Hi guys
AIBU?
Bit of background for context!
Husband and I (40 & 37years respectively) 2 children (8 & 3) and i’m currently pregnant with our third. Both have good careers stable family unit, home etc.
We got married last year. Known each other as friends for many many years.
Ive always known he sometimes does c*ke when he’s out. But it got too much and well, at his age with a family it just seemed super loser-ish. So we had strong crisis talk in the last year or so over it. It was almost becoming a once a week thing when he went out and I just wasn’t having any of it. We are also saving up to move abroad so I just don’t find this conducive to saving not to mention being a good role model.
He promised he wouldn’t do it again as he didn’t want to jeopardise our marriage and the life we have created. I know he hasn’t done it for a good while now.
Last night he went out on a works meal and drinks. He knew I was quite poorly - currently suffering with SPD and some cold virus thing and sinusitis. He didn’t text once to check in on me which bugged me to begin with. (maybe i’m just being hormonal there?)
But I knew he did “it” last night because I heard him come in at 3:30am and go straight on the sofa. I confronted him this AM and he said he did it.
Does this guy think i’m joking when I say enough is enough? I don’t think he quite believes me when I say it’s us or “it”.
I just don’t find it acceptable i’m pregnant, quite poorly and I just don’t find it right when you have a family let alone a young family.
I of course love him to bits and he’s an excellent hands on Dad. I feel like when is he going to learn? Do I hand him divorce papers? Do I tell him to go and leave and stay with his sister for the time being?
I do not want to leave him but I feel like he thinks this is acceptable. He needs to realise i’m serious.
AIBU /Hormonal pregnant woman??