To be upset by DH comment?

[Babysharkdodo123]

Coming home after a day out with DH, DD (20 months) and DD (10 weeks, who is EBF - relevant as BFing = hungry mamma).

Haven't eaten since 11am and been walking around all day (also recovering from CS). I was eating some crisps in car at 4.30pm and DH says "I'm not fat shaming you but before you eat all of them, don't because you'll ruin your dinner". For ref, we eat at the moment around 8pm once older DD is in bed.

Comment came totally out of blue and he's never said anything like that before. I probably took it more to heart because I'm currently carrying 2 stone of excess baby weight and can't exercise until 12 weeks PP which I'm feeling very fed up and down about. This is something DH knows as I said to him a few days ago that my body image is shot to pieces.

So AIBU for being upset by comment?

It's probably all resolved now as this is a zombie thread.

@Bookish88 "To me, it sounds like his comment was intended to be purely practical. Hungry or not, crisps are devoid of nutritional value and you didn't have much longer to wait until you'd be having dinner."

So a woman providing all the nutrition for a baby to grow and thrive should wait three and a half hours before she has something to eat? Bloody hell. If that's really what he meant, presumably he made her something nutritious to eat as an alternative?

Yeah I mean I’m not breastfeeding and I’d be hungry and DH wouldn’t say a word if I grabbed something and stuffed it into my face.

It’s horrible having someone scrutinise what you are eating when you are already feeling uncomfortable. Dh is partial to a bag of crisps, I’ve never felt the need to point out that they are nutritionally empty etc, he’s an adult I assume he knows what he’s eating and why he’s eating.

It was a bit thoughtless. I had a go at a friend's DH for saying something to her three months post partum about weighf loss.

Plus crisps contain fat, carbs, calories and salt and are a damned quick and convenient way to obtain energy on the go and be a bit less Hank Marvin.

I was so hungry immediately after having DD2 (9lbs and a hungry baby herself) that I was eating loads of chocolate on top of substantial regular meals to get the calories, I waa actually craving it when I don't normally have a sweet tooth. I stopped eating quite so much sweet stuff after a couple of weeks or so and even so had dropped a stone of the two stone I'd put on in pregnancy. With DD1 I was chugging sausage rolls and the like after giving birth.

YANBU - what a mean spirited, judgmental, selfish, condescending, unkind and stupid thing for him to say. You’re not a toddler needing guidance in what you eat. You’re an adult who can manage their own appetite and food intake without his stupid opinions.

I would say to him ‘regarding your comment in the car earlier about me eating crisps, I don’t want you to EVER comment on what I’m eating again because it’s rude, unnecessary and unhelpful.’ Make sure he knows it’s just not acceptable and you won’t tolerate it.

Drat!!

In what world of producing the entire nutritional requirements for an infant and recovering from major surgery is another 4.5 making a total of 9 hours not 'much longer to wait'?