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Is it really that hard.....? 🤔

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StillGotBabyBrain · 24/07/2023 23:23

My family is vegan, not a massive deal.

When the school has events, no vegan option, so everyone gets a bbq or food catered and we don't. Not even a dairy free alternative for hot drinks! (Primary school, high school is better).

When they go for sleepovers I get worried parents asking me what should they do, can I provide food and drinks for them...

Pubs and restaurants barely cater for adults let alone add options for the kids menu.

Went to a choir meeting the other week, nothing I could eat from the food included in my ticket price.

Am I being unreasonable thinking it's really not that difficult to provide bread and houmous or vegetable dishes? They're suitable for everyone, so isn't a waste of food! Blows my mind.

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OrderOfTheKookaburra · 25/07/2023 07:09

I have a coeliac niece and a vegan niece. My coeliac niece gets so fed up with people making the dishes both vegan and coeliac friendly because they just don't taste as nice to her. Especially when a careless choice of the wrong condiment, eg soy sauce, will render it inedible for her.

Often I will cook the ingredients separately and only at the very end mix them up, if at all. So a stir fry will have gluten free and vegan friendly sauces in the veg. Buy separate noodles for everyone that cater to requirements, or rice is even better, the meat is in a separate bowl and all the non vegans can add it to their own dish themselves.

However this is a bit harder to do in group functions, but I do always try. I often will keep a small bowl away and give it directly to someone with the specific food requirement.

In all honesty though, if I'm only making one dish I will give priority to catering for someone with a medical allergy over someone who makes a philosophical choice.

Newnamefor23 · 25/07/2023 07:12

Went to a relatives big 80th birthday in large golf club.

Daughter “chef has prepared special vegan food for you.”

Thinks good, thats nice, something decent to eat.

Starter was identical to desert - except one had a cherry on it . (Fruit salad)

Main wasnt much more than every one elses minus the meat and gravy.

When our adult children were at junior school we were vegetarian. No problems with school meals.

WannaBeRecluse · 25/07/2023 07:13

One of mine wouldn't even have the option to be vegan. Medically, it's too high fibre and they need a very low fibre diet.

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:16

I love how the people who eat animals on these threads always only eat local, organic, ethically sourced meat. They never eat chicken nuggets 😂

Aaarghthepancakes · 25/07/2023 07:17

Apologies if this has been said before. I'm coeliac and any gluten at all makes me very poorly. I would give anything not to be. I've found increasingly that veganism is catered for (especially in supermarkets) at the expense of gf food. I literally have no choice, I can't eat gluten in anything. Vegans have more options (their food restrictions are down to their own beliefs) than coeliacs do.

AWholeExtraRoom · 25/07/2023 07:18

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:16

I love how the people who eat animals on these threads always only eat local, organic, ethically sourced meat. They never eat chicken nuggets 😂

Yes, it's nice, isn't it? I hope it's becoming more common.

MintJulia · 25/07/2023 07:19

Prettyvase · 25/07/2023 06:30

Vegan pastry is extraordinarily easy to make: olive oil, salt and plain flour rubbed to a crumbly texture then add ice cubes and enough water to bind into small balls.
Take out ice cubes when done.
Refrigerate until needed ^^misses point of thread😁

Ice cubes? They'd melt as I make the pastry so how would I judge how much water was needed? And then picking them out afterwards !! scraping off the pastry...!

Sounds like an awful lot of hassle to me.

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:20

FWIW I always just bring my own food for bbqs etc. especially with family up North. But I live in a city where half the people are veggie or vegan and people are used to it so it's no big deal. Maybe everywhere will get like that eventually.

ginsparkles · 25/07/2023 07:21

Aaarghthepancakes · 25/07/2023 07:17

Apologies if this has been said before. I'm coeliac and any gluten at all makes me very poorly. I would give anything not to be. I've found increasingly that veganism is catered for (especially in supermarkets) at the expense of gf food. I literally have no choice, I can't eat gluten in anything. Vegans have more options (their food restrictions are down to their own beliefs) than coeliacs do.

I would completely agree. The free from sections as the supermarkets are very small in comparison to the vegan offering

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:21

Yes, it's nice, isn't it? I hope it's becoming more common.

Well it would be nice, but I don't believe them

WannaBeRecluse · 25/07/2023 07:21

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:16

I love how the people who eat animals on these threads always only eat local, organic, ethically sourced meat. They never eat chicken nuggets 😂

I do, in fact, only buy organic, free range, grass fed, antibiotic and hormone free meat. It's so easy to find now. If it's bacon, it needs to be nitrate free too. I don't eat nuggets but my child does. They're old enough to decide for themselves. I tend to have a minimally processed diet. I'm not too good for the occasional cheeseburger from McDs though.

GenieGenealogy · 25/07/2023 07:23

StillGotBabyBrain · 25/07/2023 00:03

It is not restrictive, that's a myth that people who cba use.

Vegan by its very nature is restricting what you eat. Vegans do not eat meat, or dairy, or honey, or eggs or anything else which is animal-related. That is restricting what you eat. It is not the way which most people choose to eat.

Making a vegan meal or doing a vegan bbq alongside standard bbq requires additional thought and effort and planning. Unless you're going to go to the supermarket and just buy some frozen burgers or something.

Prettyvase · 25/07/2023 07:25

Vegan pizza:

Mix 3 cups Plain flour, 2 TSP Dried yeast, 2 TSP salt with enough warm water to stir into a slurry.

Leave for 30 mins or until double the size.

Stir in more flour until you can form balls.

Lay a sheet of oiled cling film or baking parchment on counter top.

Place ball on sheet and put another sheet on top, oiled so that the ball doesn't stick to it.

Roll with a rolling pin or press out with hand to desired shape and thickness.

Turn on large frying pan with a little oil until hot.

Fry pizza base on medium heat until puffs up, then fry on other side.

Fry all pizza bases in this way.

Turn in oven to high.

Add toppings of your choice: tomatoes, honey, oregano, basil, salt, chilli flakes, mushrooms, beans, sweetcorn, peppers, olives, dots of hummus etc.

Roasted vegetables, tofu, chick peas refried beans etc make great toppings.

Spray or drizzle with a little more olive oil and a sprinkling of more dried or fresh herbs.

Bake on high until sizzling.

Loved by vegans and non vegans alike 😁

SouthCountryGirl · 25/07/2023 07:28

I went somewhere last year and was asked about my dietary restrictions and i said no dairy, I wasn't catered for and was told I could have something from the vegan section. But I'm not vegan. I don't drink milk..

vkfan · 25/07/2023 07:29

I agree with you but I'm also vegan.

I've never been asked to send food to kid parties though!

It's so annoying at buffet things as the veggie food always gets eaten by the meat eaters quickly so providing it for us won't make it go to waste!

WannaBeRecluse · 25/07/2023 07:31

This thread has me craving Linda McCartney sausage rolls now, but I prefer not to eat pastry.

Abbimae · 25/07/2023 07:32

It’s not all about you

WellPlaced · 25/07/2023 07:33

SouthCountryGirl · 25/07/2023 07:28

I went somewhere last year and was asked about my dietary restrictions and i said no dairy, I wasn't catered for and was told I could have something from the vegan section. But I'm not vegan. I don't drink milk..

So you were, in fact, catered for.

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:33

It's so annoying at buffet things as the veggie food always gets eaten by the meat eaters quickly so providing it for us won't make it go to waste!

Always!

Wildandwonderful · 25/07/2023 07:34

My belief system would not allow me to serve some of the rubbish vegan food you are suggesting. All those UPFs are causing modern illnesses and are not the healthy alternatives they are marketed as.

For example, the Linda McCartney sausage rolls you mention are made with soya that probably has a far larger impact on the animals and the environment of this world than my home-bred high welfare organic beef. If you really cared about animals, you would be a meat-eater!

Do you really think alternative 'milks' and other substitute dairy products are good for the planet or the consumer? Unless you are eating home-grown or local in season vegetables, you are helping to destroy the planet and causing suffering to our wildlife.

Please re-think your beliefs and provide your children a diet that is good for them and the planet.

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:35

Wildandwonderful · 25/07/2023 07:34

My belief system would not allow me to serve some of the rubbish vegan food you are suggesting. All those UPFs are causing modern illnesses and are not the healthy alternatives they are marketed as.

For example, the Linda McCartney sausage rolls you mention are made with soya that probably has a far larger impact on the animals and the environment of this world than my home-bred high welfare organic beef. If you really cared about animals, you would be a meat-eater!

Do you really think alternative 'milks' and other substitute dairy products are good for the planet or the consumer? Unless you are eating home-grown or local in season vegetables, you are helping to destroy the planet and causing suffering to our wildlife.

Please re-think your beliefs and provide your children a diet that is good for them and the planet.

Absolute bollocks!

95% of soya is brown for animal feed, not human consumption

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:36

If you really cared about animals, you would be a meat-eater!

Umm no. I like to think people care about me, I don't want them to eat me

WannaBeRecluse · 25/07/2023 07:38

Wildandwonderful · 25/07/2023 07:34

My belief system would not allow me to serve some of the rubbish vegan food you are suggesting. All those UPFs are causing modern illnesses and are not the healthy alternatives they are marketed as.

For example, the Linda McCartney sausage rolls you mention are made with soya that probably has a far larger impact on the animals and the environment of this world than my home-bred high welfare organic beef. If you really cared about animals, you would be a meat-eater!

Do you really think alternative 'milks' and other substitute dairy products are good for the planet or the consumer? Unless you are eating home-grown or local in season vegetables, you are helping to destroy the planet and causing suffering to our wildlife.

Please re-think your beliefs and provide your children a diet that is good for them and the planet.

I agree. When I did vegan for a month as an experiment, I found a lot of vegan options were highly processed. I made a salad that called for feta. I used vegan feta and felt it was so very processed. It's not necessary to use those things but they do make food more interesting.

AWholeExtraRoom · 25/07/2023 07:39

F0Xintherain · 25/07/2023 07:21

Yes, it's nice, isn't it? I hope it's becoming more common.

Well it would be nice, but I don't believe them

😂Yes, I got that, thanks.

RosesAndHellebores · 25/07/2023 07:42

@foxintherain I usually buy straight of the meat fridges in the supermarket. I buy good quality but not usually organic. I spend about £110 on food each week. It would be significantly more if I bought organic. (No including toiletries, cleaning stuff, beers, etc).

I was trained to cook. I'd struggle with a vegan dinner party: stuffed herb, tomato and rice peppers, bit of mustard and breadcrumb on the top, pasta with cherry tomatoes, black olives, herbs, red onion and a side salad, pineapple and vegan ice-cream, off the top of my head. But all the guests would get the same.

I struggle with DIL who's a pescetarian, mainly because dh is an ardent meat eater and grumbles if he gets fish three days running even in France, which drives me nuts.

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