…to feel upset about not being invited to a wedding?

[MochaMad]

Long story but trying to keep it brief: been with my DP for 5 years, we live together, but his DD doesn’t want anything to do with me and my 2 kids. She lives with her Mum and their divorce was awful (Court etc). Myself and my kids have not done anything wrong and I am not the OW. Her Mum has poisoned her brain with lies. So we only very occasionally see her and my DP sees here separately from us. She is 17.

My DP’s niece is getting married in September. She’s aware of the situation and seemed to be sympathetic. My DP’s siblings and their partners are all invited. His niece has decided to invite him and his DD and not me. Apparently I can only attend if his DD cannot go.

Its a shame as it’s a missed opportunity for his DD to see how normal life works.

I’m feeling really upset. Can’t help it.

My DP is also upset and confused.

I hope so too, but making sure a dad goes separate from his teenage daughter. Mentioning running into ex when she delivered the invitation. She’s going to say she felt obliged to invite her when she ran into her and to bring the daughter.
Has he actually asked why you aren’t invited? I would be having as little to do with them as possible if I was you. You are right not to go to the wedding now even if dd doesn’t.