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To have abducted the neighbour's child?

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Rhubarb · 27/02/2008 21:20

Third time, third fecking time I offer to drop the little girl off after French class with my dd and no-one is there at home for her!

First time it happened, mum suggested that her dd could get in the house through the dog flap (she's 7). I gave her my mobile number and said if she was unable to be in next time, to give me a call and I'd keep her at mine.

Next time it happened the mum didn't get back for her for an hour and I had to keep her for tea.

This time, I just drove straight to my house and didn't bother calling her parents to ask where they were. There is either myself or another mum who takes her home, so she could have been with either of us. The mum doesn't know my telephone number or anything about me really. I thought about leaving a note attached to their door reading "I HAVE YOUR DAUGHTER" but thought better of it.

Half an hour later the dad drives round in his 4x4, sends the older dd to knock at my door whilst he pulls up with his window wound down and mobile phone headpiece glued to his ear. "What time did you try our house?" he asked. "5.20-5.25" I reply.
"Oh I got back at 5.26, must have just missed you!"

I can only get satisfaction from knowing he must have had to call round to find out who had his dd and where I lived. DO THEY NOT CARE WHO THEIR DD IS WITH????

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 27/02/2008 21:21

Rhuby, she is lucky to have someone who cares

YouKnowNothingOfTheCrunch · 27/02/2008 21:22

Jesus. Feckless feckers!

dippydeedoo · 27/02/2008 21:23

thats so wrong and luckily you care but it makes you wonder how theyd react if she really did get abducted.

etchasketch · 27/02/2008 21:23

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worley · 27/02/2008 21:24

and with the news headlines that we have at the moment you would think people would at least take a bit more notice where their children were for a few weeks at least.
some people.....grrr

WallOfSilence · 27/02/2008 21:25

The cunts.

He sounds like a knob.

worley · 27/02/2008 21:25

it's the parents who aren't really that bothered with btheir childrens whereabouts that never have no comebacks. and the parents who worship their kids and something happens to them

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Rhubarb · 27/02/2008 21:27

Funny thing is, her dad apparently used to work for MI5.

These people know nothing about me, nothing at all. What if I had to go somewhere after I dropped their little girl off? What if I was actually someone untrustworthy, just because I have kids doesn't mean I'm not a criminal! What if I had just left her to get in through the dog flap and something had happened to her, would they have blamed me?

And what is this little girl to make of the fact that nearly every time I go to take her home, there is no-one there for her?

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Rhubarb · 27/02/2008 21:29

I mean, I gave them my mobile number so they could contact me if they had problems getting home for her and they can't be bothered to even tell me!

I'm going to refuse to take her home again. I'm not a babysitting service.

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WallOfSilence · 27/02/2008 21:30

Are the parents in when the other lady takes her home?

dippydeedoo · 27/02/2008 21:30

omg rhu maybe u have already been'surveiled' and passed the test?? maybe u are unwittingly acting as a bodyguard,they could be using your 'normality' as a decoy!! seriously id be pissed off as im sure its neglectful ..

HonoriaGlossop · 27/02/2008 21:32

withdraw your consent to it Rhubarb. Say that you can drop her home but you are not able to have her at your house, so you are only able to offer to drop her if someone is going to be in.

You don't have to make excuses or give reasons - you are not obliged to have this girl, and the parents sound unbelievably lax, poor kid.

HonoriaGlossop · 27/02/2008 21:32

oh x posted you've already decided not to do it!

ShinyDysonHereICome · 27/02/2008 21:33

Poor little girl

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Rhubarb · 27/02/2008 21:34

He couldn't even be arsed to get out of his car!!!!!!

The other lady is just as pissed off, apparently the mum told her that the little girl is perfectly ok to be left in the house by herself.

They are both professional people, her dad is now a professional diver, her mum works at the hospital. They own a property in Australia and often go on skiing holidays, but it just goes to show that no matter how intelligent and rich you are, it doesn't make you a good parent.

Stick that in your pipe Xenia!

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edam · 27/02/2008 21:34

blimey, poor kid. Infuriating for you but imagine being her and knowing your parents don't give a toss...

WiiMii · 27/02/2008 21:36

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WallOfSilence · 27/02/2008 21:37

You say she has an older sibling.. where is she at when you are supposed to drop the younger girl off? Isn't she at home?

WiiMii · 27/02/2008 21:38

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MrsDanvers · 27/02/2008 21:40

Agree with Edam- you can't let her think that you don't care either. If a childs' parents are feckless and uncaring then we all have a social responsibility to look out for that child.

hatwoman · 27/02/2008 21:42

hideous behaviour. I don't actually think they are taking risks with their child's safety - because they know that normal decent people (like you rhubarb) will look after her. what selfish twats. you're definitely right to say you can't pick her up anymore. poor girl. the fact that she sees that other parents don't behave like this will make her feel the neglect even more keenly. poor thing.

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Rhubarb · 27/02/2008 21:50

The last time this happened, they said that the older girl was at home but this little girl said "she's at ballet and doesn't finish until 6pm, they know that!" The kid isn't stupid.

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Judy1234 · 27/02/2008 22:01

They don't sound very responsible (nor very educated etc if he's just a diver etc and drive those awful 4 x 4 cars). Some people are just very feckless and take constant advantage. I would just refuse to take her again. Some people are not very organised either.

lucyellensmum · 27/02/2008 22:55

I misread your post there xenia, i thought you meant he must be a dumb fuck if he is just a driver?? Clearly you meant diver. Well im not sure someones professional standing is any indication of their parenting skills, i mean, i am a SAHM and DP is just a carpenter who struggles with reading sometimes. But you know what, we are bloody good parents.

As for the people rhubarb is referring too - i second what Wall of silence said, but too polite to repeat it, yeah right, the cunts!

Emprexia · 27/02/2008 23:01

Personally, i would ring up and report them. 7 years old is NOT ok to be home alone.