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DH laughed at DD falling over

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Rainbowfruitpunch · 25/07/2023 22:04

Today my DD (3) was running along calling for DH when she knocked into a bin and hit her face and fell. She was really upset and I comforted her, we both did, and explained to her that we all fall over, and DH said he does it a lot and it was a good thing that the bin didn’t have a sharp edge. All dealt with and fine, doesn’t appear to have left a mark.

Later at dinner, DH told the story to his brother and was laughing while DD was sitting right there. I saw her suddenly turn subdued as though she was ashamed and it just left me feeling awful. I shot him a look and he stopped but had already recounted, so too late. It felt mean because she’d hurt herself at the time, and she’d done it to try and catch up with him.

He said he told her later at bedtime that he was sorry he laughed, he didn’t mean to, and it’s just him sharing stories because he’s proud of her and she makes him laugh so much.

AIBU to still feel upset about it, and seeing her sweet little face embarrassed for the first time, by her own parent, in front of her whole family? I’d never find it remotely funny that she fell, let alone recount the tale later to make her the laughing stock :(

OP posts:
zurala · 25/10/2023 21:36

YANBU OP. I don't understand the mentality of those who laugh when others get hurt. It's not funny and your DH was mean.

Lancia72 · 29/01/2024 15:48

I agree 100% with @Jl2014

I'm amazed how tone-deaf a lot of these replies are. Almost every single one invalidates the daughter's response. If she'd felt like he wasn't laughing at her rather than with her, she wouldn't have felt a sting. Simple.

It sounds more like he's intimidated by his brother and impressing him takes precedence over his child's feelings. I've witnessed that dynamic dozens of times.

KreedKafer · 29/01/2024 16:13

Lancia72 · 29/01/2024 15:48

I agree 100% with @Jl2014

I'm amazed how tone-deaf a lot of these replies are. Almost every single one invalidates the daughter's response. If she'd felt like he wasn't laughing at her rather than with her, she wouldn't have felt a sting. Simple.

It sounds more like he's intimidated by his brother and impressing him takes precedence over his child's feelings. I've witnessed that dynamic dozens of times.

Edited

Given that it happened three months ago, I expect she's over it now.

Lancia72 · 29/01/2024 16:15

@Kreedkafer Define 'over it'. Are you 'over' your own worst moments with either of your parents?

MrsOff · 29/01/2024 16:22

Why are we reviving zombie threads today? This is about the 5th I've seen!

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