Space of my own/separate rooms

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DH and I are planning on a move to a bigger house (2 bed place to 3) and I’ve been thinking about asking him if we can have separate rooms.

He went on a business trip last week and I had the room to myself, and it was bliss! He usually comes to bed after me and disturbs me, then snores the house down. It wasn’t just the sleep, I got to keep the room as tidy as I wanted too. It made me think that some space of my own would make me so happy.

Our relationship is great and I really don’t want to lose the intimacy but I just felt so much better last week with a room of my own. AIBU if I ask him for separate rooms?

Has anyone regretted it or was it the right decision?

Until I had all the replies on here I didn’t realise how common it was, I assumed it was something you did when you get older!

Do it! I start off in ‘our’ room, then swap if I wake up/he starts snoring.

Got to be honest, unbroken sleep is what I’m hoping for!

I always need a wee so this works for me and stops the kind of harsh separation (in case your Dh gets all offended! 🤣 It also means I don’t have to make a big thing about wanting sex, because I’m already in the shared room.

lol, whatever works for you! I’ve told him that’s going to be separate rooms, he didn’t seem offended, but surprised initially but seems ok with it.

I did this three years ago and I haven’t regretted my decision once. I find it’s so important for me to have my own space to think and relax. I let my husband sleep in my room sometimes, but it’s always on my terms. Sometimes I’ll allow him in for a cuddle before bed but he takes he leaves when I ask him to.

I love him but I need my own space.