To think he shouldn't be annoyed by a seaside trip

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I have some time off this summer holidays but husband can't take anymore time off. My SIL is taking her 2 kids to the seaside for a few days and has invited me and 2 kids to go along with my Mum.
Husband really isn't happy and is saying he doesn't want kids to go, he doesn't care if I do though.
He says he will miss out seeing them when he comes home from work.
We are talking a 3 night trip.
AIBU to think this shouldn't be an issue and he should be happy kids are getting a nice trip?

Only you know if he's normally this much of a prick.

If he is then this isn't surprising to you, surely. You have bigger issues than this three day trip to sort out.

If he's not and this is out of character I'd be digging deeper for the real reason he doesn't want the dc to go. Money worries? Concerns about someone in the party or nearby?

He’s a controlling cunt. Fuck him. Especially if he’s trying to keep you away from your family. It’s important that you go and you do not concede at all to any of his attempts to control you or the children.

He doesn't want you all to have fun without him.

They’re going to the seaside.
The weather is abysmal.
There is no fun involved.

I've just read your OP out to my DH.

His verdict;your DH is being ridiculous and he needs to grow up as throwing a "if I can't go then no one else can fit" is childish.

And even though he's saying you can go he knows you cannot because who's going to care for the kids if he's working?

Out of interest;have you ever had a girls weekend away?;how often do you get to go out sans children?;how are the chores/cooking etc split?

How ridiculous of him. You’re just go and not allow him to exert control like this.

Is he even proactive and engaging with them after work?

If you stop a child doing something fun that will benefit them greatly 'just' because you will miss them, no other reason, yes that is controlling & selfish no matter who does it.

You should go providing this isn't using your annual leave so you get less time as a family. He needs to get over himself.

If he would miss them that much, can he work from there during the day and see them in the evening? Or hello, facetime.

Our kids go away to stay with grandparents and we facetime mornings and evenings.

This

What a selfish pig. Does he ever go away without you and the DC? If so ask him how that's ok if he misses the kids so much. Very controlling.

Please ignore him and go.

My DC are away at camp this week whilst I work. They are having the BEST time. I’m a widowed parent and I’ve had the odd moment of loneliness but mostly I’m recharging in the evenings and so thankful both they and I have this time.

Just go and ignore him. Weird for him to want his kids to miss out.

Reminds me of my BIL who wouldn't let me take his kids to an attraction (UK and not staying away) as he wanted to take them apparently. Well the eldest is mid 20s and now a parent himself and has he ever taken them?

It's really quite selfish of him to make his kids miss out on going away for a few days of fun as he'll miss seeing them for a couple of hours after work.

Aldo, his wants/needs don't trump your or theirs.

Just go and have a great time.

Just go, OP. You and the DC will have a lovely time, and they will presumably be happy to be back with their dad again after a couple of days.
As someone else has suggested, go away for a weekend by yourself soon after you get back so that he gets to spend some quality time alone with them too.
How far away are you going? Would it be possible for him to come to you for dinner? Not necessary really, but might make him feel better.
What do your family think of him?