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'Making memories'

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lollipoprainbow · 30/08/2023 10:53

Argh nearly the end of the summer holidays and I don't feel we've done much. Facebook is full of families doing great things and 'making memories' . Dd11 is autistic so life for her and me is tough. Also we moved house at the start of the holidays and have been slowly sorting that out. We've had a few outings to an outdoor lido which my dd loves but not a lot else. Feel like I've let her down. Anyone else feel the same as me? Tell me I'm not alone in feeling rubbish!

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Longagonow96 · 31/08/2023 09:50

ComtesseDeSpair · 30/08/2023 11:02

Children are often enriched by different things than adults think they are or should be, and it isn’t the children posting about the “memories” on Facebook. If you went to a lido your DC love going to then surely that’s a great memory.

It used to infuriate my mum that she’d budget so that every school holiday we could have at least one “big” trip - to the zoo, or a safari park, or suchlike - per week and then throughout the holidays various other activities like the beach, a museum day, a trip to somewhere new etc; and then when we got back to school after the summer and did our “what I did in the holidays” write up, it would invariably say “I went to the park and my friend Lizzie and I made a secret den in the hedge” and “we had ice cream at gran and grandad’s house in their back garden and grandad got stuck in his deckchair and we all laughed.”

This. Asked DS2 what was the best thing about the glamorous first foreign holiday we had been able to afford for the family, including his first flight aged 10. Incidentally he's also autistic.

A: "We had fish every day!"

elliejjtiny · 31/08/2023 10:03

I have disabled dc too and this summer holidays have been extremely hard. Dh had a deadline at work so he has been working all hours. We've all had a sickness bug. Eldest dc is 17 so I'm conscious of the fact that we are in the final years of the dc all living at home and we should be "making memories". But both my teenagers would rather be at home or out with their mates than doing family activities. We've been out for a few short outings with the younger ones but I've been reluctant to leave the teenagers on their own for long periods of time so we end up dashing back rather than staying out longer.

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