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AIBU to walk out of work?

92 replies

LindaHoney · 26/07/2023 23:54

Help me out. Maybe ESH.
I work in a fairly large salon. Large team and we are understaffed as salon supervisors or coordinators. Recently a young team member was given a huge promotion (above me) due to a relative she had in the company in a higher position. While the new manager is nice, she is 21 and has no maturity or experience at all. She is late to work, leaves early and makes constant mistakes that needs more experienced staff to fix. She is immature in so far as she will roll cigs in common areas, leaving tobacco everywhere, leave rolled cigs on our work desk in view of clients, sip water from gin glass whilst in the client areas, takes many smoke breaks, no respect for days off, constantly texts me asking me about work things on my days off, on sick days and after hours.

it used to be that one week we would be on earlies and the next week we’d do a late, but she always has me doing lates which means I have to close and sometimes I don’t get finished until after 9pm 3 days a week. If there is any issue at close, it’s always my problem. Staff don’t clean up, my problem. Staff don’t wash equipment, my problem, on a few occasion’s equipment broke and other staff members left with keys and I was left unable to leave at home time, as I couldn’t leave shop unlocked or couldn’t leave the clients unfinished. Everyone else gets to leave on time but I feel like no matter what goes wrong nobody asks me to stay, it’s just expected and it’s having huge effect on my diet (I can’t eat after 9pm but I get one break during the day if I start work at 10am) and sometimes after a late finish I’m expected to be back in work next morning to open at 6:30am. I can’t plan anything like the gym or plans with my partner it just feels my life revolves around work.

three months ago I got offered a new job, I told my manager who told me she’d try get the boss to match it, I turned other job down, I waited 6 weeks for an answer and they came back and told me I was earning more than the norm in the Industry (this isn’t true, I’m earning the standard wage) but in this industry the hours aren’t standard - 6:30 starts, 9pm finishes… salons are 10-6. Closed Sunday. We don’t get Sunday pay.

sometimes my manager doesn’t come to work on time and I miss my break, I rarely get to leave on time, the late finishes are never shared. The only request I had was my two days off together and even that is not being honored the last few weeks it’s constant excuses why she needs me to swap days with her, funeral, boyfriend travelling and all.

this evening I had enough, other staff member was not helping and she was the root cause of me having to do an additional two hour over time last week (11pm finish) and when I asked her to clean shelves she rang manager and threatened to go home. My manager rang me and I told her if that’s how the business works now; I’m going home too. And I walked out. Now I’m scheduled for a disciplinary meeting on Friday with the director of the company.

advice?

OP posts:
Hummingbird89 · 18/12/2023 16:16

Amazing news!! Good for you OP.

Maisypaws · 18/12/2023 16:49

Revenge is a dish best served cold.
Glad you are in a better job now, OP!

StoneColdAlibi · 18/12/2023 16:58

They sound awful but that's a dreadful way to leave a job.

gocompare · 18/12/2023 18:59

Good for you op well done

VisionsOfSplendour · 18/12/2023 19:11

Good that you've got another job but are you saying that they think you still work there? It reads like you never handedbyour notice in

JazzyJogger · 18/12/2023 19:55

StoneColdAlibi · 18/12/2023 16:58

They sound awful but that's a dreadful way to leave a job.

Well they treated the OP dreadfully. Maybe they will treat their staff better from now on .

SiblingFights · 18/12/2023 20:03

Congratulations on your new job OP

Motnight · 18/12/2023 20:08

So you were still employed (albeit calling in sick) when you started another job?

GreenIsMyFavoriteColour · 18/12/2023 20:27

I fear the OP has jumped right off the moral high ground here. ☹️

Swishyfishy · 18/12/2023 21:00

i don’t agree with not formally handing in notice however it sounds like they got what was due to them.

Fluffyowl00 · 18/12/2023 21:13

What a great thread! Well done you!

VisionsOfSplendour · 18/12/2023 21:14

Motnight · 18/12/2023 20:08

So you were still employed (albeit calling in sick) when you started another job?

I'm now thinking did it not mess up the tax to be employed at both places

PlipPlopChoo · 18/12/2023 21:29

Great update OP and congratulations on the new job.

Motnight · 18/12/2023 21:35

I would be worried that still being employed in one job and saying that you are sick whilst starting another job could be considered fraud if claiming sick pay?

Or maybe I have misunderstood.

LindaHoney · 19/12/2023 12:20

I never claimed sick pay. I told my old job “I won’t be in, I’m sick”. I removed them as my employers as revenue, my new boss has me on revenue, but no I never handed in my notice and they know well what I’ve done.

The manager was getting her friends to add me on social media. I’ve made no secret of the fact I’m in a new job.

They took so much from me. They took my sleep, my meals, my work life balance. They used me and they disrespected my boundaries for years even after I flagged it with them, case in point, while I was on annual leave when the manager would make a point of being out of reach on her weekends off, never mind annual leave.

I have no regrets. Treat people like shit, expect the proverbial to come back and hit you in the face at some point.

In my mind, they got their notice I was leaving when I got offered the other job and they asked me not to leave, and didn’t follow through on their promise. They told me I was “standard” and on “standard industry pay”. Despite standard industry hours being 10-6 with two days off usually Sundays and Mondays. If I was so standard they’ll have no trouble replacing me.

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AnonnyMouseDave · 19/12/2023 12:40

I have to say that reading through OPs post on this thread... WELL DONE AND CONGRATS. I do not believe that you were being even 1% unreasonable, they got the treatment they deserved. If the shop was local to me and I knew your name I would love to stick my head in whilst passing and tell the manager how fucking brilliant you sound and how I am so glad that you are free of them.

JazzyJogger · 19/12/2023 13:07

@LindaHoney
Was your old workplace a national retail chain ? If so I've got a good idea of which one it was !

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