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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not have given up my seat on the bus?

59 replies

SpeedbirdSquawker · 04/08/2023 20:40

I get on a very busy bus in the evening after work, but usually everyone gets a seat.

The bus layout means there's a set of two seats at the front of the bus after the luggage racks, then the wheelchair space behind and then the other seats begin. Those first two seats are great for a bit of peace and quiet from the rest of the bus passengers.

Tonight, I waited for a while and let a few buses go before I got on as I prefer a quieter bus anyway and I like those front seats. I have a condition that causes anaemia and fatigue so they're easy to get to, too.

The bus infront broke down, so all the passengers (there were lots!) poured onto the bus I was on. There's a lady I see occasionally who gets on with a stick, obvious poor mobility who sits on those front two seats. She hogs the one closest to the window with her bags so no one else can sit down.

Tonight, she was one of the unlucky ones whose bus broke down, she came over to the seat I was on, pointed and asked if she could sit down. I looked at the empty seat beside me, smiled and said, "of course". Well, she gave me a look that was frankly nasty, huffed and went over to the side facing seats which face the wheelchair space. There was plenty of room for her on the seat beside me, and there was no way I was moving on an already busy bus so she could have both seats to herself and her bags. I clocked her glaring at me on the journey. WIBU to not move for her?

OP posts:
DrFoxtrot · 04/08/2023 20:46

YWNBU she could have had a seat next to you, you are not moving for the sake of someone else's bags!

crazeekat · 04/08/2023 20:48

nope u done nothing wrong at all.

HarrietJet · 04/08/2023 20:49

She wanted your seat for her bags?!

User1786 · 04/08/2023 20:50

I’d love to know why any one could have voted UABU?

Trinity65 · 04/08/2023 21:31

YANBU at all

NoKnit · 04/08/2023 21:59

We're you sitting on the outside and not offering to shift over so she could take your seat easily but having to somehow get over you to sit in the seat next to you?

Need a diagram of where you were sitting to be fair

NoKnit · 04/08/2023 22:01

Were you sitting I mean oops 😬 autocorrect

MaxwellCat · 04/08/2023 22:10

NoKnit · 04/08/2023 21:59

We're you sitting on the outside and not offering to shift over so she could take your seat easily but having to somehow get over you to sit in the seat next to you?

Need a diagram of where you were sitting to be fair

Thats how I took it as people don't ask to sit down they just do so op must have been on the outside seat.

caringcarer · 05/08/2023 00:02

I'd have moved across the inside seat so she could take the one outside.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2023 00:43

ah i said yanbu but if you basically sat on the outside and its one of those seats where its a step up and you didn't even move your legs so she can get past, yabu

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/08/2023 01:02

Is it one of those seats that’s a bit more “benchy” than the others? That some people might interpret as just one bigger seat?

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 05/08/2023 01:05

Nope, and someone needs to tell her that her bags didn’t buy a seat

1993GoToo · 05/08/2023 01:08

User1786 · 04/08/2023 20:50

I’d love to know why any one could have voted UABU?

Sometimes I do just for the sheer hell of it when a "AIBU" is so ruddy obvious.

I know, I am a kerraaazzzyyy lady

gillefc82 · 05/08/2023 01:28

Seats are for bums, not bags. Definitely not unreasonable.

DragonDoor · 05/08/2023 01:35

SleepingStandingUp · 05/08/2023 00:43

ah i said yanbu but if you basically sat on the outside and its one of those seats where its a step up and you didn't even move your legs so she can get past, yabu

OP was sitting in the window seat.

This was the other passengers preferred seat- and the one she wanted OP to move from.

nalabae · 05/08/2023 02:06

She's a selfish entitled twat

AngryBirdsNoMore · 05/08/2023 02:09

NoKnit · 04/08/2023 21:59

We're you sitting on the outside and not offering to shift over so she could take your seat easily but having to somehow get over you to sit in the seat next to you?

Need a diagram of where you were sitting to be fair

Waiting for the answer to this before voting!

OCaptain · 05/08/2023 02:17

You missed a word, OP - you omitted to mention she was an elderly woman. (Although I suppose 'huffing' and 'glaring' implies that anyway.)

Original poster
SpeedbirdSquawker · 05/08/2023 07:05

@OCaptain She wasn't old. Maybe early 60's?

I was occupying the window seat so no need for me to shuffle over to let her on. The aisle seat was available for her to park her bum next to me.

OP posts:
Annaishere · 05/08/2023 07:07

Maybe she needed the window seat to stop her falling into the aisle

WeWereInParis · 05/08/2023 07:11

Annaishere · 05/08/2023 07:07

Maybe she needed the window seat to stop her falling into the aisle

OP says this woman normally sits on the aisle seat, with her bags on the window seat.

Annaishere · 05/08/2023 07:13

Oh

greenteaandmarshmallows · 05/08/2023 07:14

SpeedbirdSquawker · 05/08/2023 07:05

@OCaptain She wasn't old. Maybe early 60's?

I was occupying the window seat so no need for me to shuffle over to let her on. The aisle seat was available for her to park her bum next to me.

Then no yanbu

EarringsandLipstick · 05/08/2023 07:27

You can't really think you were UR, OP, or that anyone else would?

Annaishere · 05/08/2023 07:27

I like to put my bags on a seat as well but I wouldn’t get angry with someone for not moving so I could have two seats