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Ddog put to sleep today

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redcans · 29/07/2023 22:11

Our family dog had to be put to sleep this evening 😢

Everything happened so quickly, yesterday he was ok then he suddenly last night he started to act really odd, panting, extremely thirsty and pacing the house really quickly. He kept trying to hide in places and was really stressed out.

The vet said it was neurological, maybe a stroke or a seizure he suffered and that things weren't going to improve. He also had a burst gland in his neck so must have been in a lot of pain & discomfort.

We had no choice but to put him to sleep. This feeling is the worst, the sense of loss and knowing that we will not see him again. Will it ever get better? 💔

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Amanitacae · 29/07/2023 22:12

I'm so sorry. You did the bravest, kindest, most loving thing for him. Sending hugs. x

Work2live · 29/07/2023 22:15

Oh my goodness how awful for you all.

I'm so sorry. He was a member of your family, a huge part of your life. It's totally normal to feel completely bereft. I promise you it will get better in time.

uncomfortablydumb53 · 29/07/2023 22:16

Oh I'm so very sorry
You gave him the kindest gift possible
Heartbreaking for you, I understand but the best way for ddog as it was a sudden event, not a slow decline
More of a shock for you though
He has left his paw prints on your heart

Honeyroar · 29/07/2023 22:16

I’m so sorry. It’s so horrible. But you absolutely did the right thing. They leave such a hole in your life. But you have to try to treasure your memories and remember the good times. It will get less raw.

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redcans · 29/07/2023 22:17

All seems so cruel and sudden. I wish dogs could live forever.

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FOJN · 29/07/2023 22:18

I'm so sorry. Letting them go when they are suffering is love.

Yes, it will get better. I don't think you can ever remember a much loved pet without a little bit of sadness but you will also remember all the joyful times too.

Lovemusic33 · 29/07/2023 22:19

Sorry for your loss. I lost my dog a few years ago, it was also very quick and I had to make a quick decision to put her to sleep (she was in pain), it was just awful. It does get easier but it does take time, I still miss my dog greatly but I can look back at photos and remember what a great life she had.

Theblacksheepandme · 29/07/2023 22:22

I'm so sorry. It is such a difficult decision to have to put your pet to sleep. I sometimes think it's worse when they seem fine up to this point. It happened to us and I even went to two other Vets to get second opinions. It is really hard but try to remember the good times you had. I'm sure he had a lovely life. It will take time. Ours is gone about 8 years now and we still think about him fondly. Dogs leave such lovely memories one the sheer pain subsides.

morelippy · 29/07/2023 22:24

So sorry OP. It's just awful isn't it. Try and take some comfort from knowing you did the best thing you could for him x

KimberleyClark · 29/07/2023 22:25

I’m so very sorry. It’s so painful. But you did the right thing. Think of the lovely times he had with you. 💐

Badgerandfox227 · 29/07/2023 22:27

I’m so sorry for your loss, we lost our dog suddenly 4 years ago, and he was only young so completely unexpected. We cried a lot, and just took things easy. Might be worth checking if you have bereavement line cover on your pet insurance, as much as people tried to sympathise they couldn’t relate, either not having had a dog or they’d only lost dogs to old age. Pet grief can be as strong as losing a family member.
It does get better with time, I can smile when I think of him now xx

FatLarrysBanned · 29/07/2023 22:27

So sorry for your loss. It does get better with time, but the early days, weeks and even months can be heartbreaking 💔 One day you'll think of him and smile, rather than cry. I lost my old boy 8 years ago, but I still think of him often with happy memories, tinged with sadness that he is gone but grateful for the time we had together.

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redcans · 29/07/2023 22:33

I now understand what other people meant when they said how hard it is to a lose a pet. It is true, it is like losing a family member. I miss him terribly already and it's only been a few hours 😢 I don't think I could ever go through this again 💔

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redcans · 29/07/2023 22:37

I hope he didn't feel pain when he passed. He was very distressed going into the vets, it was awful 😢

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berrypop · 29/07/2023 22:44

I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'm nearly two years on from losing my boy and it does get better though the hurt doesn't completely go away and it takes time. The pain was horrific and it took longer to come to terms with losing him than it did losing my dad, I think because I know Ollie would have stayed by my side forever if he could, whereas dad hadn't been well and was ready to go.

While it still feels like something is missing and that our home isn't a home without him, the pain isn't intense and I take comfort now in knowing he was loved, I did my very best for him, and that he had a lovely life and I can look back on photos and videos and remember the lovely times we had together.

Aposterhasnoname · 29/07/2023 22:50

Aww, hugs OP. It’s the worst feeling ever, but you’ve done the right thing, the best thing for him. I

Harryyourenogoodalone · 29/07/2023 22:53

So sorry OP. They're never 'just' a dog.

Bettysnow · 30/07/2023 01:01

Am so sorry op I know exactly how you feel as my dog was put to sleep two weeks ago and like yours was pretty sudden.
The pain is horrendous and time is the only thing that will make it easier. Also take comfort in the knowledge that you gave him a great life.
It's so tough (second time for me going through it) Honestly our big fella was half human and such a gentle, beautiful soul.
I'm the sort of person that rarely cries but I've cried buckets.
Thinking of you big hugs x

Catclown · 30/07/2023 01:42

I’m so sorry for your loss, we had to put our cat to sleep on Monday. He was having seizures, it was also very sudden. He was only 2 so a baby really. It hurts so much doesn’t it?

I really hope you are all ok. I’m sure he wouldn’t have felt any pain, our cat was given a strong sedative 1st so was already asleep before the final needle. He wouldn’t have felt it, it’s just so hard going to the vet with your pet and leaving without them. Xx

CoffeeBeansGalore · 30/07/2023 02:08

So sorry @redcans . It is one of the hardest things to do. We lost our old girl in February. She was nearly 15 and suddenly started losing the use of her back legs. The look on her face when she couldn't get up was awful. We fed her really well but couldn't get any weight on her. The vet said it was the right time to let her go but I was in bits.
We loved her, gave her a good life and did what was best for her up until the end.
They are part of the family. So hard to lose them. I found this poem when I lost my lovely saint bernard a few years ago. It really resonated.
Take care x

Ddog put to sleep today
IDontWantTheWorldToSeeMe · 30/07/2023 04:00

So sorry op. Its a heartbreaking loss. My condolences x

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redcans · 30/07/2023 09:15

Thanks everyone 😢Flowers

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Spybot · 30/07/2023 12:55

Similar happened to me with my dog. He went from fine to having a massive seizure. I drove him to the veterinary hospital but in all he could have been seizing for 3/4 of an hour. When I got there they managed to stop the seizure but by then he was blind and crashing into things. They said I could keep him in and they would sedate him and give him a MRi the next day. I chose to PTS that night, I knew it was over. So he went from fine to PTS in a few hours. I was in shock. It has happened suddenly to a friends dog too. I'm very sorry for you, it's a nasty shock.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 30/07/2023 13:06

Huge sympathies, 💐 I do know how horrible it is.
I know it’s no consolation now that you didn’t make him suffer any longer, but it may help a bit in future.

I just hope no ghastly non-doggy person says, ‘Oh, well, you can always get another,’ as if you’d just had the TV nicked or something. I had that, after losing the dog we’d had for 14 years. 😰