Concert Tickets for daughters friends

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Am I being unreasonable? In the bundle to purchase tickets for a certain American Female Country/Pop star for her UK tour next year I was able to obtain two tickets but had the option to purchase four. Later my daughter told me her friend had screwed up their presale code and failed to get their two tickets. There were tears to say the least.

I was able to use my last two options and was able to get them two tickets but no money has changed hands. I have just told them we have bought extra tickets that they can have them at cost price. These tickets were £75 each and on the last closing night of the tour (which turns out to be "the night" to go). At the moment it isn't possible to hand the tickets over as the app has locked out the friends and family transfer option until the week of the concert to stamp out ticket touts. In addition to that this is already a sell out tour with resale tickets going for hundreds of £££s.

Since then the "leader" of my daughters friendship group has cut off my daughter and this has stopped the other friend we secured tickets for from communicating with my daughter. They are still talking but only if my daughter initiates the conversation and this is now very rare. We also can see from socials that the group have been going out over the holiday and leaving daughter out of it. From what I can see it all stems from my daughter sitting with the wrong person at a screening at the cinema (which has left me puzzled and feeling the whole thing is daft).

I know the friend who wanted the tickets was in tears when they failed to get their own, but I am so furious about the situation. I am thinking we should just use the extra tickets we bought for ourselves as each night of the tour is a unique experience and our tickets are in June so light nights and the others are in August so darker nights. The dark night shows will have a more spectacular light show and fireworks. Also our tickets were expensive and seated near the front and the second set were cheaper and high up in the stadium, so the different views will also be a different experience.

I think I know the best policy is to just sit on them and see what the situation is next year but I am interested to see what other people think.

Should I take the moral high ground and hand the tickets over once the app allows and once they paid for them as agreed or say no way, you broke my daughter heart by ignoring her over the holiday period so if they want tickets they can go and buy them from a ticket tout for 5 times the face value.

I would never dream of selling them to anyone else as we are massive fans so two trips to the same gig would be massive for us - a real once in lifetime experience. We also had our tickets for a Hyde Park gig cancelled because of Covid in 2020 so this trip is massive for us as long time fans and we are so happy to have tickets for even one show.

Obviously if this all blows over the situation changes so I am only looking at this from the perspective that their friendship is really at an end.

I would definitely not be letting them have the tickets if that's how they're treating your daughter! So mean! Use them yourselves and have a good time! I guess you don't have to decide right this second?

You have bought the tickets, you have not been paid. They are your tickets to do what you like with.
Have you even had confirmation from the parents that they are willing to pay for them? Screwing up the code or trying to save face because they aren’t allowed to go?
Go with your daughter have a great time, don’t make it personal why they aren’t getting them, but instead focus on your DD and continuing to boost her confidence for dealing with these nasty girls.

It sounds like you’d all really enjoy the concert, and you might not get this opportunity again so I would plan to go.

The difficulty will be if come next year DD’s friend/parent suddenly re friends your DD again in the hope of getting her hands on the tickets, and you need to work out a strategy to deal with that.

I would absolutely NOT be selling them the tickets.

If you don't need to decide now, then I'd wait and then let your daughter decide. (How old is she?)

sell out tour with resale tickets going for hundreds of £££s

presuming this is Taylor Swift, the only legit way to resell tickets is via official platforms for a small increase (I think just enough to cover extra admin fees). to deter scalpers the tickets listed on the likes if viagogo for loads more might get cancelled and then resold for face value.

Tell them you've changed your mind and no longer have spare tickets. Sounds like you want to go twice anyway.

If I were in that situation, I would be thinking about how my child would feel if I sold the tickets to people who have been ignoring her. Depending on how she feels you could be giving the message her feelings don't count, or that you can move on from people treating you like rubbish.
However, as someone who has just taken my DS to see the same group three times on their current tour because we love them so much, I would say treat your and your daughters. We had an amazing time, for different reasons, at all three gigs.

Just wait and see. If you ditch them now the friendship is absolutely doomed. There's no coming back from that. I've got tickets for dds and I and glad no friends involved tbh. Minefield!

Go and enjoy two shows with your DD op.

Bullies need to learn that actions have consequences.

No way would I be giving the tickets as things stand now.

Don't be a mug.

I would do nothing now, the transfer isn't even open. Sit on them until the spring, with teens they may be best friends or not talking by then

I would see nearer the time.

Nope. I'd keep the tickets. Fuck around, find out.

or say no way, you broke my daughter heart by ignoring her over the holiday period so if they want tickets they can go and buy them from a ticket tout for 5 times the face value.

This. But it may have changed in a year's time.

I wouldn't say anything about why you're not handing over the tickets. Don't stoop to these young girls' tactics. Just ignore ... although who knows? Your DD may be friends with them again by then.

Having seen her in Seattle - go twice!!! I am not a Swiftie (just, seemingly, married to one) but it was probably the best concert I've ever been to - and I've been to LOTS!! Don't waste the tickets on someone who can't give you kid the time of day.

I’d ignore the behaviour - it’s a long way off and they may make friends before then - but I wouldn’t mention the tickets or hand anything over yet. If she asks you and your dd can decide how to handle things but I’d just play it by ear for now.

I'd keep the tickets.

If you decided to go only to one of the shows you'd have no trouble selling them on, even at very short notice

I would, and in fact will be, going twice.

Sing Karma extra loud.

I can't stand girls like this.

I suppose if they are not approaching your daughter at all, how are they going to bring up the issue of the tickets?

I got tickets for the same concert - I'm guessing Taylor Swift lol - also taking my dd

There is no way I would now sell them at cost - actually I wouldn't sell them at all! They want to be bitches - actions have consequences.
If they don't want to be friends with your DD anymore then fine. They can do that; but they then don't get favours from her / you. Especially over something so dumb as sitting with someone in a cinema!
I'd go twice! Have the best time (twice) and make amazing memories with her

Yep - I think AXS have capped the uplift to 10% but then they add a £90 handling fee. So for the £75 tickets it not a big deal at the moment. The floodgates will open when they enable to friends and family transfer option in the week before the concert. But a true Swifte would never sell a ticket for more than face value. I would certainly rather use them than sell them.

I think the correct and only thing to do would be to send your bank details and the cost amount and then transfer them as soon as you are allowed directly to me.

If that isn't an option I guess you should go to both shows.

Sorry meant to quote SummaLuvin · Today 16:39

I can understand that you don't want to give them the tickets.

However I do think that leaving it a year and then potentially reneging on a promise(?) at the last minute doesn't leave you on the moral high ground. I'd tell them now that you are afraid that you can't give them the tickets. No need to expand on why unless you want to. Then they've a year to find an alternative source.