AIBU to never speak to my family

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Ex turned up at my family's house demanding to see DS (13)- and that he has treats for him-we have an injunction against him. My mother told me to open the door to him, I said "no", my brother ignored me, and went ahead to open the door. Now he, my brother, and DS have gone out somewhere.

I have had four run-ins with him (asking when he can see DS) and I believe I'm being stalked. He calls me when I've just arrived or left the house. He calls me at midnight and asks DS, who am I with. I believe my ex lives around the area.

I've told him dad that he has to see DS supervised (due to my safety). Now because I have no back vibe of a family, DS's dad is going to turn up whenever and then the BBC abuse is going to happen all over again. Fuck my life.

When you move in 3 weeks, cut your family off aswell.

It's because he's had a whole day of his dad telling him this. He can't be allowed access as this will happen every time. It's his way of controlling and abusing you from afar. You KNOW it's not true. Even more reason to make sure you stand strong with calling the police and going NC with your family. This is common OP. He's disney dadded all day, buying presents and treats so DS thinks he's amazing.

Some of the DA charities can work with DC in schools. He doesn't have to be singled out. Sometimes they can do an awareness session in school where they just talk about healthy relationship.

Some DC need more support especially if they are being manipulated. 'First contact' can help with personalised counselling in school if necessary. When he's back in school, after the holidays go in and tell school exactly what is happening and ask for support.

Talk to your GP and ask for support. Get help from all of the agencies. Consider changing schools too.

Your family are a shower OP. Get out of there as soon as you can and don't look back.

Move far away and remove dads number from his phone

Do you have a friend who can talk to your son about how abusive ex is?

You need to get school involved and make sure new school knows dad is not to collect

Your family are putting you in danger and don’t seem to be bothered about that. You need to change plans and get out sooner.

Do you have a car? Is it likely he could have put an apple AirTag or similar on it or in something that he’s given your son. Please check carefully.