So when I my partner he was openly a recreational drugs user. Weed, cocaine, ket etc.
I've never touched the stuff and said I wouldn't date someone who would, so he committed to trying to stop/reduce which he dad massively. I asked that he never do it around me.
Unfortunately, he did. On nights out when we were with his friends where it is considered normal. This caused issues between us which over time concluded that I would try and be more accepting so as not to be 'controlling'. This doesn't change that I hate it and it still makes me uncomfortable.
Last night we were at a party and it was late. I was cuddling him on the sofa and having a lovely time when he told me to head to bed and that he would come soon. I said I wanted to stay with him and was really happy cuddling on the sofa. He then said he wanted to smoke a joint. I went to bed a was upset as I felt like he was choosing the joint over time with me.
He came up and when I expressed that to him he got angry and said that he wouldn't smoke it. He called me names like 'mental' and was really angry. He said he would go down to say night and then come to bed.
I waited for about ten minutes then went down and he was lay on the sofa with the others who were going to smoke a joint.
This then escalated into an argument.
This morning, I'm getting 'you ruined the whole evening' and 'your a crackpot' from him. He is livid with me.
I've tried to explain that we need to consider each other's perspective and for my part I felt like a child being told to go to bed so he could get stoned with his pals. Bear in mind I've come to this party to be with him - it's not my pals.
I've left and got a train home and have no idea if he's right and I'm a 'crackpot' or if this is the manipulation of man who will always choose drugs before me.
Please give me some guidance people...