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To think most people don’t have huge ‘pig out’ days once a fortnight?

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Deeryme1 · 20/08/2023 14:55

Went for brunch with a friend earlier who, when we came to order, said she was still feeling full and bloated from her ‘pig out’ day yesterday. I asked what that was and she said ‘oh once a fortnight, DH and I have a complete pig out day, it’s great. We start off with bacon sarnies in the morning, followed by a McDonald’s for lunch and then loads of crisps/ chocolate/ sweets etc.

I was like oh right and she said ‘do you not ever have a day sometimes where you just eat anything and everything you want?!’ And I said no, not really. She rolled her eyes and said ‘no wonder you’re so skinny’

The thing is, I eat a bar of chocolate pretty much everyday and if I go out for a meal (once every 2-3 weeks) I’ll always get at least 2 courses, sometimes 3 and I don’t care what I eat on those occasions, so I’m hardly an Angel in terms of food. However, no, I don’t ever really let myself have a day at home where I just eat whatever the hell I want for a whole day. I WOULD put on weight.

She seemed shocked and like I was uptight for not doing so, but I don’t think a regular pig out day like that is the norm for most people, is it? Or am I just really uptight?

OP posts:
BuggersMuddle · 20/08/2023 21:57

SushiSuave · 20/08/2023 21:04

@BuggersMuddle I guess because some people (me included) would never look forward to a piece of fish and vegetables. But if I know I have a "cheat day" coming up, it can motivate me to continue to eat healthily until I get to that designated day, and feel like I've earned it. As it happens, I don't pre-plan a cheat day, but some days I wake up and just don't have the motivation to resist all of the (unhealthy) things I like to eat, so resign myself to having an off day and starting again tomorrow. I really wish I was someone who enjoyed lots of vegetables/salad/fish/low carbs etc., I'm just not!

Oh believe me, I probably have more days where I'd take more food / more indulgent food than those where I am really averse, but on the latter days I just couldn't enjoy a 'scheduled' binge. I'd be saying to DH 'knock yourself out, but I'm not up for it.

I'd say your method of seeing how you feel & acting accordingly is actualy pretty close to how I feel. (I do genuinely love low carb, fish, salads. Which is probably quite good because I also like cheese & wine....)

Beezknees · 20/08/2023 22:06

Everyone does things differently. I count calories, so I'd rather factor in something small every day than a whole "pig out" day once a fortnight but each to their own.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 20/08/2023 22:12

I fancy the sound of that pig out day. Mine would be:
pancakes and syrup
Massive tiger stick with butter and cheese and tomatoes.
pizza and cheesecake for tea.
ice cream and sweeties in between.

sounds a great idea.

Usernamen · 20/08/2023 22:34

HaveYouHeardOfARoadAtlas · 20/08/2023 15:36

I think 3 course is pigging out but there you go.

Three courses is definitely pigging out in my books. Desserts are very indulgent after a starter and a main, and presumably wine. A completely unnecessary 500+ calories with tonnes of sugar.

bladebladebla1 · 20/08/2023 22:42

Once every two weeks? Yeah I probably pig out that often but I don't diarise it. It will either be a hangover or period

OhcantthInkofaname · 20/08/2023 22:55

At least once a month I do so. I'm £123. You don't feel deprived if you give yourself a treat day. I also make sure I have 2 servings of fruit and 3 servings of vegetables every day.

Defiantjazz · 20/08/2023 23:29

Three courses is definitely pigging out in my books. Desserts are very indulgent after a starter and a main, and presumably wine. A completely unnecessary 500+ calories with tonnes of sugar

🤣

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/08/2023 08:16

Usernamen · 20/08/2023 22:34

Three courses is definitely pigging out in my books. Desserts are very indulgent after a starter and a main, and presumably wine. A completely unnecessary 500+ calories with tonnes of sugar.

😂😂😂

Whats wrong with self indulgence?

Life isn’t all about control and discipline and being uptight.I’d scarf a pud in that situation.

Dies the phrase ‘mealy mouth’ still exist? Bet meals out with you are a laugh.

Summerrainagain1 · 21/08/2023 08:17

I think pig out days probably become necessary when you restrict yourself too much otherwise.

Sigmama · 21/08/2023 08:24

If you don't like feeling over full then i can't see the pleasure in over eating

midlifecrash · 21/08/2023 08:28

I’d be pretty startled if an adult told me they did this tbh

Usernamen · 21/08/2023 08:52

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 21/08/2023 08:16

😂😂😂

Whats wrong with self indulgence?

Life isn’t all about control and discipline and being uptight.I’d scarf a pud in that situation.

Dies the phrase ‘mealy mouth’ still exist? Bet meals out with you are a laugh.

Ha, I don’t disagree with you. I love a three course meal and wine! But it’s definitely pigging out.

An indulgence every now and again is fine, and makes life more fun.

JustABitLonger · 21/08/2023 08:59

Teeny tiny competitive under eaters assemble.

Defiantjazz · 21/08/2023 09:13

Ha, I don’t disagree with you. I love a three course meal and wine! But it’s definitely pigging out

No, it’s just a normal way to eat when in a restaurant.

LuckySantangelo35 · 21/08/2023 09:16

JustABitLonger · 21/08/2023 08:59

Teeny tiny competitive under eaters assemble.

@JustABitLonger

its not being an under eater to not want to pig out to the point of feeling sick and bloated, ffs

ShoesoftheWorld · 21/08/2023 09:19

ReignOfError · 20/08/2023 14:59

You seem to be comparing apples and apples, and deciding yours is fruit and hers are doughnuts.

Perfect summary of the OP Grin (and great username)

LubaLuca · 21/08/2023 09:20

It isn't much different to someone planning a big boozy day/night out every couple of weeks. Hedonistic binges are not an unusual part of being human, whether it's food, drink, sex, whatever.

Septembe66 · 21/08/2023 09:28

Sounds a bit like me ex sil. Slated us for having takeaway on a Saturday night because they rarely ate them as they’re unhealthy but would go out for dinner at leat 2/3 times a week. How is that any different? We heave one takeaway a week. Watch what I eat the other 6 days and exercise most days but because she’s going out to eat she seems to think that’s not as bad. Considering she would have at least 2 courses 🤷‍♀️Why do people find the need to judge others eating habits

Endofroadinhs · 21/08/2023 09:32

I think theres a difference (at least psychologically, surely?) of going out for an actual meal once or twice a month, and giving yourself permission to effectively binge on rubbish once a week which is regular.

dreamydandelion · 21/08/2023 09:32

there's some evidence to suggest a day of high carb when surrounded with several days of low carb e.g. one day a week or fortnight of whatever you want can actually help the body to maintain a good weight

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/carb-cycling-101#the-science

although obv it depends on how you do it.

mast0650 · 21/08/2023 09:40

We start off with bacon sarnies in the morning, followed by a McDonald’s for lunch and then loads of crisps/ chocolate/ sweets etc.

I wouldn't say "most people" do this. But I also think that if you have a day like this once a fortnight and eat healthily the rest of the time then it's not going to do any harm and won't make you fat. It's not more fattening than a bar of chocolate every day. If that's something they enjoy and it works for them, then there is no need to get judgey about it. I find it odd that she is so surprised that you (and other people) don't have a day like that, but that's the only thing I find particularly surpising about it.

I wouldn't enjoy a day like that. I think McDonald's is pretty vile and wouldn't enjoy eating "loads" of crisps/chocolate in one day. I basically eat what I want every day, which leads to eating everything in moderation rather that holding back then binging on unhealthy stuff for one day.

mast0650 · 21/08/2023 09:45

And 3 courses isn't "pigging out"!! That's ridiculous. It depends entirely on what those courses are. They could be extremely small and light. If we go out for a meal in a nice restaurant then we will usually have three courses (though often share dessert). Not because we want to "pig out" but becaus we want to try out a wide range of nice food! We generally follow a "rule" that we can't order the same dish so that we can share/taste more things.

LolaSmiles · 21/08/2023 09:52

I think theres a difference (at least psychologically, surely?) of going out for an actual meal once or twice a month, and giving yourself permission to effectively binge on rubbish once a week which is regular
I agree with you.
It seems an entirely healthy outlook to have a neutral approach to food, eat things in moderation and when you have a meal out then you enjoy it without guilt.

The idea of having a set day for binging where the whole purpose is to stuff your face with all the food you deny yourself the rest of the time doesn't seem like a healthy attitude to food

LoserWinner · 21/08/2023 10:18

My everyday diet is, by taste not virtue, low carb and mostly low-processed - stuff like cheese with salad, stir fried veg etc. I don’t bother with snacks because I’m in a job where snacking isn’t easy. But if I’m out with friends or family, I’ll happily have a cake with coffee, or eat several courses with wine, carbs, petit-fours etc. I don’t consider it ‘cheating’, just enjoying a social occasion, but I wouldn’t want to eat like that all the time. In the same way, I generally enjoy spending evenings quietly catching up on work, reading or watching TV, but if I’m out with friends, we might go to a show or the pictures.

FatBurger · 21/08/2023 10:38

I think it's weird to have a day where you religiously eat whatever you want, but not that it's weird to have those days at times.

I have times (yesterday) where I'll be super hungry for crap and I'll indulge, but it doesn't happen all the time. I also tend to eat what I fancy most days, but I rarely fancy loads of crap.

I'm not overweight.