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Dangerous dog near miss?

294 replies

volcan · 06/08/2023 23:59

I feel l Iike we had a near miss today and I feel awful about it. DC (5) was cycling around a housing estate where I was visiting a friend when he disappeared off round a corner with a group of kids. It was away from the main road so I wasn't overly concerned but when they didn't appear around the next corner I walked over to investigate. What I found was a massive bully type dog walking alongside my DC whilst it's owner was frantically trying to get it back into the house. The owner being a petite young girl holding a tiny baby. The dog was totally ignoring her and carried on tracking my DS. I told my DS to slow down so the dog would stop 'chasing' him and we got back to the car safely. My heart was in my mouth and still is. When I asked my DS what had happened he said the dog has escaped and he was trying to catch it to help the woman. I know this has been done a million times but my AIBU is that people should be prosecuted for allowing these animals out in public uncontrolled?

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Allaboutme2 · 07/08/2023 14:50

Boomboom22 · 07/08/2023 14:46

I think you are crazy if you think a bully dig getting free is the same as a kid going out of sight or lost in a shop.
Children are humans by the way. No comparison ever with dangerous animals.

Humans are animals too. The most dangerous of all.

VinEtFromage · 07/08/2023 14:50

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 01:15

why is she holding a baby and walking a dog at the same time ? stupid woman

Comprehension levels on the decline.

try reading the OP. She wasn't walking the dog, she was trying to get it back in the house.

ReadtheReviews · 07/08/2023 14:55

Don't let kids out if sight at that age. Why do people own these dogs? I get it op. The owner had no control, the dog was huge and a fighting breed, and overly interested in an unfamiliar to it little boy.There was a potential for it to go wrong. Also, there's a preponderance for dogs who aren't trained, exercised or treated properly, living in bad areas and if you add fighting breeds into the mix, of course it is scary. You should have been more aware of the potential for dodgy situations where you were anyway.

PrrrplePineapple · 07/08/2023 14:56

CBAanymoreTBH · 07/08/2023 14:40

You don't know anything about dogs at all if you think that being "safe" around their own family members correlates to any behaviours towards those outside of it.

Sure. Lifetime dog owner but know nothing about dogs. You're as dramatic and hyperbolic as the OP.

Tiredanddistracted · 07/08/2023 15:08

Sorry, this is so weird. Pitbulls are banned here, and rightly so. I know some arseholes keep them anyway, but there's no evidence this dog was a pit bull?

CBAanymoreTBH · 07/08/2023 15:10

She says bully type...they are all pretty much the same genetically

VinEtFromage · 07/08/2023 15:12

Turtleshell01 · 07/08/2023 11:45

OP I get it, these dogs are more dangerous than other dogs so there is no comparison to a chihuahua etc. It’s like comparing a lion and a mouse. Both can be aggressive but the potential for damage they could cause is miles apart.

I don’t let my kids anywhere near these dogs because the owners often, not always, think that their dog wouldn’t hurt a fly, underestimate and don’t take enough responsibility for them.

For example, the flats we used to live in - one resident used to let their cane corso roam around the front and back garden freely. I wouldn’t let my DS out for this reason. The dog was nice enough but if my son annoyed it for example, the consequences could have been awful.

Also had a (mixed) pit bull get in through patio door and start sniffing at the baby. The owners just laughed from the garden as if it was sweet. I was not impressed to say the least.

When I was a teenager I knew someone that had a pit bull who used to sleep in my coat when a puppy, we had a lovely bond and he was a really sweet dog. One day a couple of years later, I had to pull it away from another dog it was barking at, the dog turned on me and tried to get to my neck and forearm. It literally wanted to kill me. The strength of it was unreal and it was only because there were other adults to restrain it that no one was properly hurt. The owner was shook by this and decided to get rid not long after.

DP was nipped by an XL bully a few months back, totally unprovoked. Just walking past and bit the back of his thigh.

Guess how many times I’ve had these kinds of experiences with labs, spaniels, pugs etc? Zero.

I agree that your son should be able to play out safely on a quiet estate away from cars and it pisses me off that owners let these dangerous breeds wander around.

She didn't LET it wander about, she was trying to get it back in the house.

OP's 5 year old chased it in his bike. That's really helpful.

🙇🏻‍♀️🙇🏻‍♀️

WildLavender · 07/08/2023 15:17

I wouldn't want an XL bully anywhere near my kids. Those things are not pets.

Tiredanddistracted · 07/08/2023 15:21

CBAanymoreTBH · 07/08/2023 15:10

She says bully type...they are all pretty much the same genetically

'Bully type' also includes French bulldogs, which most people don't run from, shrieking in terror. From what I know, it's a very large umbrella.

Tbh, I wouldn't own one and I would feel the same reservations about my child being near one off-lead, unless I knew personally that there was no risk. But, from the content of the OP, there is simply no call, in law, for a report or a prosecution.

The law states that dogs, including bully types, can be off lead in public spaces such as parks etc. The dog was off-lead, by mistake, on a street and the owners reaction shows very clearly that this was not a routine thing as she obviously wanted it back in the house. The OP's recount of events shows it wasn't acting in a dangerous or aggressive way. The dog went back into the house and everyone was fine. I'd be extremely surprised if the dog warden even paid a visit in these circumstances.

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 15:27

VinEtFromage · 07/08/2023 14:50

Comprehension levels on the decline.

try reading the OP. She wasn't walking the dog, she was trying to get it back in the house.

nobody asked you

HiHoHiHoltsOffToWorkWeGo · 07/08/2023 15:28

JusthereforXmas · 07/08/2023 12:13

Far more people are attacked by lap dogs (Dachshunds, Pomaranians etc...) and small hunting dogs (Jack Russell etc...) than 'bull breads'.

Bull breads are more likely to kill IF they do attack but they are not inherently more likely to attack.

Jack Russells actually pose the highest risk to young children out of all breads because the have a long history of killing children but are seriously underestimated by most people so usually trusted in more of a position to attack.

The only fatal dog attacks in the UK involving Jack Russells are

  • 2012, 8 day old baby, Jack Russell crossed with something unspecified
  • 2009, 3.5 month old baby - but there was also a Staffordshire bull terrier involved
  • 1986, 5 day old baby

There are zero deaths, ever, in the UK involving either dachshunds or Pomeranians.

That's 3 deaths over almost 40 years, all involving very tiny, delicate babies who, to be blunt, don't take much effort to kill.

In the last 12 months alone, there have been 4 deaths involving an XL Bully, 2 involving the closely related American Bulldog, and 2 more recent ones involving an unconfirmed breed. All but one of the victims were adults.

There are small, feisty breeds which are entirely capable of drawing blood, but there's no way they're capable of bringing down an adult and nor are they frequently killing children.

Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fatal_dog_attacks_in_the_United_Kingdom

The OP is being ridiculous, but you are also being ridiculous if you seriously think Jack Russells are as much of a danger to children as XL Bullies.

Helpmepleaseimbusy · 07/08/2023 16:35

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 15:27

nobody asked you

But it's a forum. Technically the OP asked her.

Helpmepleaseimbusy · 07/08/2023 16:37

CBAanymoreTBH · 07/08/2023 14:37

The bikes are not an external force

Regardless. 10 deaths compared to the amount of people and dogs in thr country. Its not a high probability.

You're missing the point. OP is being hugely unreasonable given nothing happened and the consensus figures

WildLavender · 07/08/2023 16:42

Helpmepleaseimbusy · 07/08/2023 16:37

Regardless. 10 deaths compared to the amount of people and dogs in thr country. Its not a high probability.

You're missing the point. OP is being hugely unreasonable given nothing happened and the consensus figures

The rate at which dog attacks are increasing is a concern though. Even if the number of fatalities are low (though still completely unacceptable) they are rising sharply. We all learnt a lesson about exponential growth in the pandemic. Now we have more and more badly bred dogs designed for power and aggression. The number of attacks, injuries and deaths are going up - at what point do you acknowledge it's a problem?

Cheeseandlobster · 07/08/2023 16:56

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 15:27

nobody asked you

Not only are your comprehension skills lacking but you seem to be unable to grasp the concept of a discussion forum 🙄

Mwnci123 · 07/08/2023 17:17

volcan · 07/08/2023 10:42

Lets call a spade a spade. I would not have had this reaction if he had decided to chase after, say a golden retriever. Yes I may have over reacted given that 'nothing happened' but these breeds are known to be dangerous, some are even banned, so I don't think it is unreasonable to expect that this dog was at the very least under control in a area where children are playing. Noted about keeping an eye on my child. But he went down a path (not a road) in a housing estate and when he failed to come back into my view I went to find him. It really would be quite sad if even this very limited amount of freedom to play was not possible.

I wholly agree OP.

Helpmepleaseimbusy · 07/08/2023 17:59

WildLavender · 07/08/2023 16:42

The rate at which dog attacks are increasing is a concern though. Even if the number of fatalities are low (though still completely unacceptable) they are rising sharply. We all learnt a lesson about exponential growth in the pandemic. Now we have more and more badly bred dogs designed for power and aggression. The number of attacks, injuries and deaths are going up - at what point do you acknowledge it's a problem?

It's not for me to decide for others when they should be alarmed and when to decide for them if it is or is not a problem.

My response was to the OP question in AIBU. In this instance, I think she is.

VinEtFromage · 07/08/2023 18:19

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 15:27

nobody asked you

@truthhurts23

😂😂you posted on a public forum.

truthhurts23 · 07/08/2023 18:20

VinEtFromage · 07/08/2023 18:19

@truthhurts23

😂😂you posted on a public forum.

🙄

Moreorlessmentallystable · 07/08/2023 18:22

What an idiot you sound reacting like that and taking personally. You must be one of those owners that have their dogs off a leash and the dog doesn't go to them when they are called ...

caramac04 · 07/08/2023 18:40

Blimey I wouldn’t have let a 5 year old be cycling out of my sight. My kids weren’t allowed out to play unsupervised until they were 8.

LpPp · 07/08/2023 19:11

If anything, i would have thought this ‘altercation’ would have had the opposite effect on you? You obviously have a fear or ‘bully-type’ dogs, but this one wasn’t viscous, dangerous or out of control. Sounds like he was just enjoying a bit of freedom, being a bit naughty and ignoring its owner, and enjoying the company your son 🤷🏼‍♀️. Owner was most likely panicked because his recall is bad AND because people like you will wrongly accuse her of having a dangerous dog.

I would have thought this incident would have taught you that your opinion of ‘bully-type’ dogs was wrong.

I own a very large mastiff and she is over friendly. Regularly accused of being aggressive and dangerous. She isn't. Like I say to those people… If she was aggressive or dangerous she could have just killed your dog who started on her, but she didn’t even touch it.

if that ‘bully-type’ dog was so dangerous and out of control why didn’t it attack your son? That was a perfect opportunity for it to do so. Out, off the lead, obviously owner doesn’t have much control to get it back and your son was unsupervised.

get a grip 🙄

Boomboom22 · 07/08/2023 20:03

When dog people say friendly I take it to mean they lack control over their dog and let it approach other people without permission. I think you need to reassess the risk pp!

WhatWhereWho · 07/08/2023 20:13

volcan · 06/08/2023 23:59

I feel l Iike we had a near miss today and I feel awful about it. DC (5) was cycling around a housing estate where I was visiting a friend when he disappeared off round a corner with a group of kids. It was away from the main road so I wasn't overly concerned but when they didn't appear around the next corner I walked over to investigate. What I found was a massive bully type dog walking alongside my DC whilst it's owner was frantically trying to get it back into the house. The owner being a petite young girl holding a tiny baby. The dog was totally ignoring her and carried on tracking my DS. I told my DS to slow down so the dog would stop 'chasing' him and we got back to the car safely. My heart was in my mouth and still is. When I asked my DS what had happened he said the dog has escaped and he was trying to catch it to help the woman. I know this has been done a million times but my AIBU is that people should be prosecuted for allowing these animals out in public uncontrolled?

So the dog was just walking along, did nothing and your child approached it on a bike? No the dog (or any) should be unaccompanied and it should have proper recall. However you let your child be unattended, out of sight, to go after an unaccompanied dog with his bike. If I were you I would also be looking at your decisions

Any plans to teach your son not to chase dogs with his bike?

Missingmyusername · 07/08/2023 20:19

volcan · 07/08/2023 00:33

OK I get it. My 5-year old should be locked up and the bike binned whilst the dangerous dog is allowed to roam around unsupervised.

But it wasn’t a dangerous dog. It didn’t do anything. If it had been a dangerous dog it sounds like it has ample chance to attack your unsupervised child.

I would panic if my Lab escaped out on to a road as he has zero road sense. He’s also overly friendly and could easily knock a child over, think it’s a game, cover them in kisses and then the parent goes nuts!

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