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To be uncomfortable with the film Oppenheimer?

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LKM23 · 21/07/2023 18:23

I haven't seen the film, I'm sure it's a brilliant thriller and will be a Blockbuster hit. I don't think I'll watch it though, it makes my feel really uncomfortable.

It feels like a man who at the end of the day killed thousands of people and damaged millions is being celebrated and turned into a hero.

I lived in Japan for 10 years in my twenties. I visited both Hiroshima and Nagasaki and spent a lot of time with people both directly and indirectly affected by the dropping of the bombs. Those scars are real and still there and will be for a very very long time. It changed Japan and the people who live there forever and at the end of the day I think he was an awful person.

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SnackSizeRaisin · 21/07/2023 23:39

Threenow · 21/07/2023 23:17

I'm sorry, but @FranticHare is correct. It is a generational thing. When I was young I heard many older people claim a hate for the Japanese because of what happened during WW2. This has now died out, but it was quite common at the time. As I was young I didn't really understand it and thought they were being silly - now I am older and a bit wiser I can understand it more.

What life was like during that time cannot be compared to any later wars or terrorist activity, they are completely different. People will always be dying in conflicts somewhere, unfortunately, but those conflicts are nothing at all like World Wars - the clue is in the name. As she said, it is something none of us will have to go through, and unless we were there we really cannot understand just how dreadful it was. I really think young people need to educate themselves a bit about world history, and what life was like for those who lived in times which they are fortunate enough to never have to experience.

You really sound rather clueless tbh.

Also racism was totally normal and accepted in the 40s and 50s. No Blacks no Irish etc. So hating the Japs within that context is different. The world has moved on. Thankfully.

twentyonepoundnote · 21/07/2023 23:40

Not the point of this thread, I know, but Japan surrendered when it's government was able to assess the damage done to Hiroshima- as soon as it was able to assess the damage done - this was not instant, it took time, days to get there, days to report back,

Whatever the justification for bombing Hiroshima, and it might well have been necessary, I suspect it was.

There was NO similar justification for bombing Nagasaki - Japan was going to surrender.

Whelm · 21/07/2023 23:44

MechanicalGoat · 21/07/2023 22:27

Do you think it’s acceptable for anyone who was in or affected by 7/7 or 9/11 to ‘hate all Muslims’? Of course not. But this is how the thinking starts.

I have a friend who fought in Iraq, of course he doesn’t hate Iraqi’s, no matter what some of them did to him and his comrades.

Come on, this thinking is unacceptable and you know it. It excuses xenophobia and racism. It allows racist/xenophobic thinking and lets it continue, encourages it to grow. It’s what racists pray upon. Dont excuse his hatred of a nation of people, many of whom were and are innocent. There are no good reasons.

Although numbers are contested, it is widely accepted that 1 in every 50 of the Iraqi population died as a result of violence following the 2003 invasion by foreign armies of which the US and Britain made up by far the largest numbers.
Would you tell an Iraqi who had lost family or friends that they were being unreasonable to hate people from the countries who invaded?

Gillbil · 21/07/2023 23:44

I agree with you, but then is anyone really surprise that the US had to make a Hollywood blockbuster about how hard what they did was, but ultimately it was for the right reasons so they are, however sad about their actions , the good guys.
It's very messed up

SammyScrounge · 21/07/2023 23:47

Zippeedidodah · 21/07/2023 18:32

It was war it was nasty. I'm sure the Chinese will also have a story to tell on what the Japanese did to them.

Yes. Google the Rape of Nan King by Iris Chang..Horrific. When great atrocities are being committed, very strong measures tend to be employed against the perpetrators.

SnackSizeRaisin · 21/07/2023 23:48

Vintique · 21/07/2023 23:22

This thread has become

Why it’s justifiable to drop nuclear bombs on children

Children were killed when the bomb was dropped on Osama Bin Laden (and in at least one other, unsuccessful, attempt to kill him). Was that justified?

You may not think so - but there's a discussion to be had

LameBorzoi · 21/07/2023 23:53

Sirius3030 · 21/07/2023 22:55

It’s not true, he is not made out to be a hero.
You haven’t seen the film.
You clearly know nothing about the history of WW2. The war was not over, and millions more would have died in a bloody invasion of Japan.
It was a horrific time, and FFS it wasn’t about playing with toys.

Yes - the war may have been over in Europe, but it wasn't over in the Pacific. I'm not justifying those bombs, but the entire Pacific rim was terrified of the direction that the Japanese Government was taking at that time. If the movie is any good, it will reflect those awful situations that toltarian government and war give rise to.

user9630721458 · 21/07/2023 23:55

@saltinesandcoffeecups I was devastated by the 'Rape of Nanking,' one description of a Japanese assault on a Chinese girl I will never get out of my mind. But I am still critical of any targeting of civilians during war. I think Kurt Vonnegut was very critical of the bombing of Dresden too, even if it ended the war. It's knowingly killing kids and all sorts of vulnerable, unarmed people.

phoenixrosehere · 21/07/2023 23:59

Gillbil · 21/07/2023 23:44

I agree with you, but then is anyone really surprise that the US had to make a Hollywood blockbuster about how hard what they did was, but ultimately it was for the right reasons so they are, however sad about their actions , the good guys.
It's very messed up

Could say the same about the number of movies the UK has created about their involvement in the World Wars so..

Vintique · 21/07/2023 23:59

SnackSizeRaisin · 21/07/2023 23:48

Children were killed when the bomb was dropped on Osama Bin Laden (and in at least one other, unsuccessful, attempt to kill him). Was that justified?

You may not think so - but there's a discussion to be had

Horrific, but different to deliberately nuking a civilian population. If I recall the bomb on Hiroshima was timed for around 9am so that people would be commuting to work and school.

SnackSizeRaisin · 22/07/2023 00:00

Whelm · 21/07/2023 23:44

Although numbers are contested, it is widely accepted that 1 in every 50 of the Iraqi population died as a result of violence following the 2003 invasion by foreign armies of which the US and Britain made up by far the largest numbers.
Would you tell an Iraqi who had lost family or friends that they were being unreasonable to hate people from the countries who invaded?

Look closer to home in Northern Ireland...there's still a lot of bad feeling between Catholics and Protestants who have lost family members. Things improving in younger generations now. I think it does take a generation for memories to fade and people to get past these things.

And there is plenty of distrust and people who don't like Muslims as a result of Islamic terrorism. It's a totally normal human reaction, especially for people who are less educated, less well travelled, have fewer material advantages etc.

Lizzie888 · 22/07/2023 00:06

GrinAndVomit · 21/07/2023 23:37

What’s pathetic is to think dropping an atomic bomb on millions of innocent civilians is ok because they were “the bad guys” and not going to give in.

Were we not going to fight until the last man was standing too? Would Japan have been justified in dropping the A bomb on us for similar reasons?

At risk of being patronising they were the bad guys. They, the Germans and the Japanese, started it. If they hadn't there would not have been an atom bomb raid. Let's just think for the sake of argument that the atom bomb likely saved many times more lives than it cost by shortening the war. The question I would put to you is would you sacrifice these countless extra deaths for a political, pacifist principle. You probably would and that is all that is wrong with the arguments of those who would not have dropped the bomb under any circumstances. Let's allow a million to be killed to save a quarter of that number. It's a lunatic idea. I of course wish the atom bomb had never been invented, that WW2 and other wars never happened but they did and sad to say the atom bomb was necessary to bring the war to an end despite the protestations of the ill informed, history revisionists of today!

SnackSizeRaisin · 22/07/2023 00:13

Vintique · 21/07/2023 23:59

Horrific, but different to deliberately nuking a civilian population. If I recall the bomb on Hiroshima was timed for around 9am so that people would be commuting to work and school.

Truly horrific. To be honest I can kind of get why they dropped the first bomb but was there really any need to bomb Nagasaki as well. I guess ultimately governemnts do not care about civilians of other countries. If they did we would not have many of the terrible situations we have around the world to this day

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 22/07/2023 00:14

@GrinAndVomit
"What’s pathetic is to think dropping an atomic bomb on millions of innocent civilians is ok because they were “the bad guys” and not going to give in.

Were we not going to fight until the last man was standing too? Would Japan have been justified in dropping the A bomb on us for similar reasons?"

If at that moment in time you flipped the sides round so the USA/UK/Allies were the brutal, barbaric, hellbent on no surrender ones whilst Japan wasn't & wanted the war to end, then no I wouldn't have blamed Japan on using an atomic bomb.

Like other pp have said although we can abhor what has happened in the past, we are wrong to judge it through modern eyes.
None of us were there at the time (well apart from those who were children/young adults)

And I hate anyone who supports ISIS/DAESH, which isn't surprising considering 2 members of my family luckily escaped being blown to bits at the Manchester Arena Ariana concert.
I don't think I'm being racist as I am aware many Muslims also hate DAESH too.
So I don't despise all people of the Muslim faith or any faith just the ones that support DAESH.

That is because of the times we live in as we have more understanding of different cultures & we see people as individuals not groups.
And I like to think that the majority of human beings are decent, kind people regardless of their religion/culture/skin colour etc

However stick that Manchester bombing back in the 1940/50s & I probably might have been likely to despise anyone of the Muslim faith

MouseMinge · 22/07/2023 00:15

Given that he is reported to have said "I have become Death, destroyer of worlds." when he saw what he had created and that he didn't say it in a pantomime evil villain way, I think it's fair to say that Oppenheimer wasn't evil incarnate. It would have been better for all of us if the atomic bomb had never came into being but at the time he was working on it everyone feared that the Nazi's were a few steps ahead of everyone else. If he hadn't done it someone else would. If not then, then soon after. It was inevitable. The film encompasses all of that and more. You only have to look at the trailers to see that this is not a film glorifying death and destruction.

I'm hoping to see it next week along with the Barbie movie. Apparently you should see Oppenheimer first and then Barbie as a palate cleanser because, surprise, surprise, Oppenheimer is a bit on the dark side.

eath, destroyer of worlds."

saltinesandcoffeecups · 22/07/2023 00:15

user9630721458 · 21/07/2023 23:55

@saltinesandcoffeecups I was devastated by the 'Rape of Nanking,' one description of a Japanese assault on a Chinese girl I will never get out of my mind. But I am still critical of any targeting of civilians during war. I think Kurt Vonnegut was very critical of the bombing of Dresden too, even if it ended the war. It's knowingly killing kids and all sorts of vulnerable, unarmed people.

And that’s a very privileged position to take. I hope you realize that.

LameBorzoi · 22/07/2023 00:29

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 22/07/2023 00:14

@GrinAndVomit
"What’s pathetic is to think dropping an atomic bomb on millions of innocent civilians is ok because they were “the bad guys” and not going to give in.

Were we not going to fight until the last man was standing too? Would Japan have been justified in dropping the A bomb on us for similar reasons?"

If at that moment in time you flipped the sides round so the USA/UK/Allies were the brutal, barbaric, hellbent on no surrender ones whilst Japan wasn't & wanted the war to end, then no I wouldn't have blamed Japan on using an atomic bomb.

Like other pp have said although we can abhor what has happened in the past, we are wrong to judge it through modern eyes.
None of us were there at the time (well apart from those who were children/young adults)

And I hate anyone who supports ISIS/DAESH, which isn't surprising considering 2 members of my family luckily escaped being blown to bits at the Manchester Arena Ariana concert.
I don't think I'm being racist as I am aware many Muslims also hate DAESH too.
So I don't despise all people of the Muslim faith or any faith just the ones that support DAESH.

That is because of the times we live in as we have more understanding of different cultures & we see people as individuals not groups.
And I like to think that the majority of human beings are decent, kind people regardless of their religion/culture/skin colour etc

However stick that Manchester bombing back in the 1940/50s & I probably might have been likely to despise anyone of the Muslim faith

Exactly. You don't equate modern Germany with Nazism. The Imperialist Japanese Goverment was much like the Nazi Government - expansionist and genocidal. If you think of Nazism and Nihon Gonkoku along the same lines, I think it illustrates the fear that the Pacific rim was experiencing at that time.

LameBorzoi · 22/07/2023 00:30

If the UK had had the bomb during world war 2, would dropping it on Berlin have been the right thing to do?

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 22/07/2023 00:33

Oppenheimer was a vocal campaigner against nuclear weapons.

Saschka · 22/07/2023 00:56

LameBorzoi · 22/07/2023 00:30

If the UK had had the bomb during world war 2, would dropping it on Berlin have been the right thing to do?

We thought firebombing Dresden was fine, so probably?

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 22/07/2023 01:00

LameBorzoi · 22/07/2023 00:29

Exactly. You don't equate modern Germany with Nazism. The Imperialist Japanese Goverment was much like the Nazi Government - expansionist and genocidal. If you think of Nazism and Nihon Gonkoku along the same lines, I think it illustrates the fear that the Pacific rim was experiencing at that time.

If I'd have grown up during the war I would have most likely hated all Japanese/Germans because it was a different time then.
Back then we didn't have the understanding & knowledge we have now, although there may have been some outliers like if you'd had a Japanese or German friend/neighbour/spouse you may have seen things a differently.

Back then there was no internet, no tv & the majority of people around the world hadn't a clue about different countries/culture.
Many people fear what they don't know or don't have experience of.
We are very lucky to live now as we know & experience so much more compared to back then.

Hawkins0001 · 22/07/2023 01:01

LKM23 · 21/07/2023 18:23

I haven't seen the film, I'm sure it's a brilliant thriller and will be a Blockbuster hit. I don't think I'll watch it though, it makes my feel really uncomfortable.

It feels like a man who at the end of the day killed thousands of people and damaged millions is being celebrated and turned into a hero.

I lived in Japan for 10 years in my twenties. I visited both Hiroshima and Nagasaki and spent a lot of time with people both directly and indirectly affected by the dropping of the bombs. Those scars are real and still there and will be for a very very long time. It changed Japan and the people who live there forever and at the end of the day I think he was an awful person.

AIBU?

He may have helped to develop the technology but he didn't pull the trigger, he didn't start the war,

The overall question, why go to war, no war no loss of life.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 22/07/2023 01:05

LameBorzoi · 22/07/2023 00:30

If the UK had had the bomb during world war 2, would dropping it on Berlin have been the right thing to do?

Looking at it from the luxury of a 2023 viewpoint, no.

Looking at it from a 1940's viewpoint then yes.

As has been quoted previously on this thread
THE PAST IS A FOREIGN COUNTRY: THEY DO THINGS DIFFERENTLY'

saltinesandcoffeecups · 22/07/2023 01:11

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I actually learned a lot!

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