DH's ex wife consistently tries her hardest to make life difficult. Everything we do with DSS's is criticised. She is working very hard to alienate them. Anything we do is made harder. We gave her a year and a bits notice for our planned wedding, the night before which was 'her night' with the DSS's and we'd usually get them at 5pm. She said they wouldn't be able to come as it's her time with them.
Given how awful she is about literally everything else we cancelled said wedding and decided to go and get married on our own which we did and later had a lunch with all our family to celebrate. She then decided this had 'psychologically affected' the boys and they should have been included in the registry office (which was in central london and was on a school day -the only date we could get when we wanted it and which also would have caused ructions-plus if we couldn't have our big wedding we at least wanted a boozy nice lunch and night out after our quick registry office one. (The boys weren't bothered in the slightest).
She decided this year she was going on holiday and booked a week to come back the day after we were due to start our week with the Boys. When asked why she had done that she said we had got back four hours later than agreed last year from our holiday so she was taking the time back. (Our holiday with the Boys last year had been booked before the court order was even in place and our flight got delayed-literally nothing we could have done). Dh suggested altering pick/up drop off days over the summer from Saturday to Saturday to Sunday to Sunday (we have them week on week off over summer hols) to accommodate her holiday booking and ensuring no one lost any time. She refused. We therefore checked our work calendars and my schedule with the girls dad and booked what is our delayed Honeymoon from Saturday to Friday in the only time we could do it. She then, two weeks later, decided she had changed her mind and wanted to agree to Sunday to Sunday weeks.
Which would mean we couldn't go away as planned on Saturday.
DH's parents offered to have the boys on the Saturday night and drop them back to their mum on the Sunday. She demanded them back at 10.30 am. Their grandparents can't get them there for this time as it would mean leaving at silly o clock. Dh asked her for 12.30. She said no.
This is now causing huge stress. Nasty emails from the Mum and her boyfriend. DH's mum getting stressed.Dh getting stressed.
WIBU to just go on my own?
We have had years of her disrupting and dictating our lives. And I really need this break. I want to go with DH obvs. But not with this amount of stress.
I have given up my longstanding career to facilitate the boys long school run (she moved them an hour away to move in with her boyfriend). I've moved house to accommodate living between where they were living before and where my girls dad lives. I gave up my big wedding as she was going to make it impossible. I did all that willingly because I love dh and the boys and our family and I recognise in blended families compromise is needed. I give up my DH to the stress of it half the time because whatever he tries (reasoning with her, standing up to her) doesn't work. Now my 6 days of bloody holiday is being ruined before it even begins.
WIBU to go on my own and dh can fly out when he gets chance? I can get the ferry and do the first bit of our European road trip on my own if needed though it won't be much fun. Or just fuck that off even and get a last minute to Majorca or somewhere?
So fed up.
And before anyone asks why she is so aggy-no one knows. She had the affair that ended their marriage long before I came along. She fell out with all their mutual friends. She left the marriage with a huge amount of money, and gets a huge amount of CMS monthly, never late. She doesn't know me at all and says she doesn't care that I'm in the boys lives. She loathes dh and has her own boyfriend who she loudly claims is the love of her life etc etc so she isn't Jealous.She can have no cause for complaint about any of it. Yet pours all her energy into being as horrible as possible.