myself constantly doubting whether he’s the one for me.

can anyone who has been in a similar situation advice? Is this a sign that he’s not in fact ‘for me’? Or am I just really overthinking things because I’ve had a marriage - that I thought would be until
death do us part- fall apart.

OP just take each day as it comes. It sounds like you are still hurting from your marriage and have a little fear of getting attached again whilst he’s so into you.

This. "The one" is industrial scale bollocks.

If you like his company, like sleeping with him and want him around, stay with him. If don't, ditch him. But trying to tick every box on a notional checklist is a fool's errand.

On the other hand you're not obliged to stay with someone just because they are nice. If he doesn't make you feel happier you're probably better off alone. It's as simple as that.

It's a risky tactic, but you could ask for some space to figure out how you feel but obviously the risk is that you might decide you do want him and he doesn't take you back.