AIBU or are those gushy mum posts on social media just a bit much sometimes

[Dracarys1]

This is my first AIBU post but I was spurred on reading a Facebook shared post that basically implied that in order to be a good mother you have to prioritise your child over everything else in your life. It was one of those gushy ones that I seem to see all the time. And it made me feel really uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong, I have two small children and I love them to the ends of the earth. I'm also a SAHM so I do often live and breathe my children. But I hate the narrative that in order to be a good mother you have to pretty much sacrifice everything that makes you you for your little ones every whim. I don't think it's healthy for mum's to feel that if they are to be good mothers they have to always sacrifice themselves. I'll try to post the text in question because it really bothered me that this is the way some women feel they have to be in order to be good enough. Its unrealistic and puts so much pressure on mums to feel they are doing a good job. And people post them under a supportive guise but it actually just makes most normal mums feel a bit shit. So anyway AIBU or does anyone hate this sort of post?!

Yo that sum bullshit post.

Seriously, how cringe-inducing and pathetic. Yanbu.

She sounds like the mother of one of those ghastly overindulged brats no normal person wants anything to do with.

This! ^^

I've never known anyone who posted anything like that to be anything but the most selfish person who doesn't put their dc first any time and moans if they have to put themselves out a teenie weenie bit for anyone.

Like anyone who posts "I'm such a good friend and will drop anything to help" type post being anything but a bully...

Thanks all. I just wish the message could be more "if you love your kids, they're fed, warm, happy and know you love them you're doing great". Mums don't need this pressure. Yes it's only crappy Facebook but if you're insecure, too hard on yourself, maybe struggling, these posts can really make people feel inadequate and I really can't stand them.

It’s not being able to talk on the phone with a friend because your children are loud and wild in the background. It’s choosing them.⁣⁣

No hun. If you can't teach your children to behave whilst you make phone calls you're doing being a mumma rong.

Vomit!

Righto, meanwhile back in parenting land away from the bollox that is social media ....we've all been doing ok for quite some time now thanks

Wait. Is it 'mama'? What's the Hun etiquette nowadays?

I must have been a terrible mother, i went shopping without them, i went for dinner, i gave them hell if they were being loud and wild in the house and on occasion went away for the weekend without them, told them no a billion times and even hid in the shed for a few moments when i couldn't listen to them any longer. Can't believe they still speak to me !

I have my own Mum checklist

We survived another day in this madhouse!

I’m a winner!

Don't read them. I agree that posts like that can mess with your head. I'm sure you are amazing without other mums' views. 💖

That reads more like a cry for help than anything else. If it’s a friend, reach out and ask them if they’re okay because posts like that often indicate insecurities and uncertainty.

Anyone would think you should be given a prize for having a baby, whereas all other animals do it without fuss.

I would hide anyone who was posting this kind of nonsense on social media

My kids are ND. I’m in the middle of actively teaching one of them that I am not his, he doesn’t own me, and that - actually - we are two separate people…

Total nonsense.

In fact, clear fantasy. Dance shows are in term time so why would a perfect mother have booked a trip to the Bahamas at the same time?

@Daphnis156 I beg to differ...🤣

Honestly @Dracarys1 “Its unrealistic and puts so much pressure on mums to feel they are doing a good job.”?

If you’re not mature enough to not put that pressure on yourself reading garbage on line, you weren’t mature enough to become a mother, and that’s on you.

Badly written shit like that is water off a duck’s back to grown ups 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn’t even have finished reading it. Not least cos this would be my eye direction: 🙄

Did you put a 😂 or a 🤮reaction on the post OP?

I assume from the language the woman is an American. Frankly OP I would ignore every word of it. It's what is referred to in technical circles are "a load of old bullshit".

What a crock of shit! Sounds like someone who doesn’t know how to be anything other than a mum. She does realise those children will grow up one day and will need to make their own way in life.
I love my children but they fit into our lives. We don’t fit into theirs.

It's nauseating tripe. And the children clearly aren't being properly disciplined and will grow up as horrible spoilt adults.

Yanbu! Nothing wrong with telling your kids to be quiet when you're trying to have a phone call. Or that you're going out for dinner and they'll be fine with dad/ babysitter/ grandma. And as for cancelling a holiday to watch a dance show...really??!! No-one in their right mind would do this, surely?! As I tell my kids...life is full of disappointment, might as well get used to it. (I say nice things too sometimes;) )

Absolute trite shite.

Perfectly summed up 😂