to tell my friend to organise her own birthday

[Champgal]

My friend has asked me to organise a scavenger hunt for her birthday, her birthday falls on a date when I will be out of the country so wants me to throw it a week before the actual date so I can still organise and attend. Since organising it she’s done little to give me numbers for friends she wants, I have to chase her for information I need IE what time people can meet ect and I am also trying to plan my trip away which requires a LOT of preparation (I will be away hiking in Nepal for weeks). I have even recently got her a lead on a job at my work that she really wanted and even that was me chasing her up to reply. I feel like just saying to her that I no longer have time and she should just have a meal or something as it feels like I’m organising her life at the moment when I have my own stuff to worry about. Am I being unreasonable for feeling like my friend is happily chilling while I’m chasing up leads for things that are literally for her benefit?

The scavenger hunts listed above are brilliant. Just copy and paste into a document. At the top write:

Welcome to Mildred’s 30th Birthday Scavenger Hunt

Meet at 7pm on Friday 10th September at the Nag’s Head. Get into groups of 2-3 and check off everything on the list below. Take photos as proof! See you back at the pub at 8pm. The winning team gets a bottle of Prosecco.

Email it to Mildred and tell her ‘change anything you don’t like and then send it to everyone you want to invite’. That way she has the final responsibility for content and invites

How far away is it? After your last post where you reveal you suggested the scavenger hunt in the first place and your friend didn't know how it would work or what it entailed, then I think you should follow it through. For a 30th you can't easily have definite numbers more than 3 weeks before the event. Why do you need numbers so far in advance anyway? Just don't include anything that needs to be booked in advance surely?

An appeal of a scavenger hunt to me would be anyone could join in on the day and you wouldn't need the hassle of formal numbers like a party or meal. It's probably why she agreed to your suggestion. Can't you just buy one of the pre organised scavenger hunts from Groupon or an app if you have changed your mind on planning it?