To be upset DS went to the cinema but i’d already bought tickets

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When the Barbie movie came out a few weeks ago, DS mentioned he wanted to see it and the other night he mentioned he still does but he doesn't have anyone to watch it with as his friends don't want to watch it. I bought tickets for Monday for just me and him as we don't do anything fun, just the two of us often - if at all.

He went out today with his friends and came back and told me he'd been to see the barbie movie.

AIBU to be upset?

I think it depends how he presented it to you.

If he was out with his mates and they were all going to see it, even knowing you'd bought tickets, I don't think it was wrong of him to go. If he was apologetic about it/reassuring you he'd be happy to go again etc, I'd get it, but if he didn't feel at all bad then I would be annoyed.

Are you sure he went, or did he just say that because he doesn’t want to go with you? 🙈

I get why you’re feeling a bit disappointed but chances are they were out in the rain and his mate was mithering him to watch it and so he thought they’d be no harm in seeing it twice.

As you say he really wanted to watch it and so he’ll most likely enjoy going twice.

I wouldn’t think too much into it.

You are OK to be upset. But his mates probably suggested going and he didn't want to look "uncool" by saying he couldn't because his mom already had tickets.

Go again with him or take someone else

This is why I never book tickets until the day I'm going 🤣

Yes, it was thoughtless of him.

@Dulra my 15 year old dd asked to go with me. Some teens like hanging with their parents (she has friends too but they’re a bit unreliable and flakey so she knows I wouldn’t change my mind because I was “tired”)

My DDs went with friends then went again with me and DH. Surely he can go again with you or you can take a friend?

Well if he knew you'd got the tickets then it is a bit wasteful. On the other hand if everyone he was hanging out with was going and he had the choice to go or come home alone, that would have been a tough choice for a teenager. I assume he is going to go again with tou so that his lovely thoughtful Mum doesn't miss out on the experience?

That’s a shame. It may have been thoughtless rather than deliberate sabotage.

The way I’d look at it is I would rather my son was going out and doing things with his friends than having to do those same things with his mum because he didn’t have anyone in his peer group to go with. It’s just a movie, it can be seen more than once, you can go with your son if he wants to go again or you go with a friend of your own. I wouldn’t be upset by it at all.