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Cardiology appointments

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originaltastecoke · 23/08/2023 08:35

I'm genuinely not sure if I am being unreasonable or not so hear me out.

Over the past 30 years I've had 3/4 cardio appointments ranging from age 14 to 44. At each one I've had to be fully undressed including bra from the waist up. All of these appointments were carried out by men with no chaperone offered. So in a room on your own with breasts exposed. Just had one this morning (echo) with a very pleasant male sonographer. This is the first echocardiogram I've had, but again no chaperone. Because of the way I had to lie on my side on the bed, he had to sort of perch on the bed next to me so his body was touching mine. He also had to touch and move one of my breasts to place to US probe in the right place.
I'm not for a second suggesting there was anything untoward going on with this man. But surely for his OWN peace of mind/security it would make sense for there to be someone else in the room? And as I say, this is not a one off - it has happened at other appointments too - in different locations and hospitals.

I'm a very chilled person and used to go topless on holiday etc but I can imagine some other women would feel extremely uncomfortable in this situation.

To make it worse, when he left the room to allow me to put my clothes back on (seemed pointless 😆), another random guy (I think was a doctor?) just walked in as I was putting my top on! He apologised but I've come away feeling like I've exposed myself to half the department!

Is this the norm?

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Toddlerteaplease · 24/08/2023 10:18

The chaperone is as much to protect him as it is you. I'm surprised he doesn't ask for one. But they probably don't have enough staff.

originaltastecoke · 24/08/2023 13:02

@LuvSmallDogs I'm not sure why. I think a curtain seems less private anyway so you would perhaps expect that it may be opened at any minute. I feel that if you're in a room with a closed door there is at least the option to knock - which this person didn't. Just barged in.

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