Aibu for not letting her hang out with my bf when I'm not there?

[Desupi]

My boss took in a refugee last year and I sort of took her under my wing because she's a similar age to me. She had no one else so we've become quite close and she does a lot with me and my bf. Since I got pregnant (I'm 8 weeks) I've found her more and more annoying because she likes to drinks and I can't do that anymore, plus she can be quite a lot to deal with. Not to mention that she is always very over complimentary to my bf.

We all go to a sports class together once a week, but it was brought up recently that now that I'm pregnant it won't be long until I don't go anymore. She asked me if it would be ok for her and my bf to go together, to which I said I wasn't totally comfortable with that.

So now I'm made out to be the bad guy because if he doesn't take her there she can't go because she doesn't have a car. And because he is going anyway it seems reasonable that he should be able to take her too.

But I only feel uncomfortable because of her flirty nature and history of being super complimentary to him ALL THE TIME. And I can't stand the thought of her being alone in the car with him even for the short trips to the gym. I trust him but not her.

AIBU?

Most decent men would've nipped the 'openly salivating and making a play for him' in the bud.

This really shouldn't be a problem for the OP.

This! I DO trust that he would say no to her but why would I want it to get to that point?

What does your boyfriend say when you tell him she is making you uncomfortable?

He agrees with how I feel and says it makes him uncomfortable too

It shouldn't get to that point.

He should put a stop to it lonnng before then.

I wouldn’t like this either.

What does your boyf say?

So just tell her he doesn’t want to give her lifts?

@Desupi
With all due respect, a person will cheat one way or another, yes sometimes there's the argument that "it just happened" said by both parties, overall if your partner truly wants you, then they will be faithful

If he were reasonable he wouldn’t go with her. It would make you feel insecure and she is testing to say the least.
YANBU.

Wow can we take a moment for all the ridiculous Eastern European women bashing. It’s not okay to make such sweeping generalisations. This women came to the UK as a refugee, does that lived experience by some compassion?

My now-husband's female friend tried it on with him at a uni ball and I was as much annoyed by her thinking I was stupid enough to trust her as I was the deed itself.

Unfortunately some women have a ‘home wrecker kink’ and will rather men who already have a partner . I know one sadly and she finds it hilarious to manage to get the ‘unobtainable’ it’s a challenge to her then she drops them

Then he needs to put a stop to it rather than you

If he feels uncomfortable with it too then it's different, he should say no. To be honest I think you should put boundaries in place now. A baby is a trying and testing time even for strong couples, the very last thing you want when you've just had a baby is your DP spending time with a woman who makes you feel uncomfortable. What feels irritating now will soon turn to real resentment.

But I have to say that in general, if he were fine with it and you really trust him, perhaps it's the best course of action. If she did hit on him then he could actually lay out the situation to her and you could both stop socialising with her altogether.

If you trust him, you don't need to trust her do you? However if she is genuinely crossing a line with her behaviour towards your boyfriend then that's very rude of her, so I'd not be inclined to see her as a friend. I'd have thought your trustworthy boyfriend would feel the same and not want to hang out with her though if that were the case?

I've reported the hideously offensive posts.

OP - your boyfriend needs to assert his boundaries. Women can't 'steal' men

Ah, saw your bf agrees. Then he needs to tell her no.

I trust him but not her.

It takes two to tango. If you trust him and you can have an honest conversation with him about it then you’ve got nothing to worry about. Good men aren’t lured away from their wives by flirty other women. A good guy would either ignore it or tell her to back off because she was making him unconscious.

*uncomfortable, not unconscious!

Agreed.

That's nasty - will report

Ah, so you're worried about rape? Feels extreme but lucky he's learning a martial art just in case.

The xenophobia on this thread is eye watering

I would keep exercising as long as possible. As long as you check with your midwife you will be fine. I ran until the week before I had my youngest.