How often do you see friends? And do hobbies?

[C1239]

I feel like I’m getting a bit lazy but weekdays are so busy with work, after work I just want to crash. Then weekends I want to chill!! How often does everyone else see friends or do hobbies?

I meet friends a few times a week for walks or coffee. I also walk by myself and meet friends for days or evenings out once or twice a month.
I try to read but with 3 kids and work it's hard to fit anything else in.
I'd rather just watch tv.

Not nearly enough as I don't have as many friends as I would like. Trying to make more though.
I must say it is lovely to read an unusual MN thread emphasising the importance of friends. Usually posters say friendships are drama, too much work or their husbands are their best friends. 🙄

Hobbies - yoga on Tuesday, Pilates on Wednesday. I do some painting throughout the week.

Friends - 1 to 2 times a week. Usually one in weekend and one on weekdays. Often they cross over with my hobbies though.

I go out twice a week. Once midweek for a hobby. It's my protected time so I very rarely miss it and I need it to keep me sane. A couple of times a month, I do a weekend evening related to the hobby. Other weeks, my partner and I go out and see a live local band.

Rest of the week is spent working or in work recovery mode. I don't see friends during term time unless they've gone to see the same band etc. I go to bed around 8.30pm on Friday to 😴 I've tried going out on a Friday a few times but I'm just a waste of time and space.

A lot of my friends are in similar professions so working a lot or retired so on holiday a lot so we're all busy in our own ways. I try and see friends during school hols but, so far this year, I've not managed that either!

Lax here could go months. Nobody has time now either kids sports or parents in their 80s or 90s to juggle. I did catch up with some lately as Ive time off school job. But they in same boat or younger kids.

Reached out to 2 couples the men worked together. The usual reply must meet up. Left it up to them now re dates...

I see one set of friends once a week for dinner at one of our houses.

I see another friend once or twice a week adhoc, often it's an afterwork pint.

I see another friend twice a week ish for a swim or a walk.

Some days I see multiple friends on the same day, ie a swim with one friend and dinner at anothers.

I see other friends every few months for a spa day/catch up/meal out/night out or bottomless brunches.

Hobbies, swimming or walking is done with one friend so two/three times a week for a sociable swim/walk but will go for a walk most days even if it's by myself.

My main hobby is going on adventures, haven't been able to do a lot of that this year or last but that's something I love doing and drag dc along.

Actually my main hobby is bloody MN and I wish I could stop it.

I see close friends very infrequently as they’re all over the country, although we chat loads on social media. I have a drink with work mates after work maybe once every two or three weeks. That’s fine with me; I’m not that sociable and happy enough with my own company or with DP.

I probably do ‘hobbies’ most days, but that’s because my hobbies are mostly things I do at home - reading, writing, art type stuff etc. I go for a run a few times a week if that counts. But I don’t go to any clubs or classes or anything. I’m not a big fan of organised fun, in general.

See friends, probably every other week or so. Sometimes a group, sometimes ‘one on one’ (plus kids, all of us have under 3s), always daytime, never evening. Can’t remember the last girls night I had!

Hobbies, I guess everyday. I ride, so strap the wee one onto his pony and drag him along with me. It works well! I used to surf and shoot and play rugby as well, but I haven’t the time now. Life has moved on, now I have my son.

Friends... almost never now. My closest friends either moved away or are too busy with their own family.

Hobbies... daily. You can't get good at something without regular practice so I prioritise it

I see friends most days but sometimes just for a a half hour dog walk or quick coffee. We have a meal/night out together most weeks and b pop in if any of us are passing by.

Hobbies, I run 3 times a week, play sport twice a week, do a dance class every couple of weeks, try to go swimming once a week, some of those things I do with friends. I like to read, listen to music and cook too. And spend far too much time on here and tiktok. 😬

Do my hobby every morning at 5.30am + night 5pm (horses) then ride 3 times a week. Walk + train my gundog twice a day every day. Competitions both horse/dog every few weekends and then in shooting season I'm out with the dog every Saturday 6am-4pm ish.
I'm generally knackered and in bed by 8pm but I can't stand doing nothing.

Most of my friends are through either hobby so I see them frequently but as we are all so busy we meet up outside our hobbies for dinner etc about once every 3 months.

3+ times a week doing my main sport
My friends are the people I do this sport with and I see them variously separate to the sport about once a week

My hobby is running with friends, which I do once or twice a week. (My other hobby is reading so that's obviously on my own.)

I also meet up with friends socially (for coffee or dinner or whatever) maybe once a week or fortnight.

@C1239 no hobbies here. My family, husband walking my dog keep me occupied and I like to be lazy in the evening. I see my friends once a week at most.

Twice a week hobby evening - team sport. Love it.

I must say it is lovely to read an unusual MN thread emphasising the importance of friends. Usually posters say friendships are drama, too much work or their husbands are their best friends. @Lentilweaver
I agree!! It's nice to hear from people who socialise outside their nuclear families, weekends aren't necessarily "family time only" and they need more than their DHs ...apart from @jammycrisp maybe ...?

My friend's live away as I've moved around a lot but I see at least one friend every weekend and talk on the phone/WhatsApp most days.

Two or three times a week. Quiz, drinks, dinner, maybe cinema. I have a couple of hobbies which are solitary ie gym or running. Or craft which I do at home alongside DH who does his own craft. He goes out a similar amount but doesn’t do the gym.

I want to start regular yoga classes so I meet more people. My mum once said I “had too many friends” hahahahahha

I don't really have any organised/routine hobbies.

I try not to socialise with friends more than once a week. I really value my friendships and enjoy socialising, but DP and I work FT and have three DC who have a lot of evening activities, so that makes it tricky. Plus I find I'm now too old and tired to go out more than once a week. Even just an early dinner out takes its toll!

I see friends as in bumping into them and having a chat for 10 minutes every couple days. Actually see friends as in doing a planned activity together or sitting down together for a cup of tea in a non-spontaneous way, maybe once a month.

Hobbies I do more regularly, maybe 1-3 times a week, but all my hobbies are solo ones - swimming, walking, horses, gardening, etc. and not with other people.

Unfortunately all my hobbies are solitary ones. Walking, reading, going to museums or galleries, swimming..

What group hobbies do you do? I am really crap at group sports but was thinking of yoga.

I must say it is lovely to read an unusual MN thread emphasising the importance of friends. Usually posters say friendships are drama, too much work or their husbands are their best friends.

I actually doubt that is really the prevailing view, but I think maybe it just seems that way because people only tend to post on here about friendships when the friendship involves a problem or dilemma or a massive argument or something, so people naturally reply with stuff like 'This is why I can't be bothered with friendships...' or 'Who needs that drama in their lives?'

I don't think there's anything wrong with preferring the company of a partner or family to that of friends, and I would certainly say that my DP is my 'best' friend - I don't think I'd want to be with a partner who wasn't. I do have friends as well, though, and I have a lot of (drama-free!) fun when I see them. I'm not super intense about friendships and I don't see my friends a lot (just because of geography really - it takes a lot of arranging and planning) but I definitely value them a lot and we WhatsApp all the time.

To answer the OP's question - I see my closest mates about every three months, but that's usually for a full weekend with an overnight stay so we cram a lot in. I might grab a drink or some food with work friends every couple of weeks perhaps?

Hobbies-wise, it's mostly pretty low-key stuff that doesn't involve other people and often doesn't require me to leave the house, things like crafts, baking, reading, garden stuff? I do yoga most days but at home, not at a class. I go running a couple of times each week.

I see friends without kids maybe every 2-3 months and try to arrange play dates with mum friends at least once a month. I’m probably different to a lot of you though as I choose not to leave my child to do things and I have autism so I probably think differently 🤷‍♀️

As for hobbies I actually enjoy doing things with my child so all the time if you count that and if not I fit in things like reading, baking, writing and scrapbooking when I have the time and end energy

@ToddlerSAHM MY DC are young adults. I don't need to leave them to do things; they have left me! I have put in my family time at softplay and football, and now my time is for myself and DH, but he is much more of an introvert than I am.