Or is he, re- puppy?

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We have a new puppy, it's been sleeping in kitchen at night with poo mats down.

I told oh I am keen to train it to go outside and get rid of the mats as this is what I've heared is best. I am at home all day as its half term so whenever I see it sniffing round il get go out and guid it or take it out in the garden, then give plenty of praise. This is working throughout the day, we've had no poos at all inside and mostly wees outside 1 or 2 on the mats In kitchen.
When oh gets up for work, it's usually really early so I've told him to keep the pup in kitchen and open back door and I will be down not long after him. He usually stands in kitchen anyway making coffee & sandwiches for himself so its not hard to open back door.
The past 2 mornings I've come down shortly after him, and he's said she's had a wee in livingroom. I've said you shouldn't have let her out the kitchen & Into livingroom until she's had morning wee on mat or outside. So he's left it there on the laminate flooring. I've cleaned it up.
Next morning he got up, I said keep her in kitchen don't let her into livingroom. He done the same and she weed again.
This morning I tried getting up but being g pregnant I am struggling, I came down to a poo & wee in kitchen on floor, fresh. I said why didn't you open back door and send her out like I said, he said "your not telling me what to do" and left it and went to work.
I just don't understand how hard it is to open back door, I am being unreasonable in TELLING him to do this? I do this all day long everyday and it works fine.

Did he want the puppy? Why doesn’t he clean up if the pup does a wee or poo on his watch? Does he want to keep the puppy mats down? Not unreasonable to ask him to do something but I suspect there are bigger issues.

Looks like a preview of how he’ll be as a dad - useless. Has he always been like that?

He said he can't be arsed wiping wee up but was happy to get the puppy and does cuddle her etc...

"Can't be arsed?"
Jesus, what sort of a dad is he going to be?

He told me to put more pee mats down but I told him I've researched that it's better to not use them, he said she doesn't go outside but she does I told him she only goes outside throughout the day as I'm here all day with her.

Ime as soon as dpuppy has open eyes in the morning they need open door and taken out. Seeing an open door isn't toilet training..

Off-topic but what do you mean by half-term? It's the summer holidays (here in England, anyway).

maybe re-home the puppy as it doesn't sound like he has any interest in having one or being a decent parent to it. it is also going to be a million times harder once u have the baby.

Yeah you're right, your DH is a twat.

Wow, doesn't he sound unhelpful and unpleasant. He snapped at you like a teenager, for "telling him what to do"? Good luck having a baby with him if he won't participate in simple dog care tasks...

Why did anyone think a new baby and a puppy would be a good mix?

He's an arsehole and make sure you've got other support when baby comes.

You are BOTH being unreasonable

You should not have bought a puppy without first having agreed about how you would potty train/train in general!

I did so much research before we bought our puppy in 2021, and made 100% sure that DH and the kids were onboard with how we would crate train and potty train and made them all stick to it religiously

Your DH sounds like a fucking twat though and is seriously undermining your hard work, as it sounds like puppy was getting the gist of it with going outside to wee

Also, make sure you use a verbal command like "have a wee" every time you take her out, as we only have to say that and our dog goes outside for a wee

@Cloudsandrainnotsunandsand she's actually doing really well for me and I will ofter say go have a wee and gesture her outside with the door open and she goes, or he could just pick her up and put her just outside the door, it's far easier than cleaning up the floor inside. Or so I thought

@TheCrystalPalace yes that's what I meant, I always say half term, end of term summer hols it's all the same to me lol

Puppy mats are just teaching the puppy to go inside. I let my puppy outside every 10 mins to begin with and she was toilet trained within 2 weeks.

I'd hand him the kitchen roll and spray and let him. Crack on cleaning up. Your whole routine changes when you get a puppy and he's decided he wants to carry on doing his own thing he needs to get a grip. I used puppy pads at night they are fine my pup is toilet trained despite using them.

@FooFighter99 I do I say go have a wee whilst pointing and showing her the open door, or if she doesn't go I carry her out saying it again.
We have another dog so it's not something we aren't used to, and I have explained before how I was going to train for peeing outside.

Which genius thought it would be a good idea to get a puppy right before you have a baby? If your husband's attitude towards caring for the dog is any indication, you're fucked when the baby arrives. He sounds like a complete idiot.

Re-home the dog.

We are now sort of out the other side of this. Our Labrador is now 16 months and we got him toilet trained in a couple of weeks.

Even now in the morning the first thing me or my partner do is open the back door so he can go out if he needs too.

With puppies you HAVE to be on the same page. Our lab is by no means perfect and still working hard with his training but by both of us doing the same things has really helped him.

He is a lazy sod not letting the puppy out for the toilet, and then the cheeky fuckery of leaving the mess for you to clean up. Honestly, I hope this isn't a sign of the parenting dynamic to come, where the hard bits are left to you and zero support when tackling things that need routine, like potty training etc.

Get rid of partner and new puppy (sadly) or this is your life.

This doesn't bode well for new baby OP.

He's honestly so stupid that he just lets the dog piss on your living room floor instead of opening the bloody kitchen door? This has to be a wind up surely. How could any woman be insane enough to be with a man this useless?

Why did you get a puppy when you are pregnant?
it’s a recipe for disaster especially when you also appear to have a completely immature and useless “partner”

It is not fair on the puppy and she will be confused as training is inconsistent.
If he can’t be arsed to toilet train a puppy then what is he going to do with a baby?

This is not a wind up @Aquamarine1029 he's made me feel like I'm telling him what to do, wasn't sure if Ibu or he is so thought I'd ask opinions. **

Yabu sorry but you aren't being fair to the pup you are teaching it to mess in the house with pads but you don't want to get up early enough so it can go outside. I am sorry but until puppy is older it needs late nights and early starts