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To ask about your little rebellions?

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Sensibletrousers · 21/07/2023 09:33

I’m sitting here about to get changed for Zumba and I want to wear shorts but my legs aren’t shaved. I will be wearing shorts anyway. It’s a little rebellion, a tiny “up yours” to the man.

I have always found little ways to rebel (recovering people pleaser) that don’t actually hurt anyone so that I don’t have one massive rebellion and ruin my life one day!!

I also don’t share food, even with my kids, and am unapologetic about it. It’s now a family joke.

What little rebellions do you enjoy?

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Edinvillian · 21/07/2023 13:32

My house is lovely, clean and tidy, while my car is like a skip. It's the only place I can let my slovenly side out.

PollyThePixie · 21/07/2023 13:34

User1706 · 21/07/2023 12:31

Before I was married my initials were KR when some one had asked me a sarky question at work I would wait all day to respond then at 4:59pm respond with a one word answer and sign off

KR,
K.R

I don’t understand this.

EvelynKatie · 21/07/2023 13:35

Sprogonthetyne · 21/07/2023 09:58

I swim into people who try to muscle in on my lane. Not everybody, if It's just busy and can't be helped then I'm as considerate as possible. But the people (usually men) who walk past all men who are often already taking up way more space, then start where they can see me swimming towards them.

Ohhh similar. Groups of students round here who hog the paths and walk towards you and expect you to dive into the road. I continue walking straight ahead on my side of the path....

slashlover · 21/07/2023 13:36

PollyThePixie · 21/07/2023 13:34

I don’t understand this.

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Google says KR = Kind regards.

Squit · 21/07/2023 13:36

I punctiliously keep to the 20mph speed limit through our village.

Lemonyyy · 21/07/2023 13:36

OP I also enjoy going for a run with my hairy legs out. I take plenty of care with my appearance thanks, but I don't always like or want to shave my legs, so I don't. Quite frankly, fuck anyone who assigns some sort of moral value to the arbitrary idea that women should have smooth calves, I look great 😊

Mummysalwaysright · 21/07/2023 13:37

graygoose · 21/07/2023 10:40

I deliberately do things that piss my DH off, like not replace the toilet roll when I'm done, not use foil on baking trays etc. I do 90% of the housework and mental load and it gives me a thrill of satisfaction to see him get annoyed at domestic stuff. We used to share laundry until I kept "forgetting" how he prefers his shirts to hang dry so now he does it all himself.

If you do 90% of the housework, will it not end up being you who has to clean the baking tray?

You sound like you have a beautiful relationship BTW.

butterpuffed · 21/07/2023 13:38

Choccyp1g · 21/07/2023 10:37

I use Sainsbury "bags for life" in Tesco. And vice versa.

Bags for Life can be used anywhere . Mind you , I like to take a Poundland carrier into Waitrose .

Verv · 21/07/2023 13:38

I always hide and mark Stonewall's sponsored ads as "irrelevant" on FB.

Namddf · 21/07/2023 13:42

Roundaboot · 21/07/2023 11:17

When writing formal emails at work, I always do "Dear Madam/Sir" rather than "Sir/Madam". If I have to fill in a paper form and there's a question about "gender" I'll cross it through and write "sex" instead.

And yes, Patriarchy Chicken is great fun! The look of utter bewilderment on men's faces when you don't leap out of their way is delicious!

Stealing this.

Sunmachine · 21/07/2023 13:43

We have a complete misogynist arsehole at work with an unusual surname . I deliberately mispronounce his name and now others have started to do it too in all innocence 😈

takealettermsjones · 21/07/2023 13:45

FlowersInTheSky · 21/07/2023 11:49

It’s a little rebellion, a tiny “up yours” to the man.

That isn’t a “rebellion”. That’s a “hey, look, I don’t take care of myself!”

Literally nobody cares if you shave your legs or not (except maybe potential partners). It just says a lot about you 🤷‍♀️

I take great care of my leg hair, it's beautiful and glorious, and I like to treat it with oil to make it grow faster and comb it into patterns. Don't you? Why - don't you have any pride in your appearance? Tut tut.

FeelingwearyFeeelingsmall · 21/07/2023 13:48

When DH and I were first married we both worked FT and we had agreed we would share HW. However he had come straight to the marital home from living with his Irish mammy so you can imagine how well that worked out.

He used to get undressed at night and leave his socks, underpants and shirt on the floor by the edge of the bed. If they were still there after he left for work the next day I would ball up the socks, smooth out the underpants, hang up the dirty shirt and put them all neatly away with his clean clothes.

it took him weeks to realise what was going on. We've been married over 30 years now and his laundry always finds its way to the basket these days.

blueshoes · 21/07/2023 13:48

When I am about to cross the lights as a pedestrian with the right of way but I see a cyclist trying to jump the lights into my path, I deliberately pretend to not see them and walk in a non-linear way so they have to think about how to avoid me.

One day, I will be knocked over, no doubt 😁

ILookAtTheFloor · 21/07/2023 13:49

Midwife hub wanted to book me a Saturday appointment. Fuck that, I'm not giving up my weekend when I get paid time off for antenatal appointments! I asked can I have a week day instead 😂sorry work!

Agapornis · 21/07/2023 13:51

ModestMoon · 21/07/2023 13:06

I'm sorry, what? Why does not shaving your legs mean you don't take care of yourself? Men don't shave their legs typically, does that mean they also don't care of themselves?

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Well quite. @FlowersInTheSky I'm sorry you suffer from internalised misogyny, maybe work on your self-esteem so you don't feel the need to project your feelings on others.

Mumsday · 21/07/2023 13:52

Carouselfish · 21/07/2023 11:54

Oh, I know this will get flamed but if a cyclist is in front of me on a single track lane and not only doesn't stop to let me pass, but waves me on to pass at numerous blind corners (hoping we'll both die?) when I do get ahead of them and am lucky enough to come to the down side of a hill, I go very, very slowly in front of them so they can't have the fun whizz.

I ADORE this.

VeryQuaintIrene · 21/07/2023 13:52

Dutch1e · 21/07/2023 11:49

My son finds it entertaining to occasionally invite me to game on private servers with him and his loose group of gamer mates from around the world. I stay muted unless I hear anything misogynistic then I unmute and do the Booming Mum Voice of Doom.

DS refuses to ever tell them if I'm online or not so I suppose he's a conspirator in my small rebellion.

I love this so much!

smilesup · 21/07/2023 13:54

FlowersInTheSky · 21/07/2023 11:49

It’s a little rebellion, a tiny “up yours” to the man.

That isn’t a “rebellion”. That’s a “hey, look, I don’t take care of myself!”

Literally nobody cares if you shave your legs or not (except maybe potential partners). It just says a lot about you 🤷‍♀️

I take care of myself but never shave anywhere. Not because I don't look after myself but because I don't buy into society's slightly weird belief that women should be hairless on their bodies. I still look fucking great even with some hair.

SliceOfCakeCupOfTea · 21/07/2023 13:54

My colleague is incredibly vocal about how much he hates Christmas and doesn't agree with it etc. He always kicks off when the Christmas tree goes up and refuses to participate in anything even remotely related to Christmas and often criticises me for buying presents, taking time off work etc.
His partner and kids do celebrate Christmas and I'm friends with her on fb so I always see the posts she makes about Christmas activities, putting their decs up, even one where they were all wearing Christmas jumpers. Whenever he gets on his high horse about Christmas, I make a point to ask if his kids enjoyed seeing Santa this weekend etc.
I once put in a (fake) client meeting on Christmas day and when he asked about it, I told him that since he doesn't agree with or celebrate Christmas, I had RSVP's on his behalf. It was great watching him try to back peddle why he couldn't work.

Arrivederla · 21/07/2023 13:56

magnolia1997 · 21/07/2023 12:57

Similar here - I would 'go heavy' on the mustard 😂

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Why on earth are you making your dhs lunches for them? 🤔

StEtienne93 · 21/07/2023 13:56

DustyLee123 · 21/07/2023 11:41

I’ve refused to ask the ‘gender’ question at work since they changed it from sex.

And me!

TeeBee · 21/07/2023 13:56

Choccyp1g · 21/07/2023 10:37

I use Sainsbury "bags for life" in Tesco. And vice versa.

Oooh, I do something similar. Use my Waitrose bags in Lidl and vice versa. Watch people have ridiculous class meltdowns :-D

Icanttellyouanything · 21/07/2023 13:58

ILookAtTheFloor · 21/07/2023 13:49

Midwife hub wanted to book me a Saturday appointment. Fuck that, I'm not giving up my weekend when I get paid time off for antenatal appointments! I asked can I have a week day instead 😂sorry work!

Physio offered me a 7.45am appointment so that I wouldn't be late for work!!!!

WillowintheUK · 21/07/2023 14:00

Arrivederla · 21/07/2023 13:56

Why on earth are you making your dhs lunches for them? 🤔

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Why not? 😉