Difficult babies turn into easy toddlers and easy babies turn into difficult toddlers

[Mamabear04]

DC1 was a really difficult baby but was a really easy toddler (as easy as a toddler can be). DC2 was such an easy baby, so relaxed and happy but now at 13m is quick to anger and get frustrated. Does anyone else agree that difficult babies turn into easy toddler and easy babies turn into difficult toddlers?

Yes, it's true- YANBU
No, not in my experience - YABU

My difficult baby is currently a difficult toddler perhaps an easier teen, adult? Here's hoping.

Nope. My first was a nightmare from start to finish. She's finally become easy to handle in the last few years. She's 30. DS is 10 and has been an absolute angel to parent the entire time.

Mine was a very easy baby and a very easy toddler, still easy now at 7.

I only have the one so no comparison but she was a difficult baby, a delightful & easy toddler and, 1 month into being a pre-schooler (which I’m classing as 3+), she’s gone difficult again. Is THAT normal?!

Erm not for me. DC1 was a mythical unicorn baby who slept through from 6 weeks, never had a sleep regression, didn't know she was teething, never tantrumed as a toddler and is still a delight ( with a smattering of eye rolls creeping in ) at almost 9.

DC2 was hard from the word go, still doesn't sleep through at 3.5, EPIC tantrums between aged 2-3 although I think theyre calming down now.

DC 3 is a healthy midpoint between the two but IMO nothing humbles you like the second child.

DC1 made me a mum, DC2 made me a parent.

100% for us. We had a great baby and now a toddler that's a handful.
My daughter has slept through the night since 5/6 weeks and probably only woke up maybe 6 or 7 times over the last two years. She never cried and was happy playing with herself and didn't twist or that.

Now that she's 2 she's a handful, I'm exhausted. She will still sleep 11 hours but I've not been able to have a coffee or sit and eat anything from the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to sleep. She's hard work. From trying to break the TV or jumping off the sofa in the house to kicking off over everything. She's constantly on the go. 🤞 It gets easier soon.

My DD was an easy baby sleeping all night by 3 months and an easy toddler too and an easy child right through till she went off to Uni. My DS was a difficult baby as had projectile commuting as his valve didn't close properly until he was about 10 months. Then a difficult toddler who only got speech late and so probably frustrated then diagnosed with ADHD at about 4. Difficult throughout his childhood too. Obviously I know his health issues made the difficulty.

Nope. All the nopes.

Both of mine were very easy babies in their very different ways: DD was velcro but happy as long as she was on me; DS hated being held but played placidly on his own.

Both autistic with a whole heap of other issues.

Mine has been pretty consistent since birth, always been fairly easy going and cheerful, although he didn't sleep through the night until 19 months so got easier in the regard.

It's a no from me too. Daughter was a dream of a baby and toddler, always happy, slept really well, played contentedly on her own, etc. Can't complain at all! She's now 15 and just a really lovely girl. Still time for change though... Although she takes after her dad, who is still a lovely fella at 49, so here's hoping!

Not really. 1 hard baby to sort of difficult toddler to fairly easy child.
1 easy baby to easy toddler to easy child.
I wonder how the teen years will go!

Not for me, the universe was kind to me and gave me an easy baby who became an easy toddler, easy child and is currently an easy teen. Maybe she'll lose the plot in her 20's!

2 lovely easy babies, eldest was a dream of a toddler and still at 10 has yet to have a tantrum, youngest is absolutely feral

YABU

DS1 needed an incredible amount of help
to sleep as a baby, dropped his naps bang on 2 and still is our worst sleeper age 8. He needs input with everything - loves being with people, playing games/sports, just hates being alone. Draining!

DS2 has been an utter gem throughout although of course has his own quirks (shit respiratory system as a baby). Amazing sleeper, napped for 3hrs+ until well past age 3.

DD was also a fab sleeper from birth and is just entering toddlerhood.

For me I’m convinced it’s to do with the birth. DC1 horrendous forceps very very fast traumatic birth which led to torticollis so he was held to sleep in a comfortable position as a newborn and habits formed. Plus personality too. Others were sections.

This is only vaguely true with ASD and even then you need to luck out with a baby who doesn’t also have another SEN or MH condition. DD has ASD and was always a demanding, clingy, angry baby and this became worse as a toddler. Then she hit 5, learned how to write, and things improved. Then she learned how to talk, potty trained, and did a total 180. She’s so much calmer now but she’s still difficult - just in a different way as she will not do ‘as she’s told’. Everything has to be explained thrice and it can be so frustrating when you need to move quickly.

DS has suspected ADHD and was difficult from the womb lol. This has only got worse in toddlerhood lol

My eldest was a very difficult baby and, quite frankly, the toddler from hell. He was a challenging pre-teen too, but thankfully a very easy teenager and is now a wonderfully laid back young man.

Nope.

My easy baby, was an easy toddler, easy child, easy teenager and now an easy young adult.

My two difficult babies, became even more difficult toddlers and then reasonable children, easy teenagers...

My easy happy baby has become an opinionated short tempered toddler, I wouldn't say difficult yet but time will tell. I am somewhat scared the second due in January will be the opposite, a difficult baby, at the same time as the difficult toddler is running rings around me!

I had a difficult child who turned into an easy teenager. Can't say he was remarkable as baby or toddler.

This has been exactly my experience with DS. He’s become a very emotional and sensitive 3 yo having been the most engaging and fun toddler just don’t ask me about his first year.

I think if you have a difficult baby then toddlers can just seem like a walk in the park.

Almost true for me. Daughter was a difficult baby and a feisty (but sweet) toddler then a very easy child.
So was an easy baby then quite a handful as a toddler and child. He's now 10 and much easier.

It was true of my second one - incredibly easy baby until about 8 months old. Now 18 months and incredibly difficult!

Oh yes!! Ds2 was the easiest going baby ever. Super chilled and happy. He turned one and turned into a little monster. Literally on his first birthday! He’s been hard work ever since and he’s nearly 4 now.

Nope, I’ve found their baby personality is their big kid personality.