If you were currently on a hen weekend, what would you think if you’ve got this note…

[Greengrassohla]

I live next door to an Airbnb house, that is currently rented out to a hen party.

This has been a recent development with the short-term lets, and frequently we hear really loud music late at night.

I am a little bit worried that sending a handwritten, anonymous note makes me look like a mentalist, but I absolutely do not want to be knocking on the door and interacting with these people.

What would your reaction be if you received this, would it make you just ramp up the noise even worse?

“Hi, I am just writing to let you know that this is a residential area, and any music you play is audible to your neighbours.

It would be great if you could keep this in mind if you choose to play music later. Thanks x”

What would your reaction be if you received this, would it make you just ramp up the noise even worse?
Not unless they're total dicks.

Read your message cringing but actually that is so reasonable and measured- definitely post it through, I reckon they'll be reasonable (or go out like usual hens)

“these people”?!!

You sound like Mrs Sniffy

Whats going to be much more effective is to knock on the door and say - play it loud till 11 by all means but after that could you keep it down because I have to work early and there are loads of kids on the street.

We’ve asked the owners to stop letting to hen parties but they just don’t listen. I know it’s not your fault. Have a great night.

Face to face is always better and this way you are treating them like reasonable people.

You need to take this up with the owner / the council / air bnb.

Just ask them to stop playing music at a specific time.

I would put it on the bin and carry on as per.

It’s quite a condescending passive aggressive note. Be an adult and knock if it annoys you that much

That’s a perfectly polite and reasonable note. If I received that I’d be mindful of playing music at a certain volume and/or time and/or duration in the future.

They haven't even done it yet and may not - think you are jumping the gun!

I think it’s fine; I wouldn’t want a bad review from the host if you were to complain to them so I’d keep it down

I would probably turn the music down as I like to think about others but I can imagine some people not being so considerate, especially if they’re all hyped up on hen fun!!

I can understand why you wouldn’t want to confront them either

So this particular set of guests hasn’t actually played any music late yet?

Well is it true that any music they play is audible? Do you never play music?

I'd find it irritating; at no point are you saying what you want. I agree with others about being direct and speaking to them. If they do make a noise.

It's perfectly obvious what she wants. No music that can be heard neighbourhood wide.

It's reasonable enough.

Thanks everyone, a really interesting range of responses. I’ve tried really hard not to make the note to passive aggressive, it’s certainly better than the first two versions!

I appreciate ‘these people’ sounds a bit off, just that they’ve been playing music in the afternoon so I think they’re likely to already I’ll be a little bit drunk, so I don’t know how well they’d react.

I can appreciate those of you saying that they haven’t done it yet, but it seems to be that if people are playing music in the afternoon, they also tend to play it late at night.

Given the frequency of noise from next door I don’t want to have to get into the habit of knocking every flipping weekend, I kind of have it in mind to form a good version of the note, so if people start out by being loud early in the day, I can just pop a note through.

As for taking it up with the local council, or owners, this area is rife with Airbnb’s and I doubt very much they would take notice. Prime hen do location.

Not sure though: sending a note is stressful, not sending a note and listening to the music is stressful, not sure what to do for the best! 😀

Yes it’s fine

Hi @Greengrassohla i wouldn't mind if i received that note. You've worded it really nicely and polite.

The note sounds like it's been written by a BOT. I think you need to make it far more human sounding and less sniffy.

Also, you still need to complain to the council and owners if it's causing a problem.

Just because you doubt they'll take any notice, that should never stop you voicing your concerns. The more people who do so the better.

They'll probably go out.

And they'll probably ignore your note.

If they are reasonable people they won’t play loud music late at night anyway and wouldn’t need a note. If they are unreasonable people then a note is as likely to encourage them to play it louder. People renting an Airbnb are typically doing so as a one-off so probably less likely to care about impact on neighbours. Better to complain to council and the Airbnb May be withdrawn.

She is not saying what she wants. That is annoying. Stuff it being perfectly obvious. It's passive aggressive and a bit embarrassing from an adult. Say what you meant, stop mincing around.

Where are you leaving the note?

If I was in an Airbnb I don't think I'd presume anything through the letterbox was for us!

How is it condescending or passive aggressive

Do people actually understand the words they use sometimes.

Its fairly clearly saying that the neighbours will be able to hear music so keep it down later

Passive aggressive? Hardly. She has said exactly what she meant; maybe you just aren't used to nuanced language 😂