I think I've fallen out with my neighbour, but we're still civil & polite but there's definitely been avoidance by her side (frankly it's a relief as she's very nosey).
Just bumped into her after dropping DD off at nursery, she asked where DD was, I explained, said the only nursery we could get was all year not term time only (as I'm a teacher) so we may aswell get our moneys worth as it costs us £10k/Yr for 3 days pw...blah blah and she replied "She may aswell be at home"!!! I explained that she has to go to nursery as I have to work to afford the bills, I have to pull in X to cover mortgage etc. I also have no family to help with DD so I never get a break or a rest, house is always tip because I'm full time mummy part time teacher and the only time I ever get are the school holidays where these 3 days DD goes to nursery that's has already been paid for.
I'd love to be a full time mum but simply can't afford it...but even then I think actually I need something for me as an escape so having a job also helps. I'm a better mother as a result. I mean if my parents lived around the corner life would be do different but they don't!
It already conflicts me to send DD off each morning but financially we have no choice and mentally I need the break!
DNeighbour grew up in an era when a family could be supported by 1 wage...we don't live in that era any more sadly and she's not a stupid woman so I've got very cross at being judged with such a stupid comment!