AIBU to be madly in love with my reflection and want the same for everyone else

[Aworldofwonder]

Ok so some context -

I battled cancer two years ago and became utterly unrecognisable. I was sore, sad and scared.

Now I look at myself in the mirror and want to lick my reflection.

I don't expect everyone to look at me and think the same. In fact I am sure many people look at me and think shame she doesn't lose a couple of stone or see a plump middle aged woman or most likely don't even look at me. But I don't give a shit!

Because I look at myself and think wow, look at that thick bouncy hair, look at that smile and those sparkly eyes, look at those shapely legs, look at those fabulous curves.

It is the best feeling and you need nobody's permission to have it. So I implore all of you, forget your perceived flaws, find your fabulous and celebrate it.

You are so not being unreasonable 💐

Nothing remotely unreasonable about this. I wish I too could view myself in the same way!

Thank you and I hope you feel the same way about yourself too. 😘

Can't you find one lovely thing about yourself and focus heavily on that?

What a lovely post! So happy for you!
I hated my body for years, mainly due to an unkind man who told me I was fat and disgusting after I kindly bore him two children. It took so long to get over it, but I found a good guy who loved me regardless and I also discovered running, cycling and swimming. I know I'll never be classically beautiful, but I love that I can look in the mirror without fear or contempt, and see a 50 something who is strong and happy.
Well done on battling the shitty disease and coming out the other side loving yourself!

LOVE this post, I am going to try and look at myself like this too x

What a great post!

Lovely post, it reminds a bit of today's womans hour about overcoming adversity, worth a listen

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You stunner 🥰 x going to shamelessly steal your quote, I’m 62 and just suddenly feel I look old , really I should be celebrating that I’m fit ( ish ) healthy and have a lovely life. Enjoy this gorgeous. Afternoon x

I love my body too. I love living in it, how it moves, reacts, warns me. It is free from pain. I can snuggle into it. My children, dogs and cats all want to be on it. It can stretch, fold, bend, dance, feel,carry me. I reward it with an hour of yoga every morning. I could definitely look after it better but am hopeful that the more I appreciate it, the better I will treat it ( looking at you, can of Coke Zero beside me) I am really grateful for the body I have and how it is unique to me.

That's lovely OP. Life is so precious, so short. We must grasp it, love ourselves and the gift we have been given, this tiny piece of life in the huge scale of geologicical/cosmic time. Don't fret about the insignificant things and what other people think.

I'm so glad you are so happy after what you've been through OP.

That's gorgeous - you're gorgeous! going to go find a mirror to find my gorgeousness.

This post made me smile. Nothing else to say really ! 😀

This is lovely.

Please don't lick your reflection, think of the germs!

I'm OK with my body, it's functional and not all together hideous.

I love this!! If you want to lick your reflection you bloody well do it ❤️

That’s great OP.

The world would be so much nicer if people were happier with themselves.

That’s lovely! And definitely not unreasonable!
i am very happy with my reflection most of the time as long as I’ve been doing my workouts and not on a lazy streak.

What a fantastic post!

I am no looker, but in general people do smile back at me when I smile at them.

And my incredible, awesome, very wobbly tummy has grown a whole 2 humans in it!

And at almost 54 years of age, my lush brown hair is only just beginning to go grey! And for the purposes of this thread, I shall ignore how lush my hair is on my chin and bikini line ☺️

I love this and I can actually relate to it. I too had cancer a couple of years ago and I'm not saying I'd recommend it (!) but I frequently find myself thinking how bloody stunning I look with my new longish hair complete with new (chemo) curls and steroid weight gain mostly gone. Objectively speaking I probably look slightly worse than pre-diagnosis but as we all know, our self esteem is much more about frame of mind than anything else and mine is through the roof.

I’ve got something in my eye!!

Thanks @Aworldofwonder i needed to read this today. I celebrate you and all the beautiful women on here.

LOVE this! I'm going through breast cancer treatment and I struggle to like my reflection right now. No hair, no eyebrows, feel like I've aged a decade. I hope to feel the way you do when this treatment is all done x

What a lovely post. ❤️ it’s made my day. Made me think why that should be me! It’s going to be me! I’ve been stressing about packing and how I’ll look on holiday. Now I’m just going to be fabulous and grateful to have a holiday. Thank you OP.

Lovely post, so glad you are recovering and wishing you all the best as you continue to kick cancer's arse.

I feel the same right now but for a different reason. Ten days post c-section, I am gradually 'deflating', breastfeeding (well expressing, DD has suspected tongue tie) tired, etc