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Original poster

To be upset DS went to the cinema but i’d already bought tickets

35 replies

artworkincluded · 03/08/2023 18:18

When the Barbie movie came out a few weeks ago, DS mentioned he wanted to see it and the other night he mentioned he still does but he doesn't have anyone to watch it with as his friends don't want to watch it. I bought tickets for Monday for just me and him as we don't do anything fun, just the two of us often - if at all.

He went out today with his friends and came back and told me he'd been to see the barbie movie.

AIBU to be upset?

OP posts:
unvillage · 03/08/2023 18:19

Did you tell him you'd bought tickets?

Tacocatgoatcheesepizza · 03/08/2023 18:20

It depends if he knew you’d bought the tickets

lunar1 · 03/08/2023 18:20

I think it's been out a while now, did he even know you bought the tickets

Qwerty21 · 03/08/2023 18:21

You've not provided us with the key information of whether or not he knew you'd booked it

cocksstrideintheevening · 03/08/2023 18:21

Yanbu if he knew, YABU I'd he didn't

TimeToMoveIt · 03/08/2023 18:21

Can't he just go again with you? My ds is going with me and then with friends

Totaly · 03/08/2023 18:21

That’s kids for you!

I told DD I’d got tickets for an event and her reply was ‘me and friend can’t wait to go!’

I wanted to go!

That’s children for you.

Lougle · 03/08/2023 18:22

I do think this is going to depend on whether he knew you intended to watch it with him, or whether you decided to surprise him.

Kernsworld · 03/08/2023 18:22

Go again.
Did he even know you had tickets?

Peony654 · 03/08/2023 18:22

Depends if he knew or not. But surely just go with someone else.

AnObserverInThisDarkWorld · 03/08/2023 18:24

As above, did he know you'd got tickets?

VisionsOfSplendour · 03/08/2023 18:30

lunar1 · 03/08/2023 18:20

I think it's been out a while now, did he even know you bought the tickets

It's been out for two weeks, I dont know if that's a long time but I'm not sure that's a factor is it?

Quoria · 03/08/2023 18:40

Was he in a group of friends? If everyone in the group wanted to see it, I think it's unlikely a teenager would make everyone else choose something else because their mum had bought tickets.

Iamclearlyamug · 03/08/2023 18:46

If he didn't know you'd bought them YABU, if he did and went anyway YANBU but still need to understand that he'd likely have preferred to go with his mates anyway 🤦‍♀️

PrideNails · 03/08/2023 18:57

YABU. Can't he still watch it with you?

Sirzy · 03/08/2023 18:58

Did he know you have got tickets?

either way doesn’t mean you can’t still go together to see it

Original poster
artworkincluded · 03/08/2023 19:09

Yes, he knew i’d already bought tickets.

OP posts:
Dulra · 03/08/2023 19:16

Aw I'm sure you're disappointed but your son most likely didn't want to be seen at the Barbie movie with his mum 🙈 going with his mates was his way out of that scenario. Can you go with someone else? If not get him to refund you the price of his ticket. As a parent we've to get used to being dumped by our kids when a better offer comes along 😃

WeetabixTowels · 03/08/2023 19:18

How old is he?

He can just go twice surely

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 03/08/2023 19:19

Dulra · 03/08/2023 19:16

Aw I'm sure you're disappointed but your son most likely didn't want to be seen at the Barbie movie with his mum 🙈 going with his mates was his way out of that scenario. Can you go with someone else? If not get him to refund you the price of his ticket. As a parent we've to get used to being dumped by our kids when a better offer comes along 😃

Why wouldn't he want to go with his mum? My teens went with me and my mum.

Dulra · 03/08/2023 19:21

imnotwhoyouthinkiam · 03/08/2023 19:19

Why wouldn't he want to go with his mum? My teens went with me and my mum.

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Fair enough, my very awkward self conscious 13 year old doesn't even like going to the shopping centre with me in case she bumps into someone she knows

cansu · 03/08/2023 19:22

I think you are being a bit daft. He obviously was with friends who wanted to go and didn't want to be left out so he went. Find a friend to go with you.

Nemesias · 03/08/2023 19:24

Hope he liked it I’d be making him go again with me

CluelessHamster · 03/08/2023 19:25

Bless you, I would be secretly really gutted but would let it go. It's the sort of thing he may look back on in the future and appreciate was a bit shitty (I'm thinking of the time I blew off an event with my parents to be with my boyfriend instead!) but wouldn't really understand now. I'll bet he doesn't grasp how much you were looking forward to spending the time with him and perhaps even thinks he's done you a favour by letting you off going! If his mates all decided last minute (as youngsters do!) to go to the movie, there's probably not many teens who would say no thanks, I'm going with mum on Monday. Hopefully you can get a refund on the tickets or exchange them for another film maybe? I feel for you though xx

melj1213 · 03/08/2023 19:31

A) Did he know you'd bought tickets?

B) Did you only get the tickets because he wanted to go or would you have gone anyway?

I went to Barbie on opening day "with" teen DD (I was doing the Barbenheimer double feature with a friend and met DD and her friend before the Barbie film and sat as a group of 4 but she was with her friend and I was with mine) but we were both always going to see it at the cinema anyway, whether it was together or with our own friends.

There's nothing to stop you seeing the same film more than once with different groups (I've seen Oppenheimer three times already and am going again next week, all with different people and DD went back to Barbie with a different group of friends this week) but I can imagine it would be annoying if you didn't plan to see Barbie at the cinema, bought tickets to support DS and have some 1:1 parent/child time only to find out he went with someone else so you could have saved the money to do something else or see another film etc.

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