DD12 smoked cannabis

[Mikaylaschofield]

And I am in bits. She went to meet some friends and apparently someone had it and she says she had 2 puffs.
I knew straight away by looking at her so not sure if she’s being honest about what she had.

is there anything I need to do? I’m worried about her health is there any chance she could get unwell or would it would have passed now ?

Coming from an ex stoner, I would be livid and concerned if my just turned 13 ds smoked weed. It is categorically not normal (ds tells me everything that happens at school) and I would be worried about potential exploitation/county lines at that age. Physically she will be fine however cannabis is dreadful for a developing brain so she shouldn’t make a habit for it. I didn’t start smoking weed until 15/16 and I was in a legal country where it is everywhere.

Children can become very unwell from cannabis, someone on a bus put some in my nephews mouth once and he had to be admitted to hospital - his parents were told if it was cannabis then he needed to stay in and have his heart monitored

Weed is not serious on the heart yes it raises your heart rate but nothing bad.

well, it is considered dangerous enough in children for them to be given a hospital bed and 24 hours monitoring, so either the NHS is being underused and staff are twiddling their thumbs hoping for a patient, or......

How old was the kid that got the weed? Surely not also 12?
Assuming she was telling the truth and only had 2 puffs she'll probably sleep it off and be a bit more hungrier. Not that it matters but is she usually a mature 12 year old or young for her age 12 year old?

Yes I think we were both completely inprepearwd for this situation!

She is a mature girl however things are changing

the girl
is 13!! My dd says her brother gives it to her

I would be just like you op, absolutely beside myself. 12 is far far too young to even be having a couple of puffs, it can be very damaging to a child's/teenagers brain.

I think the main thing here is that you need to let her know that she needs to call you if she finds herself in a situation like this, or message you or whatever and that you will always come and get her no matter whats been going on.

Are you ficking kidding me? She's 12 And legal is not the same as safe.

Kids will always surprise you, my daughter is now 16 and has always been extremely sensible, never been in trouble at school, mature etc. You can imagine my huge shock when I got a phone call from school saying she'd taken vodka in! Peer pressure will do weird things to a kid.

I have always been clear drugs are a no go but if she ever finds herself unwell her health is my priority. The thing is she was too worried as she didn’t want to be grounded. Im
findinh it hard to know how do I tell her something is unacceptable but also that I would always be there. I suppose now I handle this is important I need to be clear as to why I’m so worried
she’s had a cry she has def been traumatised by it she was very scared iv told her no matter what she can call and ill
come get her and the focus will be on her howver I don’t really feel like I can just ignore this either
I told her sometimes in life there are consequences like now I’m gonna be worried sick and naturally she can’t be with that crowd

Probably worth flagging to school or the parents of the other kids too....

She’s very pale now is that normal
walking and talking fine but just sleepy
she’s eaten and had a drink

Im
getting paranoid about her sleeping now

It's serious https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jclp.23312#:~:text=Both%20high%2D%20and%20low%2Dfrequency,increased%20risk%20in%20developing%20schizophrenia.

Tell her it is so hopefully she won't again.

Iv 💯 said it’s serious she doesn’t know what was in it anything could have been
I told her cannabis is serious before she tried it

Sounds like classic peer pressure, bless her. Felt like she had to have a couple of puffs to ‘fit in’ with her friends but didn’t necessarily understand how it might make her feel! Bet it’s the only time she’ll ever do it, too.

She’ll be fine, albeit probably a bit emotional, hungry and thirsty this evening and will sleep like a log tonight, but there won’t be any immediate or ongoing risks to her health from a couple of puffs on a joint. She probably is being honest about it being two puffs, I’ve tried it a couple of times and felt the effects after 2-3 puffs so didn’t have any more, and I was a lot older than 12. Any more than a couple of puffs at 12 and I imagine she would probably have been sick.

Punishment wise, that is obviously your call as she’s your DD but I would cut her a little slack as she’s young and impressionable and did it to try and fit in. Also, she came clean to you so that ought to count for something. A long chat (best had tomorrow when she’s back to herself) about making better decisions, being choosy who she socialises with in future and learning how to say no or ask you for help to get her home if she doesn’t feel able to speak up for herself.

Sorry you’ve had such a nasty shock!

no they were 5, so obviously a bog difference, but even so, it is not harmless to children

She will be fine tonight.

But you do need to let her know, tomorrow, in no uncertain terms how utterly disappointed you are in her decision making, you thought she was more mature and switched on and knew drugs were for losers.

Don't lose your cool, but make it clear. I tend to take ds out the house for these types of conversations, a car drive somewhere and/or a walk.

Then it is education, teaching her about the dangers, the damage drugs do to lives, getting her to explore and be honest about why she did it, explore what type of person does she want to be, having the confidence to say no thanks and if friends don't accept that to find some better friends.

It really isn't. My kids went to a nauce grammar school and some kids were trying it out at that age.
Teachers often have no clue if what us going on !

During my teen years, I smoked marijuana a handful of times when I was about 13 years old. The last time when I smoked it, I underwent an episode of acute psychosis symptoms, a very uncommon occurrence. It was absolutely terrifying made me drop out of school. Although I've recovered now, the incident still haunts me. As I had smoked marijuana alongside a few close pals who remained unaffected, I realised that not everyone is compatible with the drug, despite its seemingly casual and gentle nature. I have tried cocaine, MDMA and weed remains the most psychologically damaging drug I've tried. It's very unlikely your daughter will have this as she would probably be going through it already by now but you're right to be worried and although it is generally safe for most people for some it can be something vastly different

Too young and I would be furious.
Agree give her a coded phrase which means " I'm out of my depth,come and get me".

I went to a posh gramme school and was smoking weed and taking acid at 13/14. Shockingly.

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OP just keep an eye on her and talk it through tomorrow. It's such a good thing she told you.

Woah 12 is incredibly young, is she just going into year 8 or a v young year above and going into year 9? I would say weed usually rears it’s head in year 10 or even 9, but not year 8!!!

I definitely agree with you to keep her away from this crowd, this is all very much too much too young