To think this is rude and an apology should be given?

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ShellssAndSand · 29/07/2023 23:49

If you tell someone you’re going to a group lunch and then don’t turn up. Surely a “sorry”
is expected?

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drpet49 · 30/07/2023 14:18

Thelastwaltz · 30/07/2023 13:25

@ShellssAndSand

Yes exactly that, I asked them if they were coming and I got a “I forgot and I’m running errands”

Well that's the last time you organise anything for them isn't it OP?

What they are doing is telling you that their time is more important than yours, so learn from that and don't put yourself out again for these rude self-absorbed people.🙄

Absolutely this OP.

blahblahblah1654 · 30/07/2023 14:19

Yes an apology would be the first thing I opened with in a message.

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ShellssAndSand · 30/07/2023 14:24

drpet49 · 30/07/2023 14:18

Absolutely this OP.

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Yeah agreed.

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GeekyThings · 30/07/2023 14:43

ShellssAndSand · 30/07/2023 14:14

I think that’s a bit of a reach.

The reason she said no isn’t what the aibu is about. If she did feel that way and even if she felt she couldn’t say that - that still doesn’t excuse her not letting me know she now had decided not to come.

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But she didn't let you know because she forgot, you said that in one of your earlier posts. Forgetting is a perfectly legitimate reason, everyone forgets things sometimes, so you stating that it doesn't excuse her for not letting you know is a logical fallacy. If she forgot, how could she let you know?

And now to the point that isn't the OP either - the OP was should she apologise, not should she have let you know beforehand. So if your change in the basis of the OP is relevant and acceptable, then really people asking her reasons is also relevant. It just is, people's reasons always matter, that's why they're allowed in trials - extenuating circumstances!

1983Louise · 30/07/2023 14:56

Perhaps they aren't sorry..........

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